Couch 160: The Squeaky Clean Couch!

CW said something similar. Next time someone breaks up with me, I'm gonna use that line.

I mean, seriously. Often someone leaves a therapist after the therapist has had plenty of chances and blown them. But they always try for another chance.

It's manipulative imo: dangling in front of a client the hope of some kind of resolution.

Also, you go, LT.

CW said something similar. Next time someone breaks up with me, I'm gonna use that line.

I mean, seriously. Often someone leaves a therapist after the therapist has had plenty of chances and blown them. But they always try for another chance.

It's manipulative imo: dangling in front of a client the hope of some kind of resolution.

Also, you go, LT.

I don't know what's wrong with me. There's nothing going on in my life right now but I want to cry and I'm anxious and I'm not sleeping well.

So, uh, we basically started termination with MC today...We're not seeing him again for a month and will see how that goes (though he said if we change minds, can call and schedule sooner). Talked about what T had asked me about, had the effective marriage counseling ship sailed a long time ago due to transference. And I said how after the stuff from December, I didn't feel like I could really trust him anymore...He said it could be good for me to stay and work through the conflict with him. I think that actually made me a bit more determined to push through with it.

Texted T from parking lot, seeing him tomorrow afternoon (he rocks!). Was pretty weepy in session and a bit on the way home, but not right now...Though might just be numb, not sure...

And she wants me to rate on a scale of 1 to 10 my trust level in therapists. Gee, what should I put down?

Just printed out Piaf's paperwork.

First of all, it is 24 pages long. Second, large parts of it are not boilerplate but appear to have been drawn up by a lawyer. Third, she details her plan in the event of death or incapacitation and lists her executor.

And she wants me to rate on a scale of 1 to 10 my trust level in therapists. Gee, what should I put down?

ETA: Can't even find any typos.

I think a lot of them believe that working through a conflict is a benefit and that offering to do so is something that is a good thing. I think it is crap, but reading stuff by them where they flat out say it is what leads me to believe they profess such a thing on a regular basis. I don't think mc was trying to pressure but was leaving the door open sort of thing.
There is this guy (who I think is an asshole but many seem to like him)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...n-quit-therapy
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...i-what-why-how
who touts such an idea. There are others but I don't have time to list them now

A quote from the Howes guy (again - I think he an asshole)
Grudge: Given the emotional nature of many therapy issues, it's not surprising that conflicts between therapist and client sometimes occur. If not adequately addressed and resolved in the therapy, some clients bail. Since therapy is where many people go to figure out relationships, this premature ending is both tragic and ironic.

He forgot to mention it also cuts off the cash flow.

From one of the Howes articles--seems applicable to me:
"Beyond specialty, there are also times when interpersonal issues become a barrier to the therapy. In therapy, as in all close relationships, problems with trust, communication, and empathy could render therapy an obstacle rather than a conduit to healing."
and
"One point to consider is whether the obstacle is central to your issues or not...But if you have a fear of heights and your interpersonal issues with the therapist are getting in the way, leaving therapy could be a good option."

From one of the Howes articles--seems applicable to me:
"Beyond specialty, there are also times when interpersonal issues become a barrier to the therapy. In therapy, as in all close relationships, problems with trust, communication, and empathy could render therapy an obstacle rather than a conduit to healing."
and
"One point to consider is whether the obstacle is central to your issues or not...But if you have a fear of heights and your interpersonal issues with the therapist are getting in the way, leaving therapy could be a good option."

I am not advocating you keep seeing mc - I was just pointing out a good many of them believe in the paying them to keep fighting with them thing

From one of the Howes articles--seems applicable to me:
"Beyond specialty, there are also times when interpersonal issues become a barrier to the therapy. In therapy, as in all close relationships, problems with trust, communication, and empathy could render therapy an obstacle rather than a conduit to healing."
and
"One point to consider is whether the obstacle is central to your issues or not...But if you have a fear of heights and your interpersonal issues with the therapist are getting in the way, leaving therapy could be a good option."

The scale is 1-10? I would write down 0.

He forgot to mention it also cuts off the cash flow.

This is it I think. You are there for marriage counselling. Analogous with fear of heights in this quote I think.

In my opinion it's absolutely unethical to not respect the client's autonomy and self determination.

I agree! That's what I wanted from mnqye-t, respect for my autonomy and self determination!! I need to have what I want matter!! And if/when I go back I will say that!