[LittleForgetMeNot]

I wish I had friends. I don't anymore it seems.. Through out this year they've just been slowly dissappearing from my life and now I find myself completely alone. I also find myself back where I started.. 4 years ago. It was because I was all by myself 3-4 years ago with no friends whatsoever, that I got into the online friends/dating type thing in the first place.. I never want to go back to that, but I don't know how to make or keep friends in real life.. It doesn't help that I cannot relate to (or even like) many kids my age.. nor does the fact that I don't really go to school..

[hoping4best]

You dont go to school? Try to be nice with ppl when u meet them, help them in any way u can if they need it,and attend get togethers or parties etc i hope ppl will see u r worthy of being friends wid!

LittleForgetmeNot,

I can relate to what you're saying. I've either lost touch with friends i've worked with in the past, and they never reciprocate, so I gave up. They're lose I guess. A lady i met at a meetup last year knew I didn't have any family or anywhere to go for xmas so about a year ago invited me over for xmas dinner last year now won't even speak to me after numerous phone calls and emails. No reason given. What a child she is. This is a 49 year old lady. Why can't she have the guts to tell me what I did, if anything to her, you know? I know I can't go through life with no friends, it's not good.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

Originally Posted by jiakhan

You dont go to school? Try to be nice with ppl when u meet them, help them in any way u can if they need it,and attend get togethers or parties etc i hope ppl will see u r worthy of being friends wid!

No, I don't know if it's just my lack of strength or my lovely ability to wallow in self-pity, but I've had trouble attending school since I lost my best friend in 6th grade. I lost all self-confidence then; I became a coward and couldn't face her in my class everyday, making new friends and shining bright while I was just pushed into a dark corner and was forgotten. It's become a habit mostly.. Going to school gives me anxiety, it makes me feel extremely overwhelmed (my school is one of the largest in the city), and being depressed.. it's already hard enough to wake up. I've done alternative things to public school (homeschooling and alternative schooling) but right now I'm in the middle of getting into something like that again.

I don't meet many people, and most of the get togethers and parties I'm invited to are all family related. They're full of either a.) screaming toodlers and babies or b.) drunken adults. I'm in the middle; at the age where I cannot fully enjoy a kids party for I'm too old and I can't fully enjoy an adult party because I'm too young.

Originally Posted by Deborah35

LittleForgetmeNot,

I can relate to what you're saying. I've either lost touch with friends i've worked with in the past, and they never reciprocate, so I gave up. They're lose I guess. A lady i met at a meetup last year knew I didn't have any family or anywhere to go for xmas so about a year ago invited me over for xmas dinner last year now won't even speak to me after numerous phone calls and emails. No reason given. What a child she is. This is a 49 year old lady. Why can't she have the guts to tell me what I did, if anything to her, you know? I know I can't go through life with no friends, it's not good.

I get that. I got back in touch with an old classmate who I had known since moving into this neighbourhood when I was 8. I had been friends with him up until 7th grade when I had withdrew from most social interaction as well as school for the most part.

We started talking again in May and we seen each other a little bit, and I thought it as fine. We laughed a lot and we talked a lot and he assured me again and again that I wasn't irritating or annoying. I found him quite annoying (he had a crush on me but didn't like keeping personal space) but tolerated it for the sake of some company. He's seen me cry and comforted me and we were in the middle of making plans when, now suddenly, we don't talk anymore. I've tried to say hi, and he barely responds.

I have a feeling it has something to do with the whole crush and the fact that I won't go out with him. He's liked me since I've known him but I'm just not as into that as most kids my age are and I've never seen him that way. He didn't get the hint and would continually keep asking.. I guess he finally did, or just gave up and I've been dropped because I'm not "avaliable". He did this once before when he was going after some other girl during the summer, so I have a feeling that this is the way it is.

