Trigger icon placed for mention of SI and very mild sexual content

I barely call helplines, but if I am in a really bad state at night where I have already SI'ed, but the urge is not gone, I will call in an effort to stop any further harm. Usually they don't say anything helpful-- they just ask generic questions and make generic suggestions that I have heard 1000 times-- but the act of just talking to someone helps to get me away from harming myself.

Well last night I was doing something really stupid and I knew that I needed distract myself. I called a new number that I got off of the S.A.F.E website.

It quickly became evident that the man had not a clue how to handle SI. First, he said, "You sound like a nice girl." Then he asked, "Do you have friends?" I told him I was married and he said, "Oh you're married and yet you still do this?" He asked me what I get out of doing it. I told him my reasons and he said, "Oh, so is it like sex for you?" Then he asked me, "Do you get off from it?"

At that point, I lost all ability to be my usual self who would have completely fired back at him. I went totally speechless and just hung up the phone.

I do not know his name so I don't know if I can report him. I am not sure if I should call back and ask for a supervisor so that I can tell them the exact time I called and the description of the person's voice.

It's amazing how many times I can reach out for help and get screwed. What a sick %#@&#!.

[HALLIEBETH87]

yuck.

[Fuzzybear]

ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[MissCharlotte]

Ugh.

What a piece of %#@&#!.

So sorry you experienced that when you needed kindness and understanding, empathy and an ear.

(((Pinksoil)))

[HALLIEBETH87]

i cant/will not call helplines because of responses i have gotten such as:

dont u think u should tell ur parents? how can u get help if they dont know?

ummm NOOOOOOO.

and i fear theyll come lock me up. everytime i call they ask if they can send someone to check on me

[Soidhonia]

Pink you should call and report this person. They have obviously Not been trained correctly in this field. I hope things get better for you soon. Take care. Soidhonia

[Razzleberry]

Wonder if he's related to that psychologist I saw in March.....

Sickos

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Wonder if he's related to that psychologist I saw in March.....

Sickos

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I was actually thinking about you, Razzle! It reminded me of your story.

Oh my goodness!! That person needs to be reported. I haven't had much luck calling those crisis lines either.

[lauren_helene]

Wow Pink on so many levels that is plain sick and wrong. Report him please!

I called to report this man. I spoke to a woman on the phone-- I asked her if there was someone else I should be speaking to and she said, "You can talk to me." So I told her that I called someone last night and the questions were very inappropriate. She said, "Okay, thank you-- I'll note that down"-- but didn't ask what the questions were. So I told her. And she said, "Oh. Thank you for telling us. Is there anything else you want to talk about?" I said no. She said, "Don't let this deter you from calling our helpline in the future-- there are many people who work here."

Yeah right. I called twice so far and got two assholes.

She didn't even care. I'd like to report the whole %#@&#! helpline.

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((( pinksoil )))))))))))))))

Oh wow. That's awful. Awful. What are we supposed to do when we're in crisis? I called a line one time and the girl was eating something and didn't really say anything. So I hung up.

[sunrise]

Pinksoil, that guy was a creep.

On your second call, when the chick asked if there was anything else, I guess you could have asked for an action plan. Or asked for the supervisor to call you back. For stuff like this, it is good to speak to the supervisor. Who knows, that chick maybe didn't even write down your complaint or immediately shared it with the creep, who might be her best friend and could have been sitting next to her at that moment on another phone. I think it can also be effective to make a complaint in writing. Then there is a paper trail.

I'm sorry you had this yucky experience.

((((((((((((((((((( pinksoil ))))))))))))))))))))

wow, I'm sorry that happened to you.

[BrnEyedGrl]

That sucks and at the same time it is really scary. I mean what type of people do they have running these places, jeez!!!

Im sorry you experienced that kind of lousy treatment, I think maybe a supervisor should know. (Hopefully that was not her.)

[Kiya]

yeah, report it to a manager and start a paper trail, good ideas sunrise

[ECHOES]

I called once at a time I was so broken down I should have been at the ER.

The guy sounded like he was reading: "List of questions to ask. Ask them without any inflection whatsoever. Ask them in this order; do not deviate and do not ad-lib."

Yeah, that's what I was needing.

I told him he was absolutely no help at all.

Probably has his cognitive/behavioral therapy practice going by now.

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Probably has his cognitive/behavioral therapy practice going by now.

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[happysappy]

Just wondering why you called this service instead of your wonderful T? It seems like he would be more helpful to you.

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Just wondering why you called this service instead of your wonderful T? It seems like he would be more helpful to you.

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Cause my T isn't awake at 2 AM, lol. Like I explained in my original post, I need immediate interaction to stop further SI.

[sunrise]

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Probably has his cognitive/behavioral therapy practice going by now.

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[happysappy]

"Cause my T isn't awake at 2 AM, lol. Like I explained in my original post, I need immediate interaction to stop further SI."

I am sorry I didn't read this in your post anywhere I even looked again, I was just wondering why you didn't call your T. I am not criticizing you, I just thought you would call him instead of a hotline.

I thought you could call a T anytime that it is that important, to save you from doing worse. I know T's don't like that, but it is part of their job when they are on call. I know my T said I could call anytime, maybe not all T's do this? My T has a answering service where they screen the calls to see if it is an emergency which your sounded like it was.

I am curious about what to say to someone in that situation of wanting to do worse to themselves. What can you say that helps them not go further? Or is it more important to keep them occupied or distracted?

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I thought you could call a T anytime that it is that important, to save you from doing worse. I know T's don't like that, but it is part of their job when they are on call. I know my T said I could call anytime, maybe not all T's do this? My T has a answering service where they screen the calls to see if it is an emergency which your sounded like it was.

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I can call or email my T whenever I want, for whatever reason I want. However, the best I can do at 2 AM is leave him a message. He will call me back in the morning. There is no emergency service.

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Or is it more important to keep them occupied or distracted?

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In my case, I just need to be distracted. I need to talk to someone at that moment. My husband told me yesterday that it's okay to wake him up. I never felt comfortable doing so. I don't want to scare him.