[Fuzzybear]

The T said I was “sounding good”..

There was so much that wasn’t explored .

[satsuma]

Are you seeing a T at the moment? Sorry I can't remember what had happened- I though that you had seen a previous T on the NHS which was limited to a certain number of sessions and also who you didn't find very helpful, and then recently you had been wondering whether to start therapy again.
That is what I have remembered, sorry if I have remembered wrong or misunderstood!

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

The T said I was “sounding good”..

There was so much that wasn’t explored .

I'm sorry your concerns weren't heard. ((((fuzzybear))))

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks both... there are many ways they don’t hear my concerns.

I feel like I have to psychoanalyse them rather than the other way round (t’s in the system in the uk )

I haven’t found one t in the uk who has an ability for active listening. Or even a t who doesn’t run me over in an attempt to ... assist in my recovery.

I’m sure they do exist.. somewhere. I don’t doubt that.

And I don’t blame myself for those t’s in that system who actually are much sicker than I am

But that still leaves me with the question... so yes I’m still wondering... is it a good idea, or not, to trust another t for more than ? Two sessions

[Fuzzybear]

They considered ways to hurt me.. to “speed up” my recovery. This might sound “insane” to some. But it appears to be the “norm” over here. Or varieties of it. JMO.

Please only reply if you have something supportive of me to say. I understand that this experience is very foreign to many. And I completely get that. I did not expect to find..what I found.. in the offices of therapists.

[here today]

Can you, and would you like to, share some of your main concerns or "issues" and the ways that T's have hurt you ? I for one don't doubt that.

I've had a couple of life stressors recently and lucked in to talking to a couple of "peers" on a warm line in my area who get it. They are able to listen and then reflect back what they have heard. And then add something from their own experience which is similar or at least relevant. Do you have anything like that in the UK? I didn't find anything from a quick search but maybe there is something?

Nevertheless, if you don't have that resource I understand you have to try something and I would, too. Hope something works out for you, at least a little.

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by here today

I've had a couple of life stressors recently and lucked in to talking to a couple of "peers" on a warm line in my area who get it.

What's a warm line? Not to derail, just unfamiliar with the term.

[here today]

Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

What's a warm line? Not to derail, just unfamiliar with the term.

Here's one description

Warmlines

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by here today

Here's one description

Warmlines

Thanks! Kit

[Fuzzybear]

I wanted a therapist who wouldn’t add to the harsh bullying superego that my PUs created.. if this makes any sense. I have found the opposite

I am sensitive... I think being sensitive is a good thing.
Being insensitive is a problem...

There is too much blame in this forest attached to being “different”..

I once said to my MU that she was like a distant aunt. Her reply “what’s wrong with that”

I have also found coldness and lack of understanding in therapy.

They set the time limits.. far too harsh and short to help. And they can harm.

So maybe a warmline might be a better option. I do have a couple of good friends who are much better, more active, listeners than any therapist I consulted..

[here today]

IMO, it was probably helpful to get to the "sources" of my problems, the trauma and dissociation, but then rebuilding a personality from fragmented parts needs more of a whole social environment than just one "relationship", just an "attachment", with a therapist. That's my opinion and theory anyway.

(But. . .it was harmful to my ability to function in real time to go digging for those traumas, it took way too long, I didn't understand how other people, including therapists, were able to cause additional pain, because my defense had been to numb it out or turn anger against myself, etc. Two years post last T I'm doing better -- in large part because of the supportive social environments I have found here and elsewhere. Lucky. Sad about folks I know who haven't been, yet.)

I just saw a link in another thread, probably you did too, about the "Ask Kathleen" service available in the UK. Maybe that would help?

I've also seen stuff about the MIND charity in the UK that sounded good, but it also sounds a lot like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) here in the U.S. and to me, I have found that organization to be almost less than helpful.