Dating Someone Else

Hi,I was Just looking for Advice on how to Deal With When The One you care about is Dating Someone Else? I"m having A Tough Time With This.

(((((Feelingsad))))) I don't know what to say to you other than I'm sorry and I know how painful that is. I think most people have that rotten, lousy experience. Some day you will be dating the "right" one and you won't have to go through this again. Until then just try to keep busy, hang out with friends or family, get involved with any hobbies you enjoy... ya know, just have to wait til you stop hurting. I'm sorry.

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i agree with pom, also its like that old saying "time heals all wounds" you need to take time to reflect, allow your self something like 5 minutes a day to be sad, then take the rest of the day to focus on you and making yourself happy. hope this helps

Thanks Guys,This is really hard , I just care alot, So My heart hurts. I much rather be alone than try dating. Hurts too much

feeling sad, that is like the worst feeling...like a kind of rejection. I recently went through that. Hugs to you!

Awww... I know how this feels.. The girl of my dreams who I dated for a year is now with someone else I believe. She tries to deny it, but she is always flirting with him and told me how perfect he is and that she loves him.. It is so hard.. I know that more than anyone. Love sucks, it really does.. It causes a lot of pain and heartache..

I only have small advice for you. The best way to deal with this, and it's been said numerous times, is to date someone else yourself. The best cure to get over someone, is to be with someone. Just make sure you let them know that you got out of a tough relationship, and you aren't sure if you're ready for a long-term emotional one. I know it's hard, but you have to move on.. I am trying too. I'm in the same vote as you. I sit here and cry just reading these things because it reminds me of my ex.. However, you never know what is going to happen.. Perhaps both of you dating someone else will make you fall for each other again some time, and maybe you'll have him/her back.. Wish you the best, and if you need someone else who just had a bad breakup to talk to let me know.

I dont think or want to really date anyone .Right now I just spend time with family and friends,usually haning out at homewatching movies or something. Crying issort of a prob now. My heart is still with this guy so Its not fair to date someone else when I would be using them.Staying away from that. Thanks for the love Guys.

Thanks Emotionally Dead, your words meant alot. With The Moving on thing, For others that means prob dating someone else.For me, It means I want to be alone. So Just dealing with that.Thanks for your kind words.

don't worry, you are not alone in this situation...I'm in the same boat as you...I want him so much, and he's rejecting me....well, things weren't quiet working between us as he was cool and have lots of girls around him...I couldn't bare with that!
now, tomorrow is my birthday and I'm single still...I see he has new girls on his facebook every single day....I think things that are working for guys are not working for girls!
I will suggest you to do exercise...It helps a lot...music, art, painting, dancing....all helps...just don't give up on yourself....
besides, you don't know about future...you will find somebody and then you will laugh at this post here

best wishes
Marjan

First Off HAPPY BIRTHDAY mARJAN!!! hAVE A GREAT BDAY, i KNOW ITS HARD, BUT tREAT YOURSELF TO A GREAT DAY! You Deserve it! Second , I am so sorry your going through the same thing,I am there now too,So def understand the feeling.You too, Hang in. Exercise is good, I sing , So I Try and focus on that and I love writing so I do that too. Sometimes it helps get my mind off stuff and then sometimes I just cry.But Im trying to do better. I def wont laugh at your post lol. means alot , you reached out to me.Thing Is I know this Guy I will be friends with always and always care about him, So learning to deal is what I have to do.Your right, never know what the future holds, but like you , Def dont want to date at all now. So Your idea and everyone elses to do hobbies is a good one.

Life will go on no matter what we do...It's better to choose to be happy and peaceful rather than sad and disturb....to be happy is better to eliminate those who are taking our happiness away even though we like them...what is this liking? liking somebody who makes you misrable? what is the friendship with such a person even? that's not a friendship...the basic of friendship is to care about each other and be for each other...if that gets violated, then there is no friendship left!
I'm getting stronger after my birthday....now that he didn't say happy birthday to me, I know for fact that he stopped all communication with me....he showed me that he doesn't care about me at all even as a friend....well, I want to get rid of him too....I'm rolling back the time now....I blocked those girls who are his friends and added me to facebook after me start dating with him....now I got rid of three of them so far....and tonight, I'm going to block one more....then very soon, he will go to my block list...although, I might see him in the dance class, but I'm giving myself time to delete him from my memory completely and remove all the emotional attachments....then I'm more relaxed to see him and be around him even in the class!
Anyway, stay strong and you will find that special person....you don't need to go dating right now....I'm not into dating stuff right now either...I can't just jump from one relationship to the other one...it doesn't work for me...we need to heal and get our positive energy back, then good and positive people will get attracted to us

take care and love yourself
Marjan

You are doing Good Girl,Your very strong. Yep agree on the Dating stuff, Im the same way. Honestly I dont care about finding that special person.
I would rather be alone. I know I will always care about him , we will be friends for life. He is there for me as a friend, So thankfully hes not a jerk.
Its a complicated situation but We are there for each other as friends and hewill always be in my life, he is like family with my family. He doesnt make me miserable, its just the complicated situation. Hes always been a dear friend to me , we have a long history together. Hes not just a guy I met .
We became close friends before anything else. So I just try and take it day by day and hope things work out. Im glad you are doing better.
Take care also, you deserve wonderful things.

Oh, if you guys were friends before, then it means a lot...most likely he has the same kind of feelings towards you....but what can we do sometimes people move on quickly....
about me being strong...oh gosh...I'm not a strong person, I wish I was...it's just sometimes I'm in a good mood and I write positive stuff...right now, I'm so damaged thinking about my loneliness and him being so happy making friends here and there....I love to make some guy friends but it's really difficult....once I try to make just a friend, they want to go out and date with me and I refuse then I'm all alone too....
Today, I saw a picture from my teacher's facebook and most likely he introduced another girl to them....I went to the girl profile and she's a new friend of them...she's not pretty at all, but she looks a decent girl....anyway, none of my business, but I don't know why I'm getting jealous...It's like I can't take the rejection
anyway...your situation is different if he used to be a friend and still he's there for you....my guy is a total jerk...he ignores me everywhere and treats me as he doesn't know me at all....I wish I could tell him how disgusting his behaviour is...he makes me more angry
take care
Marjan