The store never ends :(

Have to really agree with Ms Futz here Isadora...

He's a boyfriend not a husband...and if you wed him I would be really very concerned,

Rhi

Remember, we are here no matter how things turn out.

Hey you guys things got a little worst then i thought :'(

They probably haven't gotten any worse than I thought. It does end eventually. How it ends is up to you. You want to get some help now? I have a lot of resources that may be of help. I was also wondering if it has gotten to the point when he makes it so you can't leave him? I would also be pretty careful because sooner or later he will cut off your access to the internet if you stay with him too long. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. But I am sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

Take care of yourself, isadora. Be safe.

Well it got a little worst cause there was a little drama in my family but least night him and i were talking about the problems we were having and we are working on that. I been better thanks

Care to share? How are you doing now?

I been better. I told him i was showing my love for him and soo he can trust me. I dont know but sometimes i feel sad out of nowhere i feel lonely i dont know why

((((Isadora))))

Sad and lonely are not good emotions/feelings. Is there anything we can help with? I found the more that I wrote the better I felt.

Well i think i been so stress cause of family problems and little arugements with my boyfriend and to top it of i have alot of homework.

Homework and study are important... you need to concentrate on that
Don't stress over the little arguments.. concentrate on the bigger picture if you can

Are not daily criticisms from your friend a given? Sorry there are family problems and so much homework.

Good luck, isadora.

Thanks you guys im trying to ignore the problems ill keep you guys posted on whats going on..

Just checking on you Isadora. How are things going?

I been okay. Well he deleted my facebook and my email.

Without your permission, he deleted your facebook and email accounts? What is the reason you cling to this person?

http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-a-M...g-Relationship
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Assertive-...Being-Arrogant
http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2...by-thomas.html

You friend is deliberately attempting to eradicate or compromise the separate identity of another person, you. It is called soul murder.

isadora, run from this person. He will continue to hurt you if you stay.

the power & control wheel

He told me he was goin to delete them cause i had been thru alot of drama with my family about this picture he put on myspace. And my family saw it and they were all up in my bussiness

((Isadora))

I just want to tell you a sotry of what happened to my bestfriend.
She met this guy (we both knew him) he chased her and finally they became boyfriend and girlfriend. It seemed SO sweet that he always wanted to know what she was doing, that when we wnet out he wanted to drop us off and pick us up from where ever we went... he was protective, loving and in control...
Take note of the word 'control'...
There were signs everywhere that he was controlling but we saw it as loving.
They went and worked in India for 9 months.. when she didn't want to be there anymore he took her passport off her so that she couldn't come back to Australia...
Warning sign that we still didn't really see... we saw it as he just wanted her to be there with him...
They ended up married and he had controlled her and changed her so much that she had a breakdown...
It took her a LONG time to free herself from him.

I know that it's a different story than yours but you need to be aware of the signs that can seem loving but are really possesive....

If the facebook etc needed to be deleted and you wanted it to be.. then you would have done it yourself...

Take care of you first and fore most. You are the only person that shuld be making decisions for you...

And keep writting here.

Love Belle xx

I know im always checking any aware of sign of control. I have told him if you ever do something bad to me i will leave you and forget about you. He has told me that he will never do something to hurt me. He says he wants me to be happy. The reason i couldnt delete my facebook is because i cant on my cell phone.

He already is abusing you.

Maybe you can tell us the things he does that seem loving and sweet, and the bad things too, and we can sort them out with you, reality v. illusion
I know it's really hard and confusing to see clearly sometimes.
Keep us updated, talking it out always helps. Everyone on here is gonna be there for you.
I hope you feel better.

Well whenever im sick or something he always make sure how im doin what i need, if i need to go to the doctor. He's respectful if i have a problem he's always there for me. Sometimes he gets mad for no reason. When i have family problems i feel trap and it seems i cant get out of there.

Isadora, I posted about him isolating you from family and friends. This is one of the first things perpetrators do. It is all about power and control. To them power and control IS love sweetie. No one diservers this. Next step is escalating their negative behavior to see what works and what doesn't on you. Please do what you have to get away from him. Use us, your family, friends, domestic violence agencies. Remember, this is not your fault. There is no shame in this. It can happen to anyone. Please keep posting.

Thanks for the support NF we havent been fightin lately. We are talkin about our issuse. I think its working