[Rive.]

It is pretty much the end of a dreary 2021.

Looking to 2022, I was wondering.. If you could wish for anything - either from your therapy or from your therapist what would you wish for? I am talking about things like direction of therapy or how you wish your therapist would be with you, or say etc.

If your wishes could be granted, what would you like to 'receive' going forward?

[Waterbear]

I wish I could merge the two therapists I tried out together! They both have some good qualities, bit neither is seemingly right on their own, which is a huge shame. I have no idea of a way forwards but yeah, I wish I could merge them, or work with both of them.

I raised the possibility with one, and like ed it to seeing a doctor and a physiotherapist at the same time. Like both complement the other. I need one for trauma work and one for the attachment and ASD stuff I am still finding my way with. She got it, and said she didn't have an answer as to why it isn't allowed, but that it just isn't, or something like that!! I'm glad she didn't try and make something up, but was frustrated all the same....

Decisions to be made at some point next year I think. Good question!!

[LonesomeTonight]

The problem is, for me to really get the wish I want, it would require greater changes in the country (US) and world--for Covid to subside so that, at least by the spring, we could resume in-person sessions (and eventually, shaking hands at the end of session).

[ArtieTheSequal]

I already got my biggest wish re: therapy, and I'm super grateful for that.

If I had to wish something for 2022 re: therapy I would have to say, it would be a wish for L to reconsider saying no to writing me a closing/goodbye letter and write me one. (Which would never happen but...)

[ScarletPimpernel]

My one and only wish is that she won't move. She still doesn't know if she's going to.

[*Beth*]

A good question.

I wish my therapist would choose a treatment plan and stick with it. Every session she changes things..."We're going to be doing some trauma work for awhile"..."We're going to work on mindfulness for a while"...by the next session, she's changed her mind. So I guess consistency is what I'd like. That and her cancelling sessions a few hours before the scheduled time.

[East17]

My biggest wish is that ex-T would make a miraculous recovery and resume working.

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I wish I felt able to cut contact with her.

[Mountaindewed]

My wish is that we will not go back to remote sessions. I have a session this morning that is in person but I'm not sure what she will say regarding furthur appointments.

I also wish I had more time with the therapist I had before I moved. I wish we had gone back to in person so she could have seen my trasition as it was happening since she was the one who got me started.

I wish I didn't have these feelings.

[Just42dayK]

I wish T would continue to be open and our relationship continue to grow. Even though we've worked together forever, I wish I could feel and keep his presence in my heart even when I'm having a tough time. I wish is 2022 I could be more emotionally independent and connected.

While it's not a direction of treatment, I also wish I could hear that pre Covid, vacation, joy/lightness in his voice that's been a bit faint lately.

[Rive.]

That sounds tough Waterbear... I also don’t understand why some(?) therapists frown with seeing 2 different professionals. Part of me can see the ‘conflict’ in some instances but I believe it is up to the client. In your situation, I think it is sad they can’t get on board with this idea. I hope you see, or find, a way forward that is supportive for you through all of this.

I hear you LT. Going online seems a big loss for you. And with the current state of the world, meeting in person seems even more precarious. I hope you can still feel connected online with your T and his ‘crazy’ shirts! (I don't mean to downplay the loss of in-person)

I admire your courage-strength-progress Artie re your therapy. I would *not* be able to do what you did. And I am sorry L did not give you the letter you wished for..

I am sorry Scarlet. That sounds really painful... Your T seems such a keeper and I feel the heartbreak at potentially ‘losing’ her. I hope she stays..

Goodness BethRags, this sounds pretty unsettling. Is there any way you could ‘remind’ her – ‘dear T, could we work on X as we agreed last week’? And cancelling sucks, especially when she tends to be out so much..

I am sorry East17. I can’t imagine how painful that must be for you. In no way comparable but I hope you currently have support to help you through?

comrademoomoo – that sounds like a painful place to me. I may be projecting as this is also where I am at, with my T..

Mountainweed. It is unfortunate that you didn’t find the closure (for lack of a better word) you needed with ex-T. That seems to make it hard to move forward.

[ArtieTheSequal]

"I admire your courage-strength-progress Artie re your therapy. I would *not* be able to do what you did. And I am sorry L did not give you the letter you wished for.."

