Couch 189: The Oxford Couch

Today was the worst day of my life. Even worse than losing my dog or my T... because I think I've torn apart the family.... and now I'm trying to figure out how I can see my brother anymore or my mom's dog or even my dog's grave. I wish more than anything I could text T. He could make me laugh. So ridiculous I had to be banned from that.

Maybe it just feels like the worst, idk... I just am now regretting burying my dog at mom's house. I may never get to visit him again

Life happens, most people get that. It will be ok

One fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish. The world is full of therapists.

(And I think you would be well served by seeing someone new and different.)

Did you tell her you came out to H? Or did you just ask for another session?

Artie, I doubt your T is sick of you. I think it's easy for us to think that sometimes of ourselves, but usually other people don't think it of us. HUGS Kit

HUGS @DP_2017 I'm sorry today was so rough. Kit

My boss made it out of surgery and is in recovery. I'm going by the hospital tonight to check on her...but I need to stop by her house though and feed her dog. If I didn't have two kitties and a dog, I would just bring her dog to my house, but I tried that once and my babies were so not having it. Kit

Hugs, I'm so sorry...

Ugh, I messed up today. Trigger warning for TMI and SH

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Thanks. You are probably right.

I'm so sorry that's happening, DP, it must be so hard I know how special your dog was and is to you. I hope you're able to figure something out that works. Hugs.

Hugs shehulk. I'm sorry. Be gentle with yourself.

Hugs, I imagine any mention of your cycle made him not want to ask about it anymore.

So all she said to your coming out to H was "OK?" That seems...odd. Did you schedule a time to see her?

that was all she said. no, i just said i wanted to call to do so when i got back in town.

this is what my mom says/said as well about my dad, but they did end up getting divorced and are better off now.
artie...how can you take advantage of a T? breatthheeeeeee. this is a LOT. I know it was the hardest thing my mom has ever done.

On a different note. Has anyone been afraid that they suddenly will not be able to deal and do something drastic? I've been feeling really awful, and can barely work and blah blah blah...but it feels so untenable. i told my T tonight that it feels like at any moment i will snap and make a stupid decision. I don't know why I am worried about that as I've never done that before, but its like I know i can't feel like this for long.

I do have an appt tomorrow morning for an assessment for the IP place, but i just can't imagine working after...or the rest of the week, or however long it will take to get a spot.

I'm sure he'd love to hear that.

I can never forgive Luna for being right.

You cannot take advantage of a therapist. You pay them for their time. Making an appointment with them is their job.
There are people who are out but remain married and have open arrangements.
I do not find it unusual that the therapist just responded ok. There is not much else to say about it that can't wait until the appointment.

Umm...new cat has not yet arrived, and I've got work to sit on.

My old cat is no help. He thinks I should be able to work just fine while he parades back and forth across my lap sticking his fluffy hindquarters in my face and complaining at me until I stop working and pet him, at which point he decides he really doesn't want my attention after all.

Hmmph.

She’s busy sprawling on the ottoman here and enjoying being called the Ottoman Empress.

Also she thought the TSA might still need time to recover after the last time she flew.

Thanks for your perspective, CE. I told him something along those lines while we were talking earlier and he said that was good to hear.

I dont believe this is something you did to him as such, it's just something you are. If you could turn off your feelings and be what he wanted then maybe you would have done so but you cant shut it off. You are who you are and you deserve happiness like everyone else does. I wish you so much luck in the coming weeks and months, they may not be easy but they are a path to something else. Whatever you decide you know you took a giant step toward honesty and truth and that was so brave.

To be blunt, she probably knew this would happen. I certainly would have bet money on it, and I don't even know you.

I'm not sure how you can take advantage of someone in a fee for service business model.