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#577
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One good thing is that they recently announced that they're going to require masks in schools again (they start in a few weeks). However, they're going to be at full capacity (unlike when they reopened for hybrid in the spring), so for lunch, it will be a big group of students in the cafeteria, unmasked while eating/drinking. My D really needs some in-school services due to her being on the autism spectrum (she did very poorly with distance learning), so I'm very torn on what the schools should do. Honestly, my preference would be for them to do something like they did in the spring, with classrooms at half capacity (some students at home doing virtual learning), distanced in the cafeteria, and priority for in-person for those students who have a greater need for services (like D). So I'm very anxious about it all...And my D is 10, so no vaccine allowed for her yet (while Dr. T's son is vaccinated, because he's old enough). I've heard mixed things about when it could be available for her, from early fall to mid-winter. |
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#578
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![]() Some people do have trouble processing math too. Just in case he does come back, maybe having a written copy with each step explained and laid out would help him instead of him being shown on the spot?
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#579
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In other words, the odds are with you if you want to keep in-person. |
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#580
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There's a bigger issue which is he wants a raise and he isn't getting one anytime soon (no one has been given one). He's gotten two since the new company took over which is two years ago, so that's pretty good. He feels that he is underpaid which may or may not be true and he is "fighting the system" at this point and I am part of "the system" so he is being a particularly difficult pill. If he comes back, I'll write out each step for him so he can see it. I just was over dealing with him earlier. He is my least favorite coworker because he is always a pill. There's always something wrong. Someone is always slighting him, etc. I need to grow some more patience because I use it all up dealing with him. I'm less perturbed by it now. It's a minor inconvenience of my day. I just kind of wish I had taken the mental health day but maybe I will take one next week.
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#581
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#582
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#583
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Yes, I see. I'm just trying to think of ways to help my Mom. She has memory issues. With her short term memory and unfortunately she watches a lot of news and Covid is being replayed over and over on the news and I think it is sticking with her more than stuff that she isn't hearing as much about. We've been going to first service at Church which maybe 20 people attend rather than 2nd service which maybe 60 people attend, and have been staying away from crowded areas and she wears her mask when she goes shopping and stuff. I really think she's going to be okay. Statistically. But if she does catch the Covid, I think her chances of survival are good because of the vaccine so it might be a pain for a while but I think she'll recover. This is all just what I think, nothing proven. But I don't know how to make her feel more safe. Then again, I don't know how to make myself feel more safe when I am paranoid either. Maybe she needs a Dr. K.
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#584
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Just looked at my work email on my lunch break, I see that overtime is coming soon. Sounds like next week already, to help take calls one morning a week. We have a meeting that starts right when I get back from lunch in 2 minutes. Guess I'll find out here in a few minutes! I wonder how many of my teammates will ***** and moan about it. I am thankful that I have found a better attitude about helping with phone calls. I am much more at peace lately because of it.
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#585
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Artie, I just wanted to say you sound like you've been feeling really good lately. Like really good, really upbeat, really excited about therapy and life! You do sound like you are at peace with your work situation. Way to go you! You sound like you are doing really, really well. HUGS Kit
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#586
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Yeah, things like what happened in Provincetown (where a whole bunch of vaccinated people got it and a few ended up hospitalized) seem to conflict with that, but there may have been other factors at play or it was just a complete outlier. |
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#587
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My parents are flying back home today after being in town for about a week. It was just awful timing for them to come, because I’ve just moved across the country, started a new fellowship, and was on an intense rotation at work. (I told them to wait and come later but they didn’t.) I was seeing them every day after work and now I’m totally exhausted.
T was getting on me, saying that I shouldn’t feel resentful because I didn’t set sufficiently clear boundaries with them. But it’s not like they asked me when would be a good time and we mutually agreed on a date; they just told me when they were coming and expected me to be available. I could have said that I wasn’t going to see them every evening or could have refused to see family on my one day off (Sunday). The reason I didn’t is because whenever I set boundaries with my mother she explodes and becomes intolerably over-emotional and demanding and that causes me suffering; the suffering of being exhausted seeing my parents is less than the suffering of my mother in that state. (She’s got me trained pretty well, huh?) I get that it’s my responsibility to set boundaries, but it’s also my mother’s responsibility to listen to me when I tell her not to come, and to behave like a frigging adult. |
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#588
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Next session is on the 19th, Cake. Thanks for the kind words.
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'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#589
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Thanks so much, Kit. It really feels like the whole of my almost 10 years of therapy has just been finally, finally coming together or something in the past month. As L said last time "Well, you're a slow cooker" I suppose I am. It's taken a realllllly long time but I feel like I'm finally getting to where I want to be despite myself (meaning, all the times I tried to quit therapy but thankfully ended up going back). And I'm not going anywhere as far as therapy is concerned until I'm sure this is gonna "stick"! |
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#590
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Break time! Well the meeting went pretty well, we found out we have to help on phones on Mondays all day and on Fridays as scheduled for the foreseeable future, and the overtime is strictly to work our normal job. There wasn't too much complaint, actually, probably because our director was on the call, so that was good. They completely rearranged our chat schedule too, so I'm in live chat again next week even though I just did it last week. Oh well, it's all good! Variety is the spice of life, and all that! haha.
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#591
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Not really—the Provincetown data is based on a smallish non-random sample. A UK study out just recently, randomized and with more subjects, suggests that vaccinated people, even if symptomatic, shed less virus than the non-vaccinated.
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#592
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OK, that's helpful to know, thanks! |
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#593
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Wow next week I have two therapy appointments on the same day. I have a chat session with J at 12 Noon on Tuesday and then a video session with Dr. K at 4 PM. (I've told neither about the other.) This will be weird and strange but ultimately, hopefully, helpful. Doubling up!
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#594
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Also: ![]() The only way to set a boundary is to say what you will or will not do. You can't control the other person. But then the tricky part is to be about to withstand the emotional outburst or other consequences without feeling like it will destroy you. It gets easier over time, but it can feel intolerable at first, especially with your parents. |
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#595
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I have so many microwave soups in my fridge because i based my post vaccination recover on the first shot. I will have to look and see if they are able to be frozen. I just cant eat that many soups.
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#596
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I agree with you — I am allowed to feel resentful, though it would be wise if I also recognized what part of the situation I may have contributed to or could have changed. I’m trying to think if I would have made a different decision if I’d thought more carefully about it, and I really wouldn’t have — my mom freaking out is extremely stressful for me (I wish that weren’t the case, but it is), and I just don’t have the bandwidth to tolerate that right now. Maybe next time this comes up (and I’m fairly certain it will!) I’ll think about it again and come to a different conclusion. But maybe not. |
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#597
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#598
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Chihiro - my mother always went balls to the wall, you should pardon the expression. Everything was a matter of life and death. There were a couple of times i discussed past situations i was unhappy with, and she just blamed me, saying if i had "really" felt strongly about something, i would have found a way to do it, no matter what she said. Still, that did not make a difference in her attitude towards toward future conflicts. Its always, "just this one time, do it my way." Meanwhile you (i) get zero times your way. There is no compromise.
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#599
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One of the warnings on my office chair is do not use on stairs
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#600
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One of my favorites, and this may just be a US thing because we advertise drugs over here, is "don't take drug X if you're allergic to X". Do we seriously need to tell people this?
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