Im graduating soon (in July) and will be losing my therapist here. I'm so sad. We dont talk about it but its so hard. i am just now openning up to here and i hate that I have to leave. I've been b&p allot lately and know thats why. Today I saw blood. Losing my T makes me feel like this is all pointless. I know that isnt true, but its hard for me to accept life without her. I cant believe im this sad, but i will have seen her for 3 years when i leave. but somehow it feels like shes leaving me. :-(

[Perna]

Esther, you should talk about it with her. I saw my T for 9 years and had to leave because I was moving. It was a really hard experience. But later, I was able to see her again so you never know; she may leave and become self-employed, etc. You should talk to her about leaving and how sad it makes you and your worries and work on a plan for after. Too, you should tell her to make sure she gives you a call if she goes out on her own, etc. you might like to work with her privately, etc.

When I terminated end-of-June in 2005, I worked hard all of 2005 up until then to figure out how to be ready. It works much better (or it did for me) facing it and talking about it and getting the hurt sorted, etc. I know what you mean about it feels like she's leaving. That's a good thing to talk about.

[Fuzzybear]

awww I'm so sorry you'll be having to leave your therapist, and that this brings up painful feelings of abandonment (completely understandable to me) You'll be able to keep the good you've gained through therapy with you while you grieve for the loss. It shows how much you've grown that you're opening up to her! Take special care of you hon
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[Kiya]

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Thanks you three. I'm not sure why it just started grading on me today. I feel like I am so alone. I'm not looking forward to moving, but I'm trying to see it as an opportunity.

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Hugs to you! Take care.

[Monty_girl]

I was in this very same sitution when I graduated back in Dec of 2001. I had been with that T for 2 years and been dx'ed DID by that T. I was very close to them and was completely lost when I had to end T because of graduating. I thought that I could make it on my own and didn't need a T. Just scared to start over with someone new I think. But I found someone in 8/02 and been with that T ever since. The new T has helped me even more then my old T ever did. So might think about seeing a new T.

See if your T can refer you to someone they think might be of help. Even if you don't end up seeing them, at least you have a name and number of someone who could help. Just get some kind of back up plan if you need. Last thing that you need in a time of crisis is trying to find a T.

It took me 4 T's to find the one I have now. With a dx of DID a lot of T's didn't want to work with me. Just get some plans set just in case is my advice. Much Luck to you. I know this is a hard time to deal with.

[tsha]

Can you and your T work together to find your new T? Maybe start transitioning over to your new T while still with your current one?

[MissCharlotte]

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Moving and losing a T at the same time? I don't know how you hold it together so well!

Lots of hugs and thoughts to you.

Please stay in touch. Personally, I like the idea of having T help you find someone new to transition.

Peace