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Old Jun 22, 2010, 03:47 AM
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Have to really agree with Ms Futz here Isadora...

He's a boyfriend not a husband...and if you wed him I would be really very concerned,

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Old Jun 22, 2010, 05:20 AM
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Old Jun 26, 2010, 02:58 AM
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Hey you guys things got a little worst then i thought :'(
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Old Jun 26, 2010, 10:22 AM
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They probably haven't gotten any worse than I thought. It does end eventually. How it ends is up to you. You want to get some help now? I have a lot of resources that may be of help. I was also wondering if it has gotten to the point when he makes it so you can't leave him? I would also be pretty careful because sooner or later he will cut off your access to the internet if you stay with him too long. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. But I am sending good thoughts and prayers your way.
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Old Jun 26, 2010, 10:56 AM
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Take care of yourself, isadora. Be safe.
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Old Jun 27, 2010, 01:18 PM
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Well it got a little worst cause there was a little drama in my family but least night him and i were talking about the problems we were having and we are working on that. I been better thanks
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Old Jun 27, 2010, 09:31 PM
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 02:30 AM
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I been better. I told him i was showing my love for him and soo he can trust me. I dont know but sometimes i feel sad out of nowhere i feel lonely i dont know why
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 06:14 AM
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Sad and lonely are not good emotions/feelings. Is there anything we can help with? I found the more that I wrote the better I felt.
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 08:39 PM
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Well i think i been so stress cause of family problems and little arugements with my boyfriend and to top it of i have alot of homework.
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 08:41 PM
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Well i think i been so stress cause of family problems and little arugements with my boyfriend and to top it of i have alot of homework.
Homework and study are important... you need to concentrate on that
Don't stress over the little arguments.. concentrate on the bigger picture if you can
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 09:19 PM
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Are not daily criticisms from your friend a given? Sorry there are family problems and so much homework.

Good luck, isadora.
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Old Jun 28, 2010, 09:32 PM
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Thanks you guys im trying to ignore the problems ill keep you guys posted on whats going on..
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 02:56 PM
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Just checking on you Isadora. How are things going?
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 05:51 PM
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I been okay. Well he deleted my facebook and my email.
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 06:20 PM
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Without your permission, he deleted your facebook and email accounts? What is the reason you cling to this person?

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You friend is deliberately attempting to eradicate or compromise the separate identity of another person, you. It is called soul murder.

isadora, run from this person. He will continue to hurt you if you stay.
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 06:39 PM
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the power & control wheel
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 06:42 PM
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He told me he was goin to delete them cause i had been thru alot of drama with my family about this picture he put on myspace. And my family saw it and they were all up in my bussiness
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 07:15 PM
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((Isadora))

I just want to tell you a sotry of what happened to my bestfriend.
She met this guy (we both knew him) he chased her and finally they became boyfriend and girlfriend. It seemed SO sweet that he always wanted to know what she was doing, that when we wnet out he wanted to drop us off and pick us up from where ever we went... he was protective, loving and in control...
Take note of the word 'control'...
There were signs everywhere that he was controlling but we saw it as loving.
They went and worked in India for 9 months.. when she didn't want to be there anymore he took her passport off her so that she couldn't come back to Australia...
Warning sign that we still didn't really see... we saw it as he just wanted her to be there with him...
They ended up married and he had controlled her and changed her so much that she had a breakdown...
It took her a LONG time to free herself from him.

I know that it's a different story than yours but you need to be aware of the signs that can seem loving but are really possesive....

If the facebook etc needed to be deleted and you wanted it to be.. then you would have done it yourself...

Take care of you first and fore most. You are the only person that shuld be making decisions for you...

And keep writting here.

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Old Jul 01, 2010, 07:52 PM
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I know im always checking any aware of sign of control. I have told him if you ever do something bad to me i will leave you and forget about you. He has told me that he will never do something to hurt me. He says he wants me to be happy. The reason i couldnt delete my facebook is because i cant on my cell phone.
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 08:58 PM
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He already is abusing you.
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 09:53 PM
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Maybe you can tell us the things he does that seem loving and sweet, and the bad things too, and we can sort them out with you, reality v. illusion
I know it's really hard and confusing to see clearly sometimes.
Keep us updated, talking it out always helps. Everyone on here is gonna be there for you.
I hope you feel better.
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Old Jul 01, 2010, 10:55 PM
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Well whenever im sick or something he always make sure how im doin what i need, if i need to go to the doctor. He's respectful if i have a problem he's always there for me. Sometimes he gets mad for no reason. When i have family problems i feel trap and it seems i cant get out of there.
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Old Jul 02, 2010, 05:16 PM
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Isadora, I posted about him isolating you from family and friends. This is one of the first things perpetrators do. It is all about power and control. To them power and control IS love sweetie. No one diservers this. Next step is escalating their negative behavior to see what works and what doesn't on you. Please do what you have to get away from him. Use us, your family, friends, domestic violence agencies. Remember, this is not your fault. There is no shame in this. It can happen to anyone. Please keep posting.
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Old Jul 02, 2010, 05:33 PM
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Thanks for the support NF we havent been fightin lately. We are talkin about our issuse. I think its working
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