How do you heal?

When it's over and you know it how to you move on?

When the pain cuts so deep and you swear you tried your very best but it has gone unoticed. It has gone.

You try to piece together what was or what you thought it was. I continue to grasp for happiness and warmth in this freezing world. I feel so confused and unloved and unable to cope. What messes have I made? What damage have I done? I've tried my best to be good. To be a good person. But there is this cold feeling inside of me that I thought could be warmed up by another. But I continue to be misunderstood and insignificant.

I'm so tired.

I want to be happy so bad; to look to a new day with meaning and joy. But only pain and confusion are there waiting for me. Pushing me into a tizzy making me yell for relieve. But none comes. You wouldn't know it if you saw me at a small distance. But you might feel it if you dare to come close. This world can be nice, I suppose.

My body shakes in sadness and dispair. Don't think I will ever love again. Don't think I can.

Hello, Amy. The feelings you are dealing with are harsh. Your mind is working overtime to make sense of what you may never fully understand. Grieving is not forever. You were good person before. The decision to divorce does not make you a bad one. Remind yourself of that each day.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/movin...r-divorce.html

[quote=TheByzantine;1670347]Hello, Amy. The feelings you are dealing with are harsh. Your mind is working overtime to make sense of what you may never fully understand. Grieving is not forever. You were good person before. The decision to divorce does not make you a bad one. Remind yourself of that each day.

byzantine, No divorce does not make you a bad person, just a selfish one.

[quote=ddindiana;1671690]Divorce is selfish?

No Amy ~ divorce is not selfish. Sometimes it saves your life. It did mine. Sometimes if you don't get out, you will lose your mind. Sometimes if you don't get out you will lose your LIFE. Divorce isn't ALWAYS selfish.

Yes, you can become lonely afterwards. Sometimes we become too NEEDY after a divorce. We have to be careful that we don't take people as hostages when we're needy. We can't hang on to people ~ we have to consider other peoples' feelings too, not just ours. Sometimes when we're so needy, we forget about others' problems & feelings.

Of course you grieve the end to any relationship. When you've tried your best, that's ALL you can do!! You can't take ALL the blame for a failed relationship. It takes two for a relationship to fail. Once we know that we did everything we could to save it, then we can let it go. Just grieve it, and let it go. Bury it, and start anew. Each day is a new beginning!!! Don't be weighted down by the past ~ it's GONE. It doesn't exist anymore. We have a new day here ~ and a chance to make it whatever we want.

God bless you Amy. Take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee

I am grieving a relationship. I didn't do everything I can to save it because I just didn't have the ability to do so. Actually, what I'm grieving is a cyber affair that I thought would blossom into a real life relationship.

I really thought this man was my soul mate but the time and attention needed to cultivate this relationship wasn't in my abilities. One could say I deserve all the pain I have because I shouldn't have been involved in this relationship to begin with - but I thought he was the man I was meant to be with forever. I really did.

ddindiana?? What's that post about? What makes you think your statement applies to this young lady?Judge not.....lest.....eh?

Thanks wolffy.. well said

Amy, relationship break downs (all of them) take time to heal from... the hurt, pain, sadness and darkness do pass with time. You never forget but the memories become less crippling.
Take a deep breath and believe that everything happens for a reason x

Thanks Belle

I'm hurting so bad right now as my head swims with thoughts of him daily. But I'm sure I couldn't have done anything different. I know I did what I could as best as I could. That knowledge doesn't change the pain. And I miss him so much. So, so much.

Sitting beside you in silence....not needing to say a word.We just.....hear you.

((((((((Amy)))))))) I am so sorry this has happened to you.

Hi Amy: I too am finding it difficult to let go of what needs to be let go of... I too am feeling the pain and confussion.. It's easy for me to say to hang in there, It's easy for me to tell you that things will get better, but I know how difficult it is to believe.. How do you let go? I wish I had some magical advice for you, but I don't. Just take it one hour at a time.. As my best friend would say "breath through your eye balls" I pray that we all wake up one day to complete happiness and peace..