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#1
Sep 07, 2011, 09:05 AM
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Seeing as I just posted that there is the possibility of more than one soul mate... can anyone tell me why the hell I can't let go and move on? What is wrong with me that I should just keep letting someone string me along and torture my soul to the point of no return.
I was reading a text book about philosophy and human nature. It said that "...we cannot help or change what we want or think." So how do I give up? The thing is when i really REALLY try to let go he senses it some how and reels me right back in. After making plans with me Fri then standing me up without a call, making me cry for days (until today - this is the first morning I haven't woken up crying) - after that I am MAD MAD MAD MAD. So I refused to wave when he drove by - at which point I got a call asking what crawled up my *** & if I thought I was some rich b itch now. He turns it all on me. How do I move past this? |
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#2
Sep 07, 2011, 09:15 AM
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He's playing games with you. Don't let him have that power/control. Move on, even if you go out with someone just so he can see you with someone else to let him know you DON'T need him.
When he asked "what crawled up your arse" you should have screamed on him and told him you don't talk to psychos who can't make up their mind and want to be nice one minute and call you a "b****" the next. Screw him! I felt like I would NEVER get over the ex that cheated on me. Like I would never have that connection with someone again, but I found it with my new guy (he's so patient and understanding) and we have almost made it a year (in 4 days it will be). So, YOU WILL find someone else! Tell him to either be a friend or boyfriend (friends/boyfriends DON'T PURPOSELY hurt your feelings) or leave you the f*** alone! What a JERK!
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#3
Sep 07, 2011, 09:18 AM
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Time (after no contact)
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Sep 07, 2011, 09:23 AM
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BTW, you will continue to hurt and all until you are over it, but make him suffer in the process too! ACT like you're enjoying yourself, it will kill him inside.
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#5
Sep 07, 2011, 09:29 AM
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I am going through a similar time with my ex husband. He has gone from saying he can't bear the sight of me to wanting to stay with me and the kids for 4 nights a week. I feel a mug but there is a part of me that holds onto hope even though I know he is so damaging to me. I just have to keep telling myself that I am ok without him. It is so hard and confusing though. Put your needs first and you don't have to acknowledge him or listen to his undermining / bullying comments. SD
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#6
Sep 07, 2011, 09:37 AM
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It's been a long time & the same pattern emerges. I am doing my best this week to not think on him but it eats at me. I put away all the pictures, the vision board of our fabulous life together. The fantasy journal with love tokens, erased phone numbers, etc. The whole 9 yards. That whole phone call just added to the hurt.
He is a bastard I guess and really thinks I'm big joke I guess. So why can't I just move on? |
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Sep 07, 2011, 10:04 AM
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It is very hard and very confusing. All the time it's soooooooooo damn confusing. They make us feel like it's all our fault if we try to move on. I don't even want to move on. I want to be together but he just keeps playing stupid games.
I am so sad and angry all the time now. I have alienated myself from EVERY SINGLE LOVED ONE AND FRIEND I have because of this disaster. My heart is closed off to even the thought of another person. It is cold and lonely here. |
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#8
Sep 07, 2011, 10:53 AM
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People don't live near Chernobyl anymore. The land is TOXIC. This man is toxic to you in more ways than one. He is married for one, and he IS a jerk, bastard, sadist... whatever you want to call him. Your happiness is your responsibility. Reconnect with those who deserve your love and respect. This man does not. This truth will set you free.
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#9
Sep 07, 2011, 11:38 AM
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Quote:
and you're right... now all we gotta do is convince my heart. 
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#10
Sep 07, 2011, 05:37 PM
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You're welcome. Your predicament reminds me of the song... (If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don't Want To Be Right.
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#11
Sep 07, 2011, 05:45 PM
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I'm a hot mess over it all.
It's time to take back my life. Problem is I'm weak - no will power as one poster said to me. I just sucks ya can't make your damned feelings go away. Cuz when it's good - it's GREAT! lol I get sooooooo pissed when ppl tell me it's my choice... they are wrong. It is not my choice to feel this love for someone who doesn't treat me right or deserve it. I just FEEL it. In a private message I will describe it to you. i NEED the support of all of you here more than I couldve ever imagined. thank you is not even close enough to express my full gratitude. 
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#12
Sep 09, 2011, 05:29 PM
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The heart is very stubborn! It keeps longing for the one it most certainly can never have! :/
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