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My therapist keeps traumatizing me and I’m thinking about calling it quits. It is a little bit difficult because I have been with her for five years. It is bad enough that I don’t think I could possibly trust another therapist after dealing with her. It’s difficult though because I’m going through another depressive episode. I am to a point though that I show up late leave early and I am barely talking to her in session. Today just seem to put the nail in the coffin. I am not even sure I am going to say goodbye I think I may just not go back. In this case I don’t think talking to her about it changes anything. Her apologizing would not change anything and it would be nothing to me so I don’t think I have anything to benefit by going back there.
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I'm sorry.
I felt like my first therapist screwed me up kind of badly. But I've had some decent therapists since then. I wish I had left her sooner though. I am wondering though if this feeling you have of your therapist traumatizing you is recent, or has it been happening on and off for 5 years? The reason I ask is that you mention that you seem to be going through another depressive episode. I know sometimes when I have those, I'm not thinking clearly, and might not always interpret what the therapist is saying very well. But I also know that a bad interaction, or pattern of interactions with a therapist can actually trigger an episode. If you don't go back to therapy, do you have other people you can talk to? |
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I kinda feel you
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What she said could not be misinterpreted. Funny thing is I don’t think she was trying to insult me. I think she’s just that clueless. Sometimes when I am depressed I don’t feel like hanging out with friends and family so if I want to go out to a restaurant movie and I don’t feel like socializing I’ll do so by myself. I have talked to her about this a lot lately, including the possibility of traveling by myself. Today she mentioned not liking a restaurant Because she walked in there for a gift card and they thought she was going to be dining in by herself. She said do I look like that type of person. I just sat there and stared at her. I did not even know what to say .... and yes this has been going on for years it’s not just something new. I am sorry you’re going through something similar bobcat. Change is difficult.
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[QUOTE=Bipolarchic14;6003614 I have talked to her about this a lot lately, including the possibility of traveling by myself. Today she mentioned not liking a restaurant Because she walked in there for a gift card and they thought she wa(s dining by herself).[/QUOTE]
Whoa- that is beyond rude. I hope she had some irony or some playfulness or some other point? I am so sorry. That is so passive aggressive .
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Nope she was actually laughing and offended at the idea that they thought she was going to be eating alone. I really did not say much to her after that I just waited until like five or 10 minutes before my time was ending and was like I’m just gonna leave early. Last time I went to termination with her when I was going to end therapy she was really obnoxious Cold and distant and she would cut me off when I had questions. I don’t really feel like going through all that again.
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Wow, that comment of hers sounds really judgmental, both of you and of anyone who eats (or goes wherever) alone! And I've certainly gone to movies by myself and [gasp] earlier this week went to a rock concert by myself! (And I'm married with a kid.) It's called being independent... I think you need to find a different T who respects who you are and that doesn't seem to expect you to make all the same choices she would...
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I'm wondering if you saw another T once or twice -- I realize it might have to be out of pocket at first if you are seeing your usual T on your insurance -- but I'm wondering if you might see what therapy would be like with someone more kind and considerate than it sounds like your T is. |
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I fired a therapist once by phone. I felt very empowered doing it too...it was a free five minute discussion, with no negotiation. I like the idea of a letter too. You don't have to allow yourself to be further victimized.
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