Sunglasses

My T and I have had our last few sessions in a local park as her office is being refurbished.
Because the sun is so bright, she has been wearing sunglasses furing our session, and because of this I am unable to connect with her and leave feeling frustrated and dissatisfied.
Why do I let such a trivial thing get to me?

Does your T do little things like that that gets at you??

Maybe she is not trying to get at you at all? If the sun is bright she is probably just trying to protect her eys.

Someones eyes are so expressive. That may be why you are having such difficulty with it. I know that connecting with someone is so much easier when you can see thier eyes and expression.

Maybe you can suggest somewhere else that is not in the bright sunlight? I really think you need to tell her of the difficulty you are having. I am sure you can come up with a solution.

BB

I would tell her and find a shadier place where she doesn't need to wear them. I remember when I was in group one year and a member wore them (all the time, indoors) and we had a whole session on his "hiding" behind them, etc. Being able to see another person's eyes when you talk to them is very important.

I couldn't tolerate this very well myself. I would have to see her eyes to feel that she's listening, getting me.

Yes mention it to her. It may have not occurred to her at all.