I hate dating. Is this wrong?

So I'm not a person that goes out on dates...ever. I find the idea of dating to be time consuming and too emotional. When I like a guy I automatically want to be in a relationship with him. Of course, this is only after I have gotten to know him. Not by dating though, just by friendship. Is this weird? People seem to date all the time, but I don't get whats so great about it.

The thought of hanging out alone with someone I don't know creeps me out. I also don't like it when complete strangers come up to talk to me. It makes me so nervous I just want to run away. Is there something wrong with me when it comes to trusting people?

There is a guy a really like now. This is the first guy in 12 years that has included all 3 of these things: I like him. Feel comfortable around him. And he shows interest in me.

We see each other everyday, yet, I'm not sure if we are dating or friends. I so hate dating. Why can't we just be a couple?

You might want to ignore that last bit about the guy I like. I'm just wondering whether me not being more receptive to strangers in general is odd or not?

Not weird at all.. I hate dating as well. It freaks me out when guys I don't know, complete strangers, try to pick me up at the bar or something.
I think it depends on the culture people are in. In my country it's not very usual to date before knowing people in a more social enviroment, like between friends and other people. Although dating strangers is also very common... but I don't like it one bit. I just don't do it. I rather meet the guy and hang out casually between friends and then as friends before dating him as a potencial boyfriend.
I don't think you're odd at all =)**

I have trouble with how you imagine "getting to know" someone is done and is not "dating". When one first "does" something with another, it is always nice to find one is comfortable with the other but that has nothing to do with whether one is dating or not. We become friends with people we enjoy being with and if they're someone we think we want to be in relationship with, the only way to "relate" is to do it, which is "dating". I get the idea you think all dating is being uncomfortable with a stranger? My husband and I will be going on our date night tonight, (and meeting a friend! :-) at our favorite pizza restaurant.

Hi Perna,
Good date tonight for you both!
Well, maybe my definition of dating is a bit different from yours, as I said I'm not used to what in other places is called dating.
I was using the word "dating" as in going out to a restaurant or movies with a guy we barely know so we can know him better, not as in "I'm going out with this guy I've a thing or my husband or my boyfriend". I'm sorry... my translations today aren't great but I think I'll be able to explain.
For instant, the guy I "went out" with before my ex and my pseudo-ex. We got to know each other while in the company of others. We never went out if not between friends. Like hanging out... Only when I started to see in him something worth dating did we go to the movies..
I don't see hanging out between friends as dating. Dating in my context was going out with someone together and alone.

Have a nice date, Perna!! ***

I dont care much for dating either, I see it as a necessary evil though. It will allow you to get to know someone and see if youre compatible. Good luck.

I guess when I talk about dating I mean both the "meeting someone I don't really know for dinner" and the "hanging out with someone I have already known, but now we just hang out as just the two of us".

The first one I don't like to do at all. Just can't create an interest in a person if I am nervous. And hanging out on a "date" with someone I don't know makes me extremely nervous. I just want to get out of there.

The second one is bothering me at the moment because it is sort of what I'm stuck in. I'm very inexperienced with relationships so unless a guy calls me his girlfriend I don't know what is going on between us and that makes me very nervous. So nervous I become stressed and depressed from worry. So that is why I don't like dating. I don't like not having any idea what will happen to us in the future since I can become very invested in someone that I like. Someone told me to "check" my feelings for this guy, but I don't know how. When I like someone I like him. I can't change that by telling myself not to.

I don't know anyone who "likes" your first definition. Sometimes it can be necessary though, if someone else tells us about this person they know from work or something or our parents have a friend's son they want us to meet. We can't always have enough guys to hang around with and our groups don't get enough guys joining casually so we can get to know them over time by hanging out?

I don't see anything wrong though with meeting a guy in a group situation and later maybe deciding to get closer, just the two of you. But, remember, "practice" makes things easier and going out on dates can make dates easier too so you get use to it and can maybe make more friends, meet more guys that way and, when you are in other, similar, "uncomfortable" situations, you can better deal with them.

everyone has different definitions..that being said, everyone goes about relationships differently, and to have one person say there is only one way doesn't know anything and is lyieng, we all need to taylor the way we go about 'meeting people' our own way. not everyone is the same. there is no wrong or right. i have gone on blind dates, i have well lets just say without too much detail i have a well rounded history of all diffeent ways you might meet someone. with my current partner we had no idea when we started "dating" we kinda just bumped into each other from mutual friends and just never seperated , meet, moved in 2 days later, and here i am now still livin together. things happen in all different ways

Absolutely nothing wrong with "hating" dating. (Sorry, I know this question was asked almost 2 years ago)

To me, online dating appears to mean putting up a profile with lots of pics of yourself and describing yourself in words when actually you are just screaming to the online world "I just wanna be loved!" Not going back there ever again. I can only be myself, a man who is unworthy of approval because I ask for it
I've never tried "real" dating before, but I think it requires that you know the person you want to date, and that means being a friend to that person first. With my almost non-existent social skills I can't even try.

That first stage of a relationship is very stressful, especially if you really like someone and not sure your feelings are being returned. Is he dating other people? Should I be dating others? It can be so filled with anxiety that you can't enjoy the moment. You can't check your feelings exactly but you can balance your life. If you find yourself obsessing over this guy, force yourself to steer your thoughts in another direction, go do something fun with friends, fill your social calendar and don't be waiting on "him". If he becomes your boyfriend, super! If not, you will not have spent too much time on him. You are more attractive when you come across as socially fulfilled.

I think what you have been REALLY trying to say is: you hate uncertainty.

You do not hate dating - you hate uncertainty associated with the initial stage of dating.

If you relax and treat each encounter as an adventure that might or might not lead further, you will feel better. Just relax and sort of go with the flow.

I'm like this too. I get nervous and uncomfortable when someone approaches me. I always try to walk away though.