[Jenn1fer82]

I finally ended a 2 year relationship. I gave it everything I had and I had big dreams for this relationship but at the end I had to walk away. After fighting so long to make the relationship work, I'm just too tried to keep going forward. As much as we love one another, I'm no longer happy. I stayed in the relationship for all the wrong reasons and finally I'm able to walk away. I wish I didn't have to love and care about him so much. We were so wrapped up and involved in one another's life and now I'm having to move forward with a new and different life without him. I haven't told my family and friends yet. I feel a sense of grief for the lost of a dream I wanted and I know I deserve but that dream wasn't meant to include the man I was with for 2 years. I just feel such a deep sense of sadness inside right now, ending a relationship is so difficult to cope with.

[Leed]

Hi Jennifer ~ When we end a relationship that had any length of time to it, obviously we're going to have to grieve for that loss. It's a kind of a death ~ the death of the relationship. So you'll go thru the stages of grief, much like you would if someone had died. At first there is shock, anger, depression, bargaining and acceptance. You'll probably skip the bargaining, but you'll probably go thru the others. Don't try to stifle your emotions or else they'll just turn up as something else ~ and bite you in the fanny. LOL

I know you did this for your own good ~ and even tho it hurts right now, in time you'll see that it was for the best. You weren't able to grow or to progress with him. I'm proud of you. Best of luck and just be good to yourself for awhile - pamper yourself while you're grieving. This won't hurt forever. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[online user]

I agree with Leed--so good that you are able to understand what you needed to do, do it, and realize the place you are in. In time, the pain will pass and you will be ready for a more lasting relationship which will meet your needs better. I almost broke up with hubby #1 when we were engaged. Just because there were signs it wasn't right. Fifteen years later, when we divorced, it was with much more pain. And I lost my chance to have children forever because of that relationship. Wish now, looking back, I had had the sense and courage to do what you have done. Best wishes to you in this time of grief!

[madisgram]

so many spot on good replies. i admire your courage, jen. that exhibits a strong woman who has identified what is best for her now and for her future.
yes, you will grieve like leed said, like a death. but you will transform into the beautiful butterfly that was meant to be.