Thanks Rive.

[Taylor27]

I wish my therapist would contact me. My wish for next year is to build enough coping skills to do EMDR with my therapist.

[NP_Complete]

I wish that we weren't going to have to stop therapy mid-year. Life isn't fair.

[Folding]

Up until my last session just before thanksgiving, I would have wished for things to continue on the path they were going. I had settled into a comfortable spot and we were slowly starting to unravel some things from my past. But since I haven't had a session since then and I don't know what's going on, now my wish is just that everything is ok, that my sessions will resume soon and that I can find a way back to feeling safe and comfortable.

I also wish I could have a do-over with my last therapist. Even just a chance to say a proper goodbye.

[SprinkL3]

I wish that...

1. My therapist would choose to move to a different state that I want to move to because I can't stand living in this state anymore.
2. My therapist wouldn't retire for another 3 to 5 years.
3. That my therapist would learn and understand racial traumas more.
4. That my therapist would understand my immunocompromising and high-risk conditions more.
5. That this pandemic were over so that I could see my therapist in person again.
6. That my therapist remains healthy and safe from any pathogen, virus, disease, etc.
7. That I could find some epiphany or breakthrough in therapy with my current therapist.

I really like my therapist, and she's the best I've had out of all the therapists I've had. I just worry a lot these days. There's not much that I wish for, but I wish for the impossible. This pandemic isn't going to end, my therapist is likely to retire soon, and my therapist is unlikely to move to a different state. If and when I move, I won't be able to see her online anymore, as this state doesn't allow therapists to cross state lines for online therapy.

[*Beth*]

Originally Posted by Rive.

That sounds tough Waterbear... I also don’t understand why some(?) therapists frown with seeing 2 different professionals. Part of me can see the ‘conflict’ in some instances but I believe it is up to the client. In your situation, I think it is sad they can’t get on board with this idea. I hope you see, or find, a way forward that is supportive for you through all of this.

I hear you LT. Going online seems a big loss for you. And with the current state of the world, meeting in person seems even more precarious. I hope you can still feel connected online with your T and his ‘crazy’ shirts! (I don't mean to downplay the loss of in-person)

I admire your courage-strength-progress Artie re your therapy. I would *not* be able to do what you did. And I am sorry L did not give you the letter you wished for..

I am sorry Scarlet. That sounds really painful... Your T seems such a keeper and I feel the heartbreak at potentially ‘losing’ her. I hope she stays..

Goodness BethRags, this sounds pretty unsettling. Is there any way you could ‘remind’ her – ‘dear T, could we work on X as we agreed last week’? And cancelling sucks, especially when she tends to be out so much..

I am sorry East17. I can’t imagine how painful that must be for you. In no way comparable but I hope you currently have support to help you through?

comrademoomoo – that sounds like a painful place to me. I may be projecting as this is also where I am at, with my T..

Mountainweed. It is unfortunate that you didn’t find the closure (for lack of a better word) you needed with ex-T. That seems to make it hard to move forward.

Thank you Rive I needed to hear that.

[Elio]

1. Going back to in person with the schedule we had (without masks)
2. Her to initiate play

[ScarletPimpernel]

What's your wish Rive?

[Omers]

I wish our time together (length of sessions and number per week) was dictated by what we agreed would be best for me rather than finances.

[Rive.]

Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

What's your wish Rive?

Thank you, Scarlet Pimpernel... You know, I was supposed to answer my own question (in my head) as I posted this thread. I still haven’t. There is too much pain in my heart to contemplate my own question.

[Waterbear]

Oh Rive, I'm sorry to hear you are in so much pain. It's hard. It's all really hard. I hope you can take care of yourself while you manage life right now, whatever is going on for you.

[Rive.]

Thank you Waterbear. Really appreciate your post, especially knowing (reading) how much pain you are also in. All the best to you too!

[LostOnTheTrail]

My wish is that we will be able to have the conversations I need to have whilst in the same room.

[HopeForChange]

I wish I could form a secure attachment to my therapist. She is so consistent and kind, but I have never had a secure attachment to anyone, so I'm not sure it's possible.