Does my boyfriend thinks i'm as sexy as his ex-girlfriend?

He posted a sexy photo of his ex when they was dating on his MySpace. I e-mailed him sexy pictures of my and told him he could post them on his MySpace. He showed my pictures to all his friends but never put them on-line.

Never compare yourself to others, I'm pretty sure your boyfriend finds you attractive.

I didn't realize Myspace was even still around.

Did you ask him why he did or did not post your pic online?

He has probably matured and found out that posting sexy pictures of your GF on Myspace is really dumb. Maybe he's keeping you all for himself! He doesn't need other boys staring at you whenever he's not there to supervise. What if he doesn't want other men making appreciative comments about you? I'd be peeved if girls were staring at pics of my boyfriend and posting about his looks.

Stop saying he's mature, and treats me better. Its not helping one bit. It's making me feel worst and even more jealous of her. And saying he want other man to makes appreciative comments about her making me feel even more jealous of her. I

Well, It's very important to me to be his hot and sexy girlfriend and it's very hard to feel that way when he post a picture of her and not me.

Who cares if you're not as "sexy" as other people? I've seen a lot of "fat" women with husbands - it's their personalities that appeal, not their appearance.

You will never know if your bf thinks that you're as sexy as his ex as if questioned one would assume he tells you that you're the sexiest person in the world.

No I want him to think I'm sexy personality wise too.

We don't know what your bf thinks about anything, we can speculate all we like, which has clearly not been helpful at all to you, so the logical thing to do is ask him.

No sense in driving yourself nuts not knowing and hearing answers you don't want online. Just ask the guy.

Just an FYI...
I'm clearly sexier than all my bf's exes put together but we keep our relationship offline. Fb pics, wall posts and such has backfired for us both in the past, so we have decided that "advertising" will only be taking place if I take his name.

Ask your bf

Your post made me very sad as you seem to be lacking in self-respect. Why would you measure your self-worth by how much your boyfriend objectifies you? Why would you want him to show your pictures to everyone when surely they should just be for him?

You should develop the relationship more and try to find a deeper connection. Vanity can lead to a really shallow connection with someone.

There are two things I can take away from this. The first is that the ex gf is just as attractive as you or that she isn't and looks don't matter as much as finding a good healthy relationship.

Ask him how he feels about you and don't try to live up to some fantasy you are projecting about his past. There is probably a good reason they broke up. She may have been sexy, but with that can come an over inflated ego, and possible a superiority complex. It would suck to date someone like that, who always throws how good they are in your face.

Develop a sense of yourself and some happiness that comes from within. I can say one thing. You will never be the most attractive person because everyone has a different opinion on what that is. Some people like tall and then, other like short and thick. The important thing is what he thinks of you and that you feel good about who you are and can be happy with yourself. Being sexy comes with knowing a person and what they like. It gets developed over time and comes from a meaningful place.

Being objectified is different than being sexy. Throwing yourself at him, and trying to live up to an expectation you have made on your own is surely going to lead you to feel bad about yourself. Try to develop a deeper relationship than one just based on looks. Try to get to know what he likes, what his passions are. Share with him what yours are. Learn to be romantic, go out on dates, have long talks, and spend some alone time together just enjoying eachothers company.

If you just make the relationship about sex, and put yourself out there to be objectified, you are likely to get used. Feel confident in yourself and good about who you are. You don't need to be sexier than his ex gf to feel good about yourself. Remember that she is an ex and apparently being sexy didn't work for her, so why would it work for you. Find out what he wants from the relationship and figure what you want and head in that direction.

I would ask him how you can be his hot and sexy girlfriend for him and would he please replace her picture with hers as his posting hers instead of yours makes you jealous.

I know this is not the point of the thread, so I apologize in advance, but what you said meant that "fat" people "cannot be sexy" and must have "redeeming qualities" such as "personality", which is not true, as a matter of fact, and discriminating, as a matter of ethics.

danceswithfat - Gravatar Profile - for many people, she is delightfully sexy. And I am much smaller than her, but I would think that she is far, far, far sexier than I am because she can dance and I cannot.

So be careful when you talk/post - I do realize that you were not ill-willed but quite well-intentioned, which is why I took the time to make this point to you, respecting you and hoping that you would, in turn, appreciate the point.

That. Nobody cares about his posts on Myspace - it is not 2006 or so anymore.

If you have sexy pictures, and want the world to see them, go ahead and post your own sexy pictures on FB and share them with as many people as possible, as FB does get traffic.

You do not have control over the bf, but you do have control over yourself and over the content you post on YOUR FB page. So, spread the happy news about your sexiness!

With the following caveat: think about not giving ammunition to your hypothetical opponents in your future race for office twenty years from now.

Not that FB would not filter too much nudity, but still.

I understand, hamster-bamster. On second thoughts I feel that the OP is fooling us somehow - she probably knows how we would answer her question because she put a wink ( ) next to it!

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==> CONCLUSION - He did not post your pictures on MySpace because he realized that MySpace has low traffic, and he did not dare to post your picture where it would not be immediately "liked" by thousands of users, since it would be unfair to you to subject you to living through the shame and humiliation of not being instantly "liked" by thousands of users, worldwide. Since you are clearly way sexier than his ex, it must be the case that he realized that MySpace was an appropriate venue to display the mediocre, substandard sexiness of his ex gf, but not an appropriate venue to display your superior sexiness.

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Does it solve the puzzle?..

I got the question? Why would he care if I lived to the shame but not his ex? Why would he respect me more than his ex? His ex-girlfriend didn't dress slutty at all or anything. I dressed sexier than her, and she was normal. Just wondering.

Oh wait, I think I get what your saying now. I think your saying he thinks I'm so hot that he's afraid other guys will comment and like my pictures more than his ex girlfriend. And he'll get jealous and don't want to put more through the humiliation.

hmmmm

I am sorry, but slutty and sexy are not the same thing. And, a girl should be able to look sexy without dressing slutty. Not that there is anything terribly wrong in dressing slutty, but, in general, a girl should be able to look sexy on the strength of her looks without extra assistance from slutty clothing. I mean, "slutty yet playful" is OK, but "slutty and seriously slutty" is tasteless, in my opinion.

So, I am glad that the ex gf did not dress slutty, and that you didn't, either - you dressed sexy but not slutty.

Nor did I suggest that he respected you more (or less) than he respected her. All I suggested was that her sexiness, in his estimate, was average, and thus MySpace was an adequate venue to display it; further, I suggested that your sexiness is way above average, in his mind, and thus MySpace - being low traffic and not even a household name any longer - was not good enough to display your sexiness.

Does that make it better?

I'm curious , do you find yourself attractive? I'm sensing self-esteem issues since you are questioning yourself?

There is no point of comparing yourself to someone else because It will tear you up in side. I personally think that word "sexy" can mean a lot things other than attractiveness. Intelligence or a sense a humor can be sexy to someone.

Also, I don't know why your bf was sharing a picture of an ex girlfriend on myspace and that's something that is something that would make me uncomfortable. Maybe you should talk to your bf about your concerns. You won't know until you ask.

Who cares?

Facebook. myspace, twitter....wreak havoc on relationships because of these exact reasons. So many actions can be misinterpreted...even when we're communicating directly with a SO through text messages things get distorted bc you're taking expression and gesture out of the equation but now you have the added stress of trying to figure out someones ACTIONS over the INTERNET. You might try taking these things out of your relationship altogether and see how it goes...