Couch 200: The Bicentennial Couch.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 07, 2019, 03:47 PM

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Safari on iPad.

Ah OK, I'm on Firefox on a Macbook.

susannahsays · Jul 07, 2019, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Louella

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask... should a t have an opinion on what you say? For example I told my t some stuff and I described it as normal but they said that it didn’t sound normal and was abuse. I was a bit taken aback and wasn’t sure if it’s normal for a t to share an opinion like that?

The one I see would do that. She has no qualms about calling people in my past abusive, calling people I am involved with now abusive, and even calling me abusive. Sometimes I like to say that she's obsessed with abuse, but if I'm honest, she has had grounds for all of the times she has said something or somebody was abusive.

Personally, I have no problem with a therapist sharing such an opinion. Whatever they might say about withholding judgement and blah blah, they are all human and have opinions. I'd rather know what those opinions are most of the time. I mean, I don't want her opinion on every little thing, but generally, I wouldn't like it if she withheld her opinions.

susannahsays · Jul 07, 2019, 03:59 PM

I want some banana pudding.

Jul 07, 2019, 04:03 PM

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I want some banana pudding.

That sounds good. I haven't made it in a really long time.

Jul 07, 2019, 04:04 PM

I am really liking this color scheme the more I get done:
Couch 200: The Bicentennial Couch.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 07, 2019, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Louella

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask... should a t have an opinion on what you say? For example I told my t some stuff and I described it as normal but they said that it didn’t sound normal and was abuse. I was a bit taken aback and wasn’t sure if it’s normal for a t to share an opinion like that?

Hm...I don't know.

Possible trigger:

I had an experience with my T where I told him about something that happened in the distant past that I wasn't sure classified as sexual assault. I kind of wanted him to say that it was, but he didn't. When I told him that, he said he didn't want to affect how I classified it. How it was more up to me to determine how I saw it. Which seems kind of the opposite of your T.

But maybe your T thinks you're downplaying something and wants to validate you? I don't know. I think it's a good thing to discuss with her, if it bothered you at all.

Jul 07, 2019, 04:07 PM

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chihirochild · Jul 07, 2019, 04:26 PM

Hiking while on vacation in the Pacific Northwest!

susannahsays · Jul 07, 2019, 04:27 PM

Louella, is what you told the therapist something going on currently, or something in the past? I don't think there's necessarily a should on this subject, although I have read where many people have been hoping their therapists would name their experiences because they would have found that validating - and when their therapists don't, it makes them doubt whether what they experienced was "that bad." So I tend to lean towards the side of therapists voicing an opinion for that reason.

Jul 07, 2019, 04:34 PM

Yay 200 couches who'd a thunk it?

Jul 07, 2019, 04:35 PM

To get to the end you got to through it right? There's no shortcuts.

LostOnTheTrail · Jul 07, 2019, 04:41 PM

Absolutely, BCM. I'm in that space at the moment too.

88Butterfly88 · Jul 07, 2019, 05:11 PM

Thank you for the new couch Lemon!
Couch 200: The Bicentennial Couch.

Jul 07, 2019, 05:23 PM

I have woken up with a cold and it's raining I am miserable I didn't go shopping yesterday just because and now i don't feel up to it and I can here my mother saying whatever she said about putting things off til tomorrow.

Jul 07, 2019, 05:23 PM

My cat is just disgusting.

Jul 07, 2019, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Louella

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask... should a t have an opinion on what you say? For example I told my t some stuff and I described it as normal but they said that it didn’t sound normal and was abuse. I was a bit taken aback and wasn’t sure if it’s normal for a t to share an opinion like that?

The therapist I had usually gave her opinion if she thought I was in denial about something. “No Jersey. That person was not doing that because they were trying to be helpful. They were bullies and narcissistic.” Like they sort of thing. But I also had a habit of telling the therapist to shut her trap.

NP_Complete · Jul 07, 2019, 06:46 PM

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Hiking while on vacation in the Pacific Northwest!

Columbia River?

Jul 07, 2019, 06:46 PM

LT-the paintings are nice.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 07, 2019, 07:10 PM

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LT-the paintings are nice.

Thanks, Jersey!

WarmFuzzySocks · Jul 07, 2019, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Louella

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask... should a t have an opinion on what you say? For example I told my t some stuff and I described it as normal but they said that it didn’t sound normal and was abuse. I was a bit taken aback and wasn’t sure if it’s normal for a t to share an opinion like that?

Pretty normal, I think. My t did. Does. When she disagrees with my assessment of a situation, she says so.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jul 07, 2019, 07:21 PM

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Hiking while on vacation in the Pacific Northwest!

Gorgeous view.

Have fun!

ETA: My guess is the same as NP.

atisketatasket · Jul 07, 2019, 08:36 PM

Microeconomics problem:

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Neha and Teresa are roommates. They spend most of their time studying (of course), but they leave some time for their favorite activities: making pizza and brewing root beer. Neha takes 3 hours to brew a gallon of root beer and 2 hours to make a pizza. Teresa takes 7 hours to brew a gallon of root beer and 5 hours to make a pizza.

What I want to know, why is Teresa so sloooooow? People are hungry and thirsty here!