improper English

I fail to see how this is a reflection on how great or bad this person would be for you on a date. Granted if someone is a terrible speller and does this a lot in emails, it tends to make you wonder about their education but even then it doesn't say anything about their character or values. Personally I am a person that catches constant spelling and grammar errors in writing and it frustrates me especially in professional online writing like blogs and articles but when it comes to judging a person other than their use of the english language, I just don't think that it tells me much about them outside of this. As I said, I try to watch my grammar and spelling for the most part but I'm one that actually uses chat shorthand quite a bit in texting and online - including saying "cuz" and other things.

I'd hate to think that my use of those kinds of words would make me unworthy of being considered as a date by a woman.

I hope I'm not being too harsh but I really think you should reassess your priorities with what qualities are important. After all you won't be writing to each other on a date, at home or "elsewhere" (I hope!)

That's just my 2c.

Maybe you need to get used to being treated nice Hammy, you have been treated badly by enough men in your life. Time to turn that leaf over I think.

Spelling a grammar reflects not much in my opinion except maybe an interest in it or not, maybe I am biased. Although I only have my grade 9. I managed to get though college twice, and got past the intake without having to upgrade to get in. I left with a 4.0 when I got my diploma, my assignments were not marked up with red for spelling or grammar. But in the real world.. I just don't really care that much about it. If someone wrote me off because of something like that.. then I would think it's for the best. How would they handle my real flaws? Just don't assume people are not educated enough, or smart enough because they are not passionate about proper spelling and grammar. We are not even talking about text speech here or anything, just small mistakes. You have even made spelling mistakes here, it happens to everyone, some of the time.

I don't think all Indian men are like that.. some are.. some are not. Just like every other race. Hammy this is where your thinking can get you in trouble. I have known you for over a year and I understand a bit how you think. I think you tend to put people in categories based on things you think indicate this or that, like if someone has this job then they are like this, or that, basically stereotyping. I don't think you have any bad intentions about it, I think it might just be how you view things and make sense and organize your world. I think it is something you might want to look at though. You like data.. I know that. Does the data actually back up these assumptions tho?

I just want you to find someone who is good for you and that you can be happy with. I worry that you might write off the person who would give you all that if you keep engaging in that kind of thinking.

I agree with that. I think that when I read something with numerous spelling errors, it seems like they are uneducated though I wouldn't make that assumption. It does look that way though initially.

This is great advice, not all indians are this way or that, not all african americans are the same either, nor all overweight people lazy or skinny people in good health. Take each person, and try to avoid making assumptions based on singular characteristics or even a a set of them. That's the beauty of humans, we may be similar but are for the most part very unique individuals. I'm thinking that the future holds a bad spelling wonderful man for you Just because thats' the way it tends to work.

Hey Sandman, I can understand why people might think that.. or it might seem like that. It's like if someone uses very broken english in type.. I might assume it isn't there first language. It's just what we do with those "seems" like in our heads. I think you already got that tho. I hope you didn't think I was pointing you out with that, not at all.

There was a thread a while back, about tattoos and what people assume. Some people assumed that if it was on the neck or face that the person was a con or ex con. Some people assumed they didn't give any thought to their future or stuff like that. I think I was a little surprised for some reason about how much people assume based on this little stuff. I have a tattoo around my neck and one small one on my face, and other larger ones in different places... I am not a con or ex con, I think about my future. I don't party, drink do drugs, am not violent, just trying to think of popular assumptions on that one. I am just a single mom, trying my best to raise three kids, trying to deal with mental illness, I go to yoga everyday, I eat healthy, take responsibility for my issues, and work to change myself and grow to the best of my ability. I am calm, peaceful, and aware of myself.

Trying to navigate through stereotypes.. A forever process, I was homeless for my whole youth.. stereotype, bipolar.. stereotype... abused...stereotype... I look rather young for having three children... stereotype...single mom ...stereotype... I could make a huge list. And we all could I know that.

We all are so unique and individual... it's amazing.. You are so correct about that.

Heck I've stopped assuming someone was old or young anymore. everyone looks at me like this : O.O when they hear I have 3 kids and one is 20. They're like "you look barely out of your twenties yourself!" LOL and I've met 30 year olds that look 50, and vice versa. I know people of all races that go against their stereotypes. yep.

I'm a professional web developer, even working for the federal government and I'm getting a big tattoo on my back in January that I designed! Yep, I'm not about to stereotype you or people with tattoos! I love em! (let me know if you want to see my tattoos design )

Don't come to Ohio! A police chief just announced on the news that they had to "do things with less officers." Frankly I don't want to watch...