Couch 207: The spiced gingerbread couch

JaneTennison1 · Oct 31, 2019, 03:47 PM

no one is too old to t or t at my house. You dressed up and came over?? Have candy! lol

Oct 31, 2019, 04:02 PM

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I'm sorry you're hurting.

Did you take anything for the pain?

I did but i woke this morniing and my nose is still sore and i needd to find a pair of contacts because my glasses hurt my nose.

SheHulk07 · Oct 31, 2019, 05:13 PM

Now I dont feel like taking my kids trick or treating but they want to...even my son who said he didnt want to this morning. I'm in a foul mood and want to sleep.

Oct 31, 2019, 06:05 PM

I made the right call to not buy any candy to hand out. 7pm-trick or treat time for the town I live in is over..and my door bell rang only 2 times since 3 pm

atisketatasket · 06:57 PM

My sister talked with our mother into considering retirement communities near where she (eta: my sister) lives. Which is absolutely the right thing for my mother given this health episode, but means selling the family home.

It won't happen for a while, probably, but once my mother makes a big decision like that she usually follows through.

Oct 31, 2019, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

My sister talked with our mother into considering retirement communities near where she lives. Which is absolutely the right thing for my mother given this health episode, but means selling the family home.

It won't happen for a while, probably, but once my mother makes a big decision like that she usually follows through.

I’m so sorry.

88Butterfly88 · Oct 31, 2019, 07:25 PM

Oct 31, 2019, 07:49 PM

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I am sad things arent looking good for you. Maybe after the gap year you will be refueled and can look at jobs again. I know IT is a very competitive field. Could you look over seas for a job? I am not sure where you are and whether this would be a huge drain on your finances. Any would be better than the FOO yes?

True, better than the FOO, I need to get myself over to my partner's country. I don't qualify as a skilled jobseeker there though.

NP_Complete · Oct 31, 2019, 08:42 PM

My grandparents lived in a retirement community for many years. It was good for them. There were people to socialize with, activities, and as their needs changed, the level of help available to them changed. Your mother might enjoy the change of scenery.

Has your family home been your home for a long time?

NP_Complete · Oct 31, 2019, 08:47 PM

Apparently, STBEx may or may not have been served with all the papers he was supposed to be served with, so my lawyers have had to resend everything, essentially setting the divorce process back a month. I'm not sure the county sheriff's office that serves the papers is entirely competent. This is a little annoying.

atisketatasket · Oct 31, 2019, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

My grandparents lived in a retirement community for many years. It was good for them. There were people to socialize with, activities, and as their needs changed, the level of help available to them changed. Your mother might enjoy the change of scenery.

Has your family home been your home for a long time?

I do think it’ll be good for her. Especially if the area is walkable and she can find an art group nearby.

It was my grandparents’ house, so yes. I’ll come around to the idea—my siblings don’t want it, and it’s kind of a monstrosity for just one person like me. It just feels like one of the few physical anchors I have left.

I’m sorry about the paper serving screw up. Being divorced from STBEx will be worth it, though.

unaluna · Oct 31, 2019, 09:40 PM

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True, better than the FOO, I need to get myself over to my partner's country. I don't qualify as a skilled jobseeker there though.

Re your prev post - i cant believe - well actually i can, unfortunately! - that it took a man with twice your years of experience to replace you. Thats your TRUE seniority, in "man-years".

Oct 31, 2019, 09:46 PM

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Re your prev post - i cant believe - well actually i can, unfortunately! - that it took a man with twice your years of experience to replace you. Thats your TRUE seniority, in "man-years".

That's a REALLY good point, una! He's earning definitely more than double my take home pay after taxes and such too. Even more since they'll recognise his work experience. They didn't recognise my past 5 years BEFORE I joined as it was in a slightly related field (web development) even though it came in handy at the job, but yeah I didn't see a pay increase in the 5 years I worked in my organisation too.

(I roughly know how the pay scale in my organisation goes.)

JaneTennison1 · Oct 31, 2019, 09:48 PM

Kidlet got to be Elsa for half an hour and then switched to his firefighter dress up costume because it was so cold and wet. He was THRILLED to be Elsa, so I'm really happy for him.

stopdog · Oct 31, 2019, 09:53 PM

ATAT - it is hard to lose an anchor even where it is the best plan.

Oct 31, 2019, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

My two new best friends and the people I spend the most time with have a dating but not dating scenario, and I often feel like a third wheel between the two of them especially when they're kissing and all over each other.

This week they had a fight. She didn't tell me about it, but just said that she was going to spend less time with him and not give him so much attention. I said "good, if you had space you could get over him and fall in love with somebody new" and I told her before that we accept the love we think we deserve.

Two days ago he knocked on my door and asked me to tell him if we had plans to meet up anywhere- so he could tag along and "accidentally" meet her- which I did. So at the coffee shop today whilst me and her were working on our presentation for tomorrow- in between joking it got serious he said he was angry at me because I had said that to her that it was about her finding someone better than him, that it hurt him. That she had said to him that he didn't treat her well and that she had accepted it.That I was coming between them and that I was an enemy dressed as a friend. That I did it so that I could spend more time with her. (I'm not in love with her).

We were pally when we left at maybe 7.50pm. They invited me to come to a bar with them for drinks which I declined so they could be alone.

(This is the guy who was nicknamed creepy by R because he would make sexual jokes with me but it's always been him who checks up on me, and brought me food when I was ill. )

I don't know how to handle this- other than to just take a step back from the both of them- a bit hard as she's in my group.

Hugs if wanted. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

SheHulk07 · Nov 01, 2019, 12:22 AM

Ugh seems like both my girls are sick with fevers and coughing. They only hit a few houses then were too tired and cold to do more. My mom and stepdad are supposed to take me out to lunch tomorrow, but I think I rather sleep or do homework. I haven't told them about the CPS thing, and worried that they'll be judgemental about it.

WarmFuzzySocks · Nov 01, 2019, 01:46 AM

Couch, it was a really sh**** day. The not-soon (enough) to-be ex and I had what was supposed to be our final mediation session.

I really do try to find the very best in the people around me. But today...pretty sure my rose-colored glasses just broke. I told my therapist: You know how you're not supposed to let other people steal your joy? Well, I can't hang onto it. My joy keeps getting stolen.

Still not divorced. Obvs.

Nov 01, 2019, 05:09 AM

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Couch, it was a really sh**** day. The not-soon (enough) to-be ex and I had what was supposed to be our final mediation session.

I really do try to find the very best in the people around me. But today...pretty sure my rose-colored glasses just broke. I told my therapist: You know how you're not supposed to let other people steal your joy? Well, I can't hang onto it. My joy keeps getting stolen.

Still not divorced. Obvs.

Oh. Warm fuzzy socks. I’m so sorry. I wish I could give you a big boundary breaking hug in person.

atisketatasket · Nov 01, 2019, 05:42 AM

((WFS))

It’s hard when the rose-colored glasses break.

And it will be worth it to be divorced in the end.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 01, 2019, 05:54 AM

Hugs, WFS...

06:27 AM

ATAT? You’re up early..

Nov 01, 2019, 05:57 AM

Time for work. School is closed all next week. That will be the week that either makes or breaks this job. I have to come up with enough activities for them to cover that 3 hours he isn’t in school.