Should I leave my private Pdoc of 14 years?

I am considering leaving my wonderful private Pdoc of 14 years to go to a clinic for the purpose of getting a case manager...will be hard..Pdoc knows my life story and then some after all...will have to re-tell....
But I do need a case manager to accompany me to the trial against my mother.......(see post in relationships....) what to expect from going to a clinic?

Hi June. I'm not sure I understand it all because I don't know what a case manager is. Is this a person who oversees your medical care? I have several doctors who I work with for my health care (e.g. PCP, dermatologist, ob/gyn, therapist, etc.), but don't have a case manager. I just manage all my doctors myself. Could you hire a case manager and continue to work with your current pdoc? It would be hard to throw away an important and working relationship of 14 years. Maybe just search hard to find a case manager who is willing to work with your current pdoc? Why would a case manager want you to change pdocs? Sorry I have more questions than answers!

I wouldn't leave him, I would talk over the situation with him. I think you can trust him to be "fair" and explain what is going on? 14 years is a long time; I think he likes having you as a patient as much as you enjoy having had the same pdoc for all those years and not having to "start over". Don't let one problem wreck the relationship, see if you can work it out.

it's not just ....'....one problem.....' or a '.....situation....' this is the problem of a lifetime. I've been spending every waking moment goin from agency to agency trying to get someone to help me. I explained it all in my post entitled HELP!! 6 days ago in relationships forum which no one but one responded to my cries for help...........

Hi Junerain, I went to read your other thread. Sounds complicated and I still didn't understand all that was going on. (I don't know what a case manager is for--is it a legal representative for you, kind of like a lawyer?)

My best idea after reading your posts in the other thread is for you to seek legal advice. Maybe alternative dispute resolution would be helpful in your case. This form of legal process gets everyone talking, and can help come up with a solution that works for everyone, and you avoid going to court and so save money (you mentioned your mother would be on trial). You can often get one or a few sessions of free or low cost legal help at a university with a law school. Mention "alternative dispute resolution" and see what they advise. After the first few sessions, they may be able to refer you to a lawyer who will take on your case pro bono (free or reduced rate).

You mentioned in your other thread that your pdoc would not certify you as capable of being your own payee on your disability. Can you talk to him about why not? If he has no good reason, I can see this would cause a serious rift in your relationship and could make you want to change doctors. But maybe he has a reason, and hasn't shared it with you, and maybe a new pdoc would agree with his assessment. So there is no guarantee that going to a new doctor would result in what you want.

Best of luck. Take care.

Hi junerain,

Can you keep both?

Can you get the case manager but continue with your private pdoc? Can private pdoc not testify for you?

Best of luck and lots of hugs.

(((((((Junerain)))))))

I did attempt both lawyers and legal aid...legal aid must have closed down because even though I call during business hours, I get a recording. I do not have a university with a law school in my city. No, I cannot have both my private Pdoc and get a case manager, one has to go to a clinic in order to get a case manager, someone who helps you address issues. My Pdoc sounded so sad when I told him I had to leave him, yet he does not have any good reason to not let me control my own money!! A new clinic may or may not find me with a Pdoc who deems me able to control my own money....but it will get me a case manager..folks this is my MOTHER we're talking about!! This is SO sad!! How did I get a mother like this!!!!!! How can she not let me go to my support group.....my Aunt said a mother that doesnt permit her daughter to go to her support group IS NOT A MOTHER!!!

I went to my last and final appointment with wonderful private Pdoc....to my surprise, he said ,"I want to help you....."Then proceeded to call up my mother.....he had been warned she talks people out of giving up control over my money....he promised not to back down...he DIDNT..after 2 hours of deliberation and into the next 2 slotted appointments..my ***** mother agreed to step down as payee...I Win this %#@&#! fight!!!!!!