Break-up because of no to abortion

My now ex-someone told me I'm irresponsible because I wouldn't terminate a pregnancy and he cannot be in a steady relationship with someone who can give birth to a baby. Also, he was angry with me because I refused giving him a blowjob- it's a standard for him, duh! Never mind I had been forced to do it when I was sexually abused- I just cannot do it again. He was very coercive and said I should do the things he likes. Then added that if I feel that responsible, maybe I should stop using condoms- men's logic. I might be carrying his baby and already know I'm all alone. And he said that he didn't care about my not having an orgasm cos I didn't help him either. You don't have to say it's for the best. He seemed to be a nice guy but my being pro-life was too much for him to bear. That's the most absurd reason for a break-up. He behaved like a real man and during the last quarrel insulted me in any way he could think of, including my inability to read.

Thank goodness this guy is your ex!! Jeez ~ he sounds like a horrible person incapable of being a decent human being.

I think that basic values, beliefs that one has, need to be stood by throughout life. Sometimes we meet others that don't share similar values. It typically doesn't take us very long to realize that we're different. From there, we make a conscious decision ~ to either stay in the relationship (some issues aren't as important to us as they used to be) or leave (some issues are more important than ever). I do encourage you to stand by your decision to end the relationship 100%.

If you are pregnant with your ex-bf's baby, remember that both parents have rights and responsibilities to care for the child. There are many healthy, happy homes wishing for a child to adopt ~ that is an option for you to carefully consider. The agency covers decent pre-natal care and delivery, and often allows adoptive families to continue to have some contact (updates) throughout the child's life.

Best wishes to you...

Hi Bathony ~ I applaud your decision to have the baby (obviously I'm pro-lfe). For him to leave you for that decision is selfish and ridiculous. He's not the ONLY one in the relationship. And as for his "other" issues regarding sex, he's probably the most childish man I've ever heard of. I'm SO glad it's over for you! You certainly deserve someone better than THIS. He's nothing but a little boy.

If you choose to keep the baby, remember that regardless if he wanted the child or not, he's STILL responsible for PAYING for the needs of this child, so take him to court for child support!! Don't hesitate to do at least that!

And as Shezbut said, if you choose the adoption route, there are agencies out there who represent many couples who are dying to adopt a child -- so contact one of them, and CHOOSE the couple you want to have your child. I wish you the very best, Bathony! God bless and the best of luck to you. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Hugs, Lee

Thanks you guys but I will never give away my baby. I can be a good mother. I studied psychology, pedagogics, child's develpoment, language acquisition and stuff like that, so I more knowledgeable about this than a 'couple who would take care of my baby'- that's just awful , my being a single automatically disqualifies me as a mother? I'm not gonna suffer for the rest of my life knowing my child is with strangers. I can be a good mother. I stopped smoking and drinking since the day I think I got pregnant. I'm taking care of myself cos the first 8 weeks are crucial for the development. If the baby exists at all, it is n my uterus already. I get alimony from my father, so my mother would help me getting money from my ex. He would so pay for the baby and the baby would have his surname. Sad he wants the baby to die but I'm not gonna cry about this, it's good enough I'd love it. My mother would help me. I know it's not the end of the world, yet the fact that he suddenly brought that up after 8 weeks is still shocking. He knew I'm against abortion from day 1, how come it suddenly became a problem? I'm still unsure if I'm pregnant at all but I'm ready to take responsibility for my actions. As a linguist, I chose names ages ago: Dąbrówka for a girl and Ziemowit or Mieszko for a boy, no English equivalents, sorry, these are Slavonic names cos I'm a Slav. I just recalled him saying earlier he wants a baby for 50%, yet suddenly killing a baby seems to a better solution for him. Where such people come from? Unbelievable.

What a turd! Bathony, I applaud you for walking away when you did, and even if it turns out, you're not pregnant, thinking you were made you see him for what he is. If it turns out you are pregnant, I'm a single mom too, my daughter is 8y.o and doing very well. I'm über proud of myself, and you will be too!

Hun, have you taken a pregnancy test? You're implying you aren't sure if you are even with child.

Just wanted to wish you the very best. Take good care of yourself.

I'm not pregnant. Now I'm worrying that skank could have infected me with HIV or other diseases. Should I known earlier he's such a skanky ***** sleeping around and cheating on me, who knows what diseases he might have. Thank you guys for support.

You did the right thing. I broke up with my husband because of him messing around with prostitutes. Chances are you're ok but for peace of mind get tested for all STD's and HIV. I did, everything was negative but it made me feel better to know for sure.
Good luck!