[sherr071]

I have always had this problem and it still continues. I wish so badly i had some good friends to share the good and the bad with. I feel like im a loyal good friend but it doesnt seem to matter. Maybe im just too draining on people. Anyone else feel this way or have this problem?

Welcome to the Community, sherr071. There are many lonely people here.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...d-it-aint-easy
http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/43621
http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publi...716/making.asp

Are you seeing a therapist for the depression? If so, talk to the therapist about this concern.

Good luck.

[Dreamer4ever]

I'm in the same boat. I don't have any friends either. Kind of sad.

[El-ahrairah]

Me neither. Only friend I have is my dog and bf lol... in real life, on here I got tons :333

[bridgie]

i find it very hard to make close relationships with people even at a friend level it takes forever for me to open up and let them see me on a little more intimate level. i think i have 2 real good friends ive had for years but they live no where near me so i only get to share over the phone or computer. as for making new friends i have lived in the same city for 10 years and have work aquaintances that i only see at work and my brother and his girlfriend are my friends. i dont know your personal situation but if you are able try joining a book club or join a class of some sort you will meet like minded people. Perhaps then you will find even one person you can connect with. put yourself out where the people are and see who you can find good luck and remember there are always friends on here who are willing to talk and listen!

[Shangrala]

I have no real life friends anymore, either, but I believe that is by choice, anymore.

I have absolutely no problem making friends &/or maintaining friendships. I have found though, that over the years finding someone who isn't into some kind of mind game of some sort is rare to find and the energy required to invest into said friendship only to later prove pointless has pretty much exhausted me and discouraged me from seeking.

Despite the fact that I do love my own company, it would be nice to have someone to share time with....hard to have fun alone at the amusement park, for example...and I soooo love the rides....lmao.

Shangrala

[UCLAFan]

it's hard to find real friends these days.

[Squirrel1983]

I'm like you. I don't really have any friends. I have 2 "friends" still from college but they live far away and I only get to talk to them every month or 2.

I've never really made friends easily, even as a kid/teenage.

[bananna215]

well, I have tons of friends, but only when it's convenient 4 them... so basically, I have tons of acquaintences & maybe 2 or 3 friends... u never kno who ur real friends are until something drastic happens sometimes... depressed? manic? stop going out drinking? break up with ur bf/gf? stop letting ppl walk all over u? idk... seems like that with me. I'm going thru quite a bit rite now & the ppl who were my friends last week sure as heck ain't here rite now (with exception of a handful)!

In real life I have friends who last about 2 years then I have to get rid of them ? I am Borderline personality I am sure its to do with that.

Hugs to you here you will find some GOOD friends there are really lovely people here....

[sherr071]

Well it sounds odd to say im glad im not alone in this situation, but i am. I find it very hard to make friends and even harder to maintain them. I am i guess too open of a person and dont play games or lie so eventually my problems will come up and it freaks people out i guess. Like someone above said thats when u find out ur true friends and there usually arent many. I have thought of joining the book club at the library so maybe i will give that a try. I just wish i could loosen up and not worry about it so much and just let it happen.

Wishing you the best, sherr071.

[50guy]

He who would have friends must show himself to be friendly. I am a friendly person, but that only leads to problems with people, so I have my DW and my cat.
Life is good.

[sadmimi]

i have no friends either no one you are not alone

[BeautifullyMistaken]

It's hard to make close friends, especially as you get older. I am a fun/friendly person, but I don't like to just 'let people in' very quick. I also think my depression hinders my ability to actually try to make friends. I've had a few good friends since childhood which I talk to, but not very often. Had a best friend of 8 years (we shared everything, spent 24/7 together) but had a falling out about 7 months ago. Never really bothered me not having many friends cause I was happy just hanging out with my former best friend.

It's hard to find someone that you can share anything and everything with. You aren't alone, there are many of us who are in that boat with you. The best way to make friends is go out there and meet people at various places/events/clubs. I know it's easier said than done though.

[Olivanlav Jou]

hmm.. i have a very few friends. i am loyal, warm and great but i don't socialize much... i do help people and be nice but i prefer to have a smaller circle of friends. maybe the reason i so that is because i don't want to affect too many people when i am going through ups and downs of my life... my few friends have been with me for quite a while so they are used to putting up with my mood swings when i am irritated or something...

[Jenn1fer82]

I'm 28 years old and I've also experienced that through out the different stages in life. As I'm transitioning from different parts of my life I find myself not being able to relate to certain friends and having to start all over and searching for friends that I can relate to. I don't do it on purpose but slowly my friends and I begin to lose contact and the phone calls becomes less and less. I use to have a set of friends where all we did was drink and dance every weekend but now I don't have the same interest. Now that I've recently graduated from college I want to find friends who has the same goals and struggle with looking for work and finding a new professional identity in life.

Friends obviously are very important.

http://www.nursezone.com/time-for-yo...ler_11808.aspx

[Spongebcrab]

I am in the same situation. I think my problem is I put up walls. If you make it through...then I trust and friendship. Only problem is nobody ever has.

[sugahorse1]

I have about 3 friends. One i work with, one I've never met in real life, only via sms and e-mail, and the other is a genuine friend from school days who I only see about once a month.
The other people i interact with, are my boyfriend's friend. Unfortunately I therefore tend to put my boyfriend on a pedestal, as I often feel he's the only person in my life.

I have pushed other friends away due to being too clingy, too demanding or getting too close. Maybe a symptom of BP II??

[la doctora]

I don't have any friends that live around me. My husband and I moved miles away from anyone we knew and haven't been able to make any new friends here. We have tried but just don't have anything in common with the people we have come across. I have old friends that call occasionally, but I rarely call because I have a phobia of talking on the phone. A handful of people are still loyal to me despite the fact that we don't talk often. We are planning to move back home soon. I am hoping to reconnect with my old friends and do things often with them. For now however, I am very friendless here except for my awesome hubby.

[Shadowghost]

I have no friends either. Been isolated from most people for the past 3 1/2 years. Been punishing myself all that time.

[50guy]

Welcome Shadowghost;

You will find lots of friends here........no need to punish yourself.

[bluestate]

I wasn't allowed to have friends as a child, so never developed the skills needed.

I have been a recluse for most of my life, it is the only way I have of keeping any hold what-so-ever on my life. I allow others to do my thinking for me when they get the chance, and I HATE THAT!!! Since I have no way to wall out the desires of others, I have to wall THEM out.

Recluse.

[Neurosurfer]

I tend to be a recluse too... it's hard to get over the past pains sometimes and trust people. As friends go, the only ones I really have are God, but you couldn't ask for any more faithful.