Couch 209: The Kummer Couch

Do you know for sure that the one hour charge that you saw on your account was for the half hour call yesterday? My bank account rarely updates that quickly. It seems pretty odd that she would start charging for phone calls without talking about it first. I can see why you're upset, and also it seems like this warrants going to session to talk to her about it before you end the relationship.

I find it strange a hospital has little support on the weekends. I hope you make it through until Monday okay.

Sometimes the 'Articles for You' list that shows when you open up a new tab of chrome on mobile is such ****. Why would I need to know the food hygiene ratings of 67 pizzerias in Somerset, which is a county in England, when I am in the Southeastern US and have never stepped foot outside the continental United States in my life?

ETA - Nobody go to Alba Ristorante Italiano or La Capricciosa.

In my jurisdiction - the hospitals don't have anything going on on weekends - no social workers (thank god -I hate having to talk to them about a client) or administrators - just nurses pushing meds and the mds on weekend duty. I usually would visit clients on weekends because no one else was around.

I didn't notice/care what day my birthday was celebrated on when I was a kid. We often put them off (everybody - mom, dad, me, sibling would all have our birthdays on different days at times) a few days or so because of my father's travel. Out of the stuff to complain about my parents for - that one doesn't come up for me and the sibling when we compare notes. We always would have cake, presents, gathering etc at some point - it was not big deal whether it was on the exact date or not.

We weren`t going to celebrate his birthday on that day anyway because it was a school day, and he was aware of that. He got to bring cupcakes to school to celebrate, but everything else was going to be done probably next weekend anyway.

I want a yellow cupcake with chocolate buttercream. And pizza.

Just not from La Capricciosa.

Grades are submitted. Now preparing to travel with the TSA’s favorite feline, new cat, who is taunting me by lying quietly in her carrier hours before she actually has to be in it. Will she be in it when I want her to be? No, she will not.

Movie was awesome and kid was so ecstatic
excited in his Elsa dress
So so pumped

I have now been in bed for 2 days. My head hurts.

I just get pet sitters. I am not nearly intrepid enough to travel with my cats on airplanes. Or in cars. Or bicycles.
I hate dealing with airports and airplane personnel and tsa - adding a cat into the mix would not make it better.
Plus it gives me a reason not to be gone from home for more than a week. And usually I prefer to be gone only 3 days if I have to be gone at all.
If I ever won the lottery (hard because I don't buy tickets) I would spend it all traveling on private jets.
But still without the cats.

L finally called (at 10:30am). She said she didn't email because I told her not to (which I understand), but that she called because it's our agreement and she wasn't going to cancel my appointments without talking to me first. She said that she'll fight for me to stay even if I say I don't want to, and that it will take more than one session before she agrees to just let me go <3

The billing was not an error per se. She did not bill me for yesterday's or todays phone calls. It's our agreement that the first 15mins are free and if she is going to charge me, she'd tell me first. So what I saw that was labeled 12/14 was actually my session on 12/13. She said it doesn't bill till the next day which is why it said 12/14.

We talked a little about what we can do when I run out of money. She listed a bunch of things. She said no matter what, she has to charge me to see her (no pro bono), but that can be a really low fee. But she said she's not leaving me even if I do run out of money. She said the first goal would be to work on housing, the second an income, and third getting me back to seeing her. Makes me feel really good.

I feel bad for the misunderstanding, but she told me she understands. She said that "fear brain" can be so strong and overpowering. And it makes sense that this would upset me so much because I've worked hard to trust her and T, and the fear of losing my supports are so strong and valid.

I told her in the beginning that I don't feel like she understands. She said she'll do everything in her power to try to understand what I'm going through, dealing with, and feeling.

So all is well. I'm glad. I really love her and need her. I need to trust her more.

I'm glad you heard from L, Scarlet, and that everything is OK.

I thought you were calling me names and making comments about my culinary skills again. Then i read the rest of the thread

Eta - why dont they just call the place pot luck? Sounds like they named the place after somebody's crabby granny. If my ma was in a bad mood or mad at us kids for something, dinner got burnt! And i mean when we were grown up.

Do cats fly in the cabin with the passengers? Do airlines warn other passengers that there are going to be cats on board? I'm curious because I'm annoyingly allergic to cats and I can generally tell when one is near me by the ever increasing itching on the roof of my mouth followed by the other normal allergy symptoms. I'm not going to die, but it's not pleasant. Seems like the recirculated air wouldn't help either. I think it's fine to fly with pets, but I also think the airline should inform people if one is going to be on board.

Speaking of cats, I'm having trouble figuring out what to do with the grey cat while I'm away for Christmas. I'll be gone too long to just leave her with a bunch of food and water. I don't have the money to board her or pay someone to come feed her. I can't leave food outside for her because the chickens will eat it.

I need to get out of bed and shower... unfortunately, I have waited all day and now it's nighttime and it's cold because I can't afford heat so getting out of the shower is going to be unpleasant.

I should find something to eat, as well. Yesterday, I had a bowl of instant mash. Very wholesome and nutritious. There's a bag of stale old oyster crackers on my nightstand, but I think I'd rather have nothing than resort to them.

I've somehow ended up on some family's group text. Apparently there's a secret santa happening at Grandma's house. Just now someone sent a picture of a cute puppy. I'm tempted to just go along with it and pretend I'm part of the family and respond.

Lol yes do it. I got accidentally added to some teenage boys' group text one time. I didn't say anything. I was bored at work because I was doing some tedious workstation OS upgrades which involved a lot of sitting and waiting. They eventually noticed and started freaking out because they had been talking about girls they liked. Then I did respond to reassure them that no, we did not know each other.

It’s happened. You might become friends for life.

Grandmother'''s Accidental Thanksgiving Text to Random Teen Leads to Heartwarming Viral Story

Hey couchies. Finally finished Christmas shopping and even wrapped a couple. Went to visit my oldest daughter today and she shopped til she dropped, fell asleep with her head in my lap this evening. I miss her so much at times, but I'm so proud of how far she's come and how much she's accomplished. I can realize now that this is what we do as moms. Raise them with love and teach them as much as we can and set them free and watch them soar. (Bittersweet because I wasn't free to soar, but at least I didn't repeat that with my girls.)

I'm still bedridden, but my bladder is starting to protest.

At least I got some Christmas ordering done. Got my dad a sous-vide thingy. Had it in mind ever since SD mentioned trying sous-vide ages ago. Ordered my grandma some slippers and my aunt a book. Some stocking stuff for the dogs.

Oh and some super expensive soap one of my uncles likes.

Getting up today is looking like a lost cause.