[hoping4best]

i think you should try to go to parties even if they are suppose dto be family gatherings...u never know when u can get a chance to meet someone new and cheerful. u could also go to nearby gym...or may be go out for a walk in nearby park on weekly basis if not daily try to open up hon and u will see that there r many wonderful ppl out there

[Quaint]

Same here :S

I do try to go out and meet people, but .... it never works out....
I just don't get what is the problem.
I go to Uni, it's my 2nd year now, but I didn't manage to make any friends there.
I do talk with people during the lectures, but ...
I never manage to become friends with any of them.
The only time I had friends, was until 8th grade, after that I've changed schools, as most people do in my country after this grade, and people I called friends went to different schools I went to different also, and what was it, they made new friends there and didn't had time for me anymore and I was never quick in finding new friends... after that time I've never had any real friends. I don't know what happened...

I somehow feel like I keep pushing people away, or other times I somehow feel that most people I meet don't really like me. I don't know if it's true, but I just have that feeling. Though actually I did met someone who seemed to like me, but he was interested in me in the way that I wasn't interested in him, so ....

And the fact that I study away from home and have to speak in another language all the time doesn't help either, as I sometimes don't understand what people are talking about, especially when they're using a lot of slangs...
I do feel very lonely most of my time here, even when I try to go out and be arround people... it doesn't help... I just can't make any friends... I do try to be myself all the time, but I think that this doesn't help either...

There are times when I feel like it would be easier if I would just pack and go home, but ... I do want to finish uni, but I just don't know if I have enough strength to keep going like this for another year :S

It really kills me that I've no one I could call when I'm feeling bad or no one whom I could invite to go out any time I want to or anyone who would call me and would be happy to see me...

I really thought that my years at Uni would be different...
Or my life at all would be different...

[Emotionally Dead]

Well, I do know how you feel. In fact, not too long ago I was in the exact same issue as you. Now I don't really have any friends at all. Whether they are Online or in Real Life I just don't really have any. I work with people who I guess are "friends" at work, but we never do anything together. Part of the problem is I work 7 days a week and have rarely any time off. Well, now that I finally did have five days off I went to see my best friend and had to go to the Emergency Room an hour after I got there after getting hit in the mouth with a weight lifting bar.. So so much for that..

So I do know how you feel and can relate very well. I do have one best friend but we rarely get to keep in touch and now that I finally did get to go see him I had to leave. It's just something people go through.. Really, if you went to school you'd be much better off because you would be able to meet people and I think you'd eventually be a lot happier. That's how most people are able to meet friends. If you just can't do that then you should try to get a job as early in life as you can, whenever you reach the minimum age to getting one, because that's another way to meet friends. Also, you can meet people not only just your age but older as well. Most people find it hard to get along with people their own age and most people get along with people older or younger, so that's common. Hope you get better with what you're going through and if you ever feel lonely or need to talk I'm here.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

I'm good at going to school when I'm in alternative programs. I went everyday and the students there.. actually almost viewed me as an outsider right away. I didn't have their same attitude.. a few of them drank and did drugs, and from my appearance I apparently don't like the type of girl who would have any attendance problems.. or any problems at all. I was viewed as (and I know this cause I was told) the innocent angel barbie doll and I had somehow fallen into their world and by many I wasn't welcome. One of the friends I made said right off the bat she thought I would be a snob, and though she had ignored that and become my friend anyway, it still kind of hurt cause I didn't know that I came off that way. I was also called strange once people started getting to know me.. and that played a bit toll on my self-esteem as well.

I want to go back to an alternative program, even if it does mean facing those same types of judgement there.. But as I said before I'm still in the middle of that..

I can't get along with people that well my own age.. Lots of them are interested in things I have no time for, and I'm seen as strange by it or a loser. Kids younger than me I seem to gravitate toward but I can't get along with them either because our maturity levels are different.. Older people haven't ever really seemed to give me the time of day because I'm younger. I get along great with adults.. but that's pretty much it. Going back to my high school wouldn't help. That school is full of kids who only stick to their group and everyone ignores the loner kids. If you didn't make friends with kids before you came to my school, you're pretty much screwed.