Couch 216: The Baseball Couch

i just saw him in a movie today, i was watching "Something's gotta give" also with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton.

These are all my feelings exactly. Which is funny considering we are at such different places in our lives. F'r instance, your in front of a box of chocolates.

Then we wouldnt have had all those sad Keanu memes

h is now in there playing online slots, so at least his computer is making noise. t in 7 minutes.

An almost empty box of chocolates.

Hey, like Erma Bombeck said, if life is a bowl of cherries, why am I in the pits?

Just hung up from my session. The video thing didn't work, I signed in at 3:58 and sat there waiting but nothing happened for a few minutes I just thought she was running late, then she called and said where are you? i'm like i'm logged in where are you? and we fiddled around with our computers a little trying to get it working but it wouldn't. Oh well, we did lots of phone sessions in the past so we just went with it and talked on the phone. Did some good work with my dreams of the past few nights and it got very emotional for me near the end cuz I was in a very young place and she said a couple things little artie really needed to hear so then I laid down on my couch and just started bawling with my phone on one ear. It was a good cry and I needed it. Good, emotional session.
eta: she said a couple kinda harsh things too but dammit they were true and I know it and her saying them helped me realize some stuff. Maybe that's why I cried so hard near the end of the call because of the nurturing stuff she said. Is there such a thing as grandmaternal transference?

Yep, you're right it very much is important to me. This afternoon we didn't talk much about what I'd emailed her last week because of that very thing she said she thinks that we really would need to be able to see each other for that conversation. Apparently I've regressed a bit. Not surprising, i suppose with everything going on right now.

Una just read that thye are auctioning off a Zoom date with Keanu, dig behind the back of your couch and put a bid in

Perhaps I should alert Dr. T that he is intended to be the savior of us all. No pressure!

I should not procrastinate. I should not procrastinate. Think if I say it enough times I'll actually listen? To be fair, I did all my discussions for my 2 classes and turned them in in Saturday and Monday. Then yesterday I did my replies for participation in one class. But I had 2 paper and 3 replies for my other class due tonight. Got 1 paper and the discussions done so far. Last thing I'm working on in a model case study. I'm using myself with some changes in information for it which is making it a little easier to complete. Only less than 400 more words to go and I'll be finished and about 4 more hours to complete it in.

I can do it. I can do it. I can do it.
*Gets off the baseball couch*

I would spend the whole time hyperventilating!!

Tomorrow is my last day of PHP. The therapists and pdoc there have commented on the progress I’ve made, but I’m still nervous about not having the support. But eventually I have to go back to the real world. The agency I work for is giving Friday as a holiday, so I’m going back to work on Monday.

Y'all I am so fed up with this Spanish professor. She is so full of ****. I have my oral final tomorrow morning and was going over my tests. She gave me 0/4 points for not giving a single response to the question: How is your family? There was nothing wrong with what I wrote, the reason she did not give credit was because the question was how "is" your family, not how "are" your family. Apparently I'm an idiot for answering the question by stating that my parents, sister, aunts, uncles, some grandparents, etc. are well but two of my grandparents are not well. Her comment was that "is/are = one description."

And honestly, you never even know what's expected with a question like that. If you write too little, you get dinged for that. But I really could not have imagined she would take issue with me answering more specifically than just parroting the question back and tacking a "bien" onto the end.

And yeah, "family" might be singular but I very much doubt Spanish speakers ever respond "it's fine" when asked how their family is, as if they're referring to a singular thing. That makes her criticism unfair to me. I'm dying to ask this professor that but she already hates me and is looking for any way to hurt my grades.

Is there some reason that a therapist might choose to consistently use the term "sexual assault" instead of "rape"? Is "rape" too emotionally laden? Does it connotate a stranger-in-an-alley situation? I'm genuinely curious how people view these two terms.

I prefer SA to the other, and have asked therapists to observe that. Maybe it’s a common request.

(I actually usually just end up using the A part only. I never liked the R word even before it happened. It’s an ugly word to me. It even sounds ugly. It means total powerlessness. So, sure, maybe it’s emotionally laden.)

Same here. I despise the R word and will rarely use it unless I'm trying to make light of the situation with my cousin. I had an ex T years ago that wanted me to repeat over and over I thought it was inappropriate and way too triggering for me so I request that a T not use that term with me.

I finished it all and submitted it a few hours before the deadline. I have 1 more week left of one class, and then I'll be back to only 1 class at a time.

I asked my ex to talk to our daughter who wants to leave school and he must have because she ran out of the house and is lying on the front path hugging a teddy. I went out to make sure she was ok and it looked like she needed some alone time. I hate that i dont know what to do in these situations, i used to ask my ex when the girls were younger and said do what my mum would do and thought what? Sit really still stare into space and ignore everything. We never spoke of my childhood and he had a cuddly mum

I am so ****ed. My internet went out a bit before 1am. It came back on for like 10 minutes around 3, then went away again. I am so worried because I have this stupid oral final exam at 8am. And this professor says technology failures are no excuse. But wtf am I supposed to do?? I don't think my cell signal is strong enough for zoom.

And I haven't been able to focus on studying all night because I'm so busy worrying.

Why can't you just fix everything

Technology failure is not your fault but i did have an IT lecturer who wouldnt accept thatmy computer crapped itself just as i was backing up my assessment having lost the last disc when my 5 year old frisbeed it over the fence.

Im not in the US so cant offer an alternative good luck susanne

It's back on. Hopefully it will stay that way!

NP, regarding your question: My T has used the R word. I was kind of trying to talk around something, and I think his using it sort of jarred me into reality. I emailed him about it afterward, saying basically that. He replied saying how he knows it's a strong word, but sometimes we have to label things honestly, or something like that. I would imagine in general that T's try to sort of follow the client's lead, like use the language they do. Mine tends to be more direct than most T's. But I could never see him asking a client to do what SheHulk put in her trigger warning.

I guess I can sort of understand technology failures not being an excuse under what we used to know as normal circumstances, but during a pandemic when campuses are still closed and we're supposed to be staying at home, you'd think they'd have a little compassion. I'm sorry susanna i hope it stays on!