[UCLAFan]

have had this one friend 4 to 5 years now.but it always seems so one sided.i have helped her meet a lot of baseball players at baseball games.gave her a few tickets to games.not once has she done a nice thing for me.she even gave a free ticket to someone she hung out with just 2 or 3 times a few years ago.she just won tickets and a field pass for a game next week.instead of inviting me she invites her husband who hates sports.her husband treats her like crap and he tries to treat me badly also.last baseball season we got into a fight over her and her husbands behavior.she went off on me when i expressed my feelings.all i do is attract users with alliterative motives.it's like i can't find friends who give a damn about me.my relationships always end up one sided.i give and give and people just take and take.people really piss me off at times.a few weeks ago this same so called friend tried to pressure me into buy tickets to baseball tickets i can't afford.i told her no and she kept asking over and over again.

[optimize990h]

Hi, UCLAFan.

I have seen this happen to others and the only reason it has not happen to me again, is that I have no close human friends. Note, I mentioned close human friends because in real life, I am slightly better at picking nonhuman friends who become more than just pets.

You must have heard of the "users" and the "used." The users can always find a user for their use. The users may have the "Prince" or "Princess" syndrome(I just said Princess syndrome, once and a man got so offended)whereby the person thinks they were born on this earth to be served by others. There is no such thing as a two way street. If such a thing is mentioned, there is a look of denial and surprise with a mouth open.

Just have to think that you have no time to rehabilitate someone with the princess syndrome and cut your losses.

[S.Plath]

i was in a one sided relationship like this too. she was my best friend for about 7 years and although i knew so much about her problems & life, she never cared to listen to any of mine. & when i did get to talk, she would always interrupt me. eventually i cut all contact from her. it was a tough choice, because we had formed some bond over the years, but she just brought so much negativity into my life.

sometimes i think it's ok to be selfish.

[Orion XXV]

Hey,

I experience this very often... One of my best friends would text me when she wanted advice in her relationship. I'd get "Do you think I'm good enough for my boyfriend." I'd basically tell her the truth that she was fine and overthinking. Well, when I needed an opinion and I called her up, she was listening for 1 minute before I heard her texting people. I even asked her some questions on multiple occassions and had to repeat myself!! Like how rude. I wasn't whispering, girl, so I think it's bad that I even have to ask if you're still there.

My boyfriend is somewhat the same. Now, he's bipolar so I'm sure you can imagine how one sided it feels for me. On top of that, I get yelled at for nothing... But look, it's no excuse for his princess syndrome (yeah I said princess!). He expects me to do things that he himself wouldn't do. And I can't even get a word in about my day because by the time he pauses on the phone and I start to tell my tale, he says he's going to bed.

Oh well... so yes, I know how you feel.

Just dump her! She is a user, you know this so just keep away. Life's too short to have folk like that dragging us down.

Hugs