T is gone til next Wednesday.

We had a session this evening. I was very open with him and told him that one of the hardest parts of him going away is not that I won't have his support, but that I have to deal with the reality that he has a life and that's really, really painful. He told me that although he won't be checking his messages with as much frequency as he normally does, he would still be checking and would return calls-- and that I could call the office phone or his cell phone. I have never called his cell phone before. He said it is the phone he uses for business, but I always felt like it is this huge boundary violation. I said to him, "What happens if I call your cell phone and you pick up?" And he goes, "I will probably push the button on my cell phone and say-- Hello? And then we will talk." LOL I told him how part of me felt guilty about calling during his time away because it feels like I would be ruining his week, but there is always this part of me that fantasizes he will be having an awful time. I told him that I have a fantasy that he will have an "Easter Disaster" and that when he opens his chocolate bunny it will be melted and all his Easter eggs will be smashed. We talked about how even here, I am still holding two feelings for him at the same time-- although I have these fantasies, I am also concerned for him and don't want to be a burden during his week off. He told me that I can call and he expects two check-ins from me during the week and he will call back. This is easier than when he went away during the summer because during that vacation he wasn't returning any phone calls. It was really cute because when I was in his office he made me get up and come to his desk... then he gave me the phone and dialed his own voicemail to listen to the vacation message he had put on-- to hear that there was, in fact, a return date. I'm going to miss him a whole lot.

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. I said to him, "What happens if I call your cell phone and you pick up?" And he goes, "I will probably push the button on my cell phone and say-- Hello? And then we will talk." LOL .

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LOL

I love your T......

pinksoil

It sounds like you and T have it all worked out so you'll stay connected during this time.

I love how he had you listen to his message!! I know just what you mean about the return date; when my T was gone during the holidays, her message said when she would return and just hearing that she will return, and when, was really comforting for me.

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I said to him, "What happens if I call your cell phone and you pick up?" And he goes, "I will probably push the button on my cell phone and say-- Hello? And then we will talk."

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my T gave me her cell phone # after about 1 year.....I usually have to leave a message, but she always calls back....

It's really exciting to see people who have progressed in therapy, that it really works. Congrats to you! Oh, does the Easter Disaster include his wife with the crooked nose, wart, varicose veins and such? Just wondering, LOL. No matter how better we get, I think some things will stay the same. Like the appearances of our T's significant others, LOL.

"It was really cute because when I was in his office he made me get up and come to his desk... then he gave me the phone and dialed his own voicemail to listen to the vacation message he had put on-- to hear that there was, in fact, a return date. "

that does help a lot. T is the one who told me when my MD would be back - and that it was important that I know that as well as that T has all the emergency info just incase.

((((((((((Pinkksoil))))))))))

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then he gave me the phone and dialed his own voicemail to listen to the vacation message he had put on-- to hear that there was, in fact, a return date. I'm going to miss him a whole lot.

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That is the cutest thing! What a reinforcement. It reminds me of last summer when T went on vacation:

Me What if you don't come back?
T I'm coming back
Me What if I don't come back?
T You're coming back, and I'm coming back so we can continue our work together.

Sigh. I know your T is coming back so you two can continue your important work together and it sounds like you do too! Yay! I know you will miss him. Is there anything at all you can get out of the missing? (No, I haven't been able to do this.)

So, when will you call him? Hmmmm, can you call him twice on the machine and then twice on the cell just to check?

Peace