Any suggestions on what to write on Ts holiday card

I think this it an important piece. I think I now have a little bit better understanding of what a secure relationship is because I have regain at least some sense of Self. BTW...I still remember you giving me the recommendation to read the Patricia Evans book...WOW! that book was very important.

I found this comment interesting...because when I think back to the first few months of therapy... I had no interest in being attached to anyone. I just wanted to get my kids out of harms way so I wouldn't feel like a crappy parent anymore and move on. But there is not doubt that for some reason I cared a great deal about her opinion of me. ??? Maybe it was some transference thing or maybe one of my ego states liked her but I was too brain dead to realize it. Whatever it was I'm glad I struck it out.

havnt sent my t a card - got stuck in the confusion - shall i shant i - is it appropriate - am i crossing a line? funny card , not funny card ? all too much for this rabbit in the headlights - maybe next year! me still in therapy next year

Are you giving your T the gift of not hearing from you til after the holiday. I think mine might like one too

Ok, I'm on my way out to do some stuff and I think I am going to get T a funny card. I hope I can find a card that is sincerely funny and not one of those cheesy ones.

Seriously, the quote you wrote here is amazing.

I have had a lot of silence in Th lately. So much so, that my T and I have recently talked about it, her frustration with it even. I am frustrated with it too. But then having the space to have the silence has been healing.....

Chaotic-I might have to steal your quote for my holiday card to T....

It's Gunilla's not mine. I found it while browsing this site:http://www.spiritualityandpractice.com/

This is what silence uncovered for me:

Kiya, every time I read your reply here, or think about it, I laugh. Thanks!

Holy crap, I forgot to buy the card. Maybe this is a sign to not get one at all. Well, my session is on Tuesday so I can get it tomorrow after work-- IF I remember. I seem to keep 'forgetting.'

Pink...Valentines day is just around the corner.

I saw a great card - not a holiday one though it said

"Is willing to accept that she makes her own reality,
but somtimes wonders what the hell she was thinking!"

Ugh, lol. That would be hilarious if I got him one of those GIANT Valentine's Day cards. I'm going to try to remember to get this card after work... Actually I'm going to put it in my Palm phone right now, so it beeps to remind me right as I'm walking out the door... Uhggghghghghhhhhhh

I brought T some Christmas candy I made. He ate it But not ALL of it

We hugged and told each other Merry Christmas - no cards!!

To Know Me Is To Love Me...

What Do You think About That?

Lenny

How about "Merry Christmas from Your Favorite Client EVER"

LOL !!!!!

Without your reflection
I'd be a shadow of my former self

how about ...

To hear you is to know me

no? okay..

Without you
I would not exist

groan....

or

Thank you for helping me see
what I already have
So that I may always know
I could have had a new car

moving right along.....

Patricia

I actually take this seriously.

I dedicated this to my first T . Unfortunately there was a major glitch that prevented his ever being able to see it .



Patricia 2003

Wow, Patricia. Tell us about this, please.

I think we need an Art thread. I'd love to see how others express what is in their head. And what things they share with their T's. Can you tell I'm a visual learner :-)

I still haven't written T's card

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What if you take a sheet of notebook paper, and just start writing, with no judgment or expectations?? Just take a minute to get centered and then write whatever pops into your head, no matter how silly it seems. When I do this (T has me do it to process anger sometimes), I am supposed to pick a number of pages and not stop until I hit that number - I usually pick 5, but I write HUGE and with crayons because I am angry Maybe you could pick 2 or something.

Just see what comes out. And then re-read and see if there is anything in there you want to put on T's card.

Is it that you don't know what to say, or you are afraid of the vulnerability of expressing your feelings? I think, honestly, in the end, the second reason (vulnerability) was what actually stopped me from giving T a card. Which is so silly (for me) because T knows how much I love him, and where am I more vulnerable than in therapy anyway??

Good luck. And you don't HAVE to send a card if you don't want to, and that's okay too!