[MoxieDoxie]

I started questioning this after my meet & greet with a new therapist. I even emailed this to my ex-T.

Am I being a drain to the system? Do I need to be in therapy? Am I a danger to myself or others? Im not the way I was when I first came to therapy 6yrs ago...most definitely a danger to myself. Im taking away a time slot from someone who really needs help. I should be able to deal on my own. Is this how we decide if we need to be in therapy?

I keep thinking if I don't go what will my days look like. All I see is me dragging myself around just going through the motions hoping I will die in a car accident. So what need is met that is satisfying a part from therapy? I feel I no longer meet any criteria for a mental health disorder so what then?

I feel like I am going to waste the T's time. What is it that I actually want or expect from him?

Is it wrong to be in therapy if I am not planning on killing myself or harming others?

I can't stop watching this:

[SalingerEsme]

There are a zillion reasons to be in therapy, and it is an investment in yourself if it works for you. There's something called an abundance mentality v scarcity mentality. You're looking through scarcity eyes- like there aren't enough resources to go around, and your time takes away from other's time. In an abundance view, there is plenty of time for you and plenty of time for others too. I lean more to therapy being a somewhat old fashioned and quaint art that is dying slowly like print magazines and books you can hold in your hand. Your participation in it and support of it is good for the therapist, good for you, and good for society.

[MoxieDoxie]

I do not understand what that means.

[Salmon77]

All I see is me dragging myself around just going through the motions hoping I will die in a car accident.

Well, that doesn't sound very healthy or happy at all.

You do not need to be violent or suicidal to seek therapy. Wanting to enjoy your life more is a legit reason.

[stopdog]

I never considered therapy a need. I chose to try it, it did not work for that but I did have a way it was useful and kept going for as long as I found it useful.

[SalingerEsme]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I do not understand what that means.

Lol, sorry.

There is no shortage of therapists or therapy hours run this world, so if it you want to to it, do it with no guilt . Esme

[MoxieDoxie]

I feel like I am not "Sick" enough. I am comparing myself to when I first ended up in therapy. I was very sick and in a world of hurt. I am high functioning so it is called.

[malika138]

Being high functioning doesn't need to be a criterion. There are many high functioning folks in therapy.

[healinginprogress]

For me, it's simple. As long as I'm getting something productive out of therapy I plan on going. I did not start therapy because of self harm or suicide ideation. So, justs because I'm not having those thoughts does not keep me out of therapy.

[maybeblue]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I feel like I am not "Sick" enough. I am comparing myself to when I first ended up in therapy. I was very sick and in a world of hurt. I am high functioning so it is called.

I can understand that. I felt the same way when I started with this new therapist. The other times I started therapy I was pretty bad...seriously depressed with a lot of suicidal ideation. This time I'm not nearly that sick, and I kind of felt bad about that, like I shouldn't be there. But I decided that maybe it's enough that I *want* therapy, because *need* is pretty hard to define.

And maybe getting therapy when we aren't at our "worst" wil help us develop more resilience and keep us from getting there again. Besides, therapists need jobs too. So we are helping keep them employed

[Elio]

I started therapy when I was in a very dark place. I have remained because I see the value in continuing to explore myself to address parts of myself that limit elements of my life. I decided once I was out of that dark place that "if I was going to be alive, I want to live life and not just count down the days until I die" So, I continue to work on resolving things that hold me back in life.

I could stop therapy now. It would be hard as I am very attached to my T. I could do it. It would result in me returning to coping strategies that restrict, limit, and constrict my life (world).

[bounceback]

I haven't been to therapy in a few years after being in it almost constantly for over 20 years. What made me realize that I don't need it is having a therapist who was so much younger than me and knowing I probably knew more about therapy then she did. Not to be cocky or anything just knowing that I had done so much work on boundaries, mindfulness, feelings, anger management, emotional regulation, cognitive distortions, schemas etc. I didn't find her helpful so figured I would try it on my own.

It's a personal thing. I want to be in therapy still. I like the insights.