Couch 191: The Lazy Caterer Couch

If it is the cold blowing kind, the dogs and I wait until it stops. It does help that my dogs don't like getting rained on at all. My friend with labs does not have the same issues as I do with my 75lb weather wussies

The rain stopped! Yeah. Still cold and windy but I can handle that as long it's dry. Once it stopped I kept going until I got a mile in, and now it's time to go back to work.

I think it can be useful when one puts in perspective that a mile is not some major hurdle but is in fact a 14-20 min walk for the most part. Sometimes breaking it up in one's mind is a helpful thing.
When my 80+ yr old parent trains to walk in half marathons, he uses some mental techniques to get him past the 9-10 mile mark which is where he says he gets stuck. He tries to walk 15-16 min. miles

"Weather wussies" is the phrase of the day.

Is it weird/creepy for a married man and single woman to have coffee/lunch and talk a bit? I'm really bad with social stuff so I'm unsure what's acceptable and not

What would be wrong with it?
Don't go looking to make things harder or more complicated than they are.
I do it all the time with co-workers and friends.

Growing up being told it's wrong... it's been stuck in my mind that it is. I don't do much social anything, so I'm not sure what's acceptable and what isn't, I'm still figuring that out and yes I realize I should have years ago

I think it's totally fine.

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Mike Pence wouldnt do it. I guess it depends if its an old fashioned guy or a new age guy, similarly for the woman. Old fashioned morés would have the woman in a burqha accompanied by a male relative. A new age woman would be responsible for her own safety and peace of mind and maybe carry a little gun. Or at least a very loud whistle.

I might be in a weird mood.

It's raining again and super windy and kinda dark outside, the wind is howling between my house and my neighbors... my desk faces a side window so I hear it very well.... sounds a lil spooky...

I just learned in a DBT group today that it is a form of distress intolerance, excessive seeking for validation. I thought that was interesting. It definitely can be learned from parents, society, and trauma.

not at all, unless you feel creepy vibes.

Sometimes it seems like you use the Couch for that too. Not complaining at all, just adding to your observation.

I don’t know that it always has to be inside, it can be learned too.

Ended up taking about a 20 minute walk on my break. I did feel energized for a while but now I'm tired. My muscles hurt in weird places, like the side of my calf hurts. Probably from not exercising a lot to starting to exercise a lot. My muscles are like, what?!!!??! My boss was getting on my nerves. I was glad she was back but then I like wasn't. She left half day but then I had a stupid meeting to go to which was lame. Now I'm just waiting for the mail to see if we got more checks so I can go to the bank for work. I'm not feeling as paranoid as I was earlier. I think I'm feeling ultra chill now. Maybe too chill. Kit

I sure do, don't I.

What do you mean "it can be learned" as opposed to finding it inside?

My Dad has to have a colonoscopy tomorrow. He has a history of tumors and polyps. I'm not really nervous for him but I am a little nervous for him. I hope he doesn't have any tumors. He had to have a bunch of stuff surgically removed last time. Kit

I've know him over a decade and I know his wife somewhat too so no... just wasn't sure on social norms with it all.

I think it would be okay. HUGS Kit

I guess I feel anything can be learned. But in your original context, I don’t think the ability to validate oneself is entirely internal. Some people may be naturally self-confident, but most of us aren’t—we get that way through circumstances and training ourselves.

For instance, I’m not a natural linguist. I don’t have a good basic feel for how languages work. It’s only through decades of training and hard work that I can claim to be anything of an expert on the languages I know.

Hm, interesting, because I do that (validation seeking).

Tell her, "I can't tolerate you." Then she'll have to go home.

My cruise was wonderful and I had a great time. Just jumping back in to the couch. I have to get a colonoscopy and endoscopy at the end of April and neither of my friends can take me so I have to either reschedule or ask my neighbor to take me. Sad because I'm thinking of my mom today.

I never realized before just how much I do it.

Forget social norms - what is your gut telling you? Are you attributing your gut feelings to social norms?