Couch 203: The Spam and Cool Whip Couch!

Are you sure it was from 2018 and not 1918?

That was the year of the Great Flu Pandemic.

We called it the Spanish Flu. Pandemics werent invented yet.

I went out with my husband for the day and saw a shirt on the boardwalk that says “I pooped today”. I immediately thought of Una.

I have drafted a fantasy football team. I...have a team, that's about all I can say. I had last pick in the draft, so I can blame it partly on that. At least I get to draft for another league tomorrow...

Currently at the in laws because they were having a barbecue. I feel like the black sheep. We're the only ones with kids here, and not one person has said hi to me, only H. It does take 2 to have a conversation and I've been trying to keep an eye on my kids. Still ready to leave.

I cleaned all the things today and I'm exhausted. My neighbor on the side nearest my bedroom is having (another) party with the music vibrating my window. I don't know why it irritates me so much, I used to love a good party, and hosted them every weekend with my ex. I think the music is triggering me because it reminds me of him and those horrible times.

Got my hair cut today and finally convinced her not to trim any off the front and sides. If I hadn't been going for regular trims my hair would have already been shoulder length but I'm struggling to get just a few more centimeters growth to reach jaw length. My oldest daughter saw the hair and called me Karen, but I reminded her I don't have chunky highlights and a horrible attitude.

Hopefully you're all having a restful day, hugs and head-nods as appropriate for the ones dealing with festivals and other struggles.

I didn’t make the playoffs in one of my baseball leagues despite a 41-19 record for the season. We’re kind of imbalanced as a league.

Don’t your drafts snake? Last in one round, first in the next?

I googled the shirts. Theyre cute!

Therapy is the hardest thing we'll ever do in life. And obviously we're not starting from a position of strength and confidence! Why does anyone imagine we can do it without encouragement?

I would enormously discouraged by this reaction from a fellow sufferer. I would nt feel supported at all.

I have a summer cold.. feeling achy, and my asthma is flaring up. I may turn into a whiny baby when I get colds.

T has not replied to my email to him after my initial one that told him I felt like he was doing therapy different now. Which would make sense since I told him I am done with therapy and would contact him if I needed an appointment. So I know he is taking me seriously.

I hate therapy, or I hate relationships, or both? I am not sure.

Feel better! I hope you hear from your t soon.

I don't agree with any of these 3 sentences. I think some people want more encouragement than I ever did -but for me - none of what you wrote is true. So I just don't think this is universal.

That sounds miserable - I hope you feel better soon

Google wizard of Oz touch the red slippers then the tornado

It is midday and I have been up and about doing things finishing off my painting. Feeling better I wish my moods weren't chemically based and I could use positive thinking etc.

Yep, was a snake, so I had to keep picking two in a row. It was a bit chaotic, because my MIL was dropping D off at our house in the middle, I tried to get her from the car, but she wanted H. But it was his pick in the draft. He was 4th, I think, so kind of equal time between picks. And a few people were on autodraft, so went quickly. Have another one tomorrow.

I'm out of town visiting friends (and family later next week) but I emailed my T asking him for an extra session over the phone early in the week. I just feel kind of down... though not nearly as bad as I feel a lot of the time. Mostly (I'm really embarrassed about this) I miss him. Even though I just saw him on Wednesday, and we usually only have weekly sessions.

Therapy is weird.

I remember how you really didn't like him at first. Therapy is weird.

In what kind of world is having to pay your abuser spousal support justice? We were together for about 20 years before we got married, which had a lot to do with him getting on my medical insurance to treat his mental health issues which I thought caused his abuse. I feel like such a fool.

Thats why the wedding vows the judge reads say it is a state not to be entered into lightly. They should give you a copy when you apply for the license. I almost had a freakin heart attack when she said that. They should make you read about Henry the 8th or something as a warning. Only kinda kidding.

That’s outrageous.

Isn’t there some lawyerly way around that? My lawyer never had to use it, but I know he prepared a counterargument in case 2ex tried to make a claim for support.

I don't know. I meet with them in person on Tuesday. They seem to have a lot of experience with domestic violence and sexual assault and seem like they're kind and compassionate. But on the phone call, he seemed to indicate that I would likely have to pay something to get out of this. Mind you, this was just a phone call. He sounded like they would fight for me tooth and nail. But I'm still feeling kind of dejected like I'm going to have to pay him something to get out of this. Part of me thinks that's fair, but part of me is like hell no. Why should I pay him anything after all he put me through.

I also don't want to dredge up all these memories for strangers. I'm so afraid they'll think what he put me through is nothing and will be laughing at me. I really wish I could take my therapist to this consult.

I just noticed, looking round my room, that I have a reluctance to sign my paintings. Most of them are unsigned and once of signed look unconvincing and lack commitment. I wonder what that is about? I might take it to this new T as I am feeling a bit rushed and out of control in the room at the moment.

A new couch isn't christened until a cat deposits a hair all, right?
At least they have stopped scratching it.