Couch 189: The Oxford Couch

I know it's different, but sort of similar. I find myself physically attracted to females (not sexually). I always imagined that I'd be happiest with an asexual woman. Sometimes I wish I was gay so I could have a relationship with a woman. My H knows this. I stay with him even though I'm not attracted to him. I'm also emotionally distant with men. I get some of my needs met by my T, least my emotional needs.

I think, someway, you can be yourself and be in your marriage. It's probably going to take some compromising, adjusting, and maybe sacrificing. This is a good time to weight what you value. You might find that you value living your life to reflect who you are is more valuable than your relationship with your H? Or vice versa? Maybe there's ways to satisfy your needs while still being with your husband. Btw, I don't mean having an open marriage, but it might also be an option.

I'm proud of you that you came out to your H. You deserve to be who you are, and you deserve happiness. It might be a confusing, tough road ahead, but you're strong. You can do this. This is a good thing.

I think it would be helpful to try another T.

Sometimes there are no words, I'm sorry you're going through this..

Happy birthday, Dad. I plan to go get a Margarita in my sister's honor. She loved a good Margarita. LOL!

Thanks. Happy birthday, sister!

My brother is stationed overseas (Germany) right now so he's already had his taco bell and sent his pic.

Thanks so much, scarlet.

One way or another... I think it's going to end up being a good thing, too. I am more relaxed with h now that I'm not hiding anything anymore and it seems maybe because of that we're continuing to talk about it all and in some ways finding our friendship again as well. I wonder how many of our other problems we've had were a result of me hiding this for so long in an inadvertent way?

Whatever we end up doing, we're taking it slowly.

I think you may be right.

This place gives me a headache

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Oh good lord.

Art--you know you can actually delete a post, right?

Edit button below the post>>deletion option at the top.

Not on Tapatalk that I can see. But thanks.

Ah, Tapatalk. Such a useful and useless app at the same time. You'd have to do it from the browser on your phone, then. What a pain (I loathe using the browser on my phone).

I have never liked using tapatalk. It was always so confusing to me.

If I'm viewing this site on my phone I just use google safari, never tried Tapatalk .

Same here--I tried Tapatalk once but didn't like it.

How are you holding up LT?

That is awesome that he loved taco bell
So when im gone, i want everybody to open a can of tuna fish to remember me by. Thats gonna be a fun wake.

Huh, I was just thinking about having tuna fish for lunch...

Well it IS sunday... time for church!

Tuna?

I can only hope you are talking about the good, packed in oil, italian imported kind and not the water packed mush that is most prevalent.

Oh that would change things. I had the cheap less than a £1 tuna flake cans you can get from my supermarket pictured in my head.

Well, today was the perfect day to have a poem rejected by a magazine.

My preference these days is starkist wild caught dolphin safe solid yellowfin tuna in olive oil with roasted garlic. The italians havent caught on to the roasted garlic part yet. But my tastebuds are so old and dead i need it.