Perfume

It recently occurred to me that every time i use or smell a certain perfume that i used to wear when i had a session with my ex T, i think of Him. i dont wear it often or for other occasions so i dont smell it often and thats why the connection has happened...

but still, its a bit weird for me because i think it should happen when i smell "his" perfume, but for me it happens the other way around.

its comfy to me to have something so simple and "mine" to remind me of a T i really loved and still love, and remember Him through something that is actually "mine" - as a perfume can be of anyone…

same goes for a few particular clothing…

He is and will always be with me... in my mind but also in certain objects… its like having physical proof He was, is and will be with me... always

((((Big Hugs))))

I’m sure it was on the news recently that certain aromas, smells and perfume trigger memories the most effectively.

I have the exact same thing with perfume. I have a certain scent that reminds me of our sessions and therefore of him.

Sometimes, a mildly musky old book sort of smell takes me straight to the room where we conduct our sessions.

I began to take photos every day I have a session. These are usually photos of the scenery around the area or very specific things that I associate with my T. I have a photo of the intercom and the door and the street and the bridge before it. If anyone were to stumble across these photos on my phone they'd be seriously confused haha, but to me, they are like treasures. Yes, he's real. Yes, in his own way he's mine. Yes, he'll always be with me. All these things are like little talismans of the connection we have. They help me feel closer to him. I think I have fashioned my own transitional objects that he has no idea of.

It's not purfume and infact I'm not even sure what it is and not really aware of smelling it in the session, but sometimes I will be at work and get a wave of this scent that takes me straight into the room! In one way Its quite comforting but in another it makes me miss being there!

Also there's certain songs I may have listened to on route, and when they come on the radio i instantly think of T!

Yes! sometimes i get those scents out of nowhere too, that make me think of Him, feel Him there, with me... or me there with Him…
and i have taken some pics too….

and there are also some words (some He often uses or the way He says it), His voice, His figure, other songs, tv shows, books, phrases and expressions, texts, dreams, etc. not to mention the place where His office is…

i've accumulated all these things during the years, something i've never done this intensively with anyone else (except family maybe - but thats different). They all reassure me SO MUCH

I have absolutely no idea what either of therapist's smelled like, but I do get out my mother's bottle of perfume every so often when I am missing her. I do the same with my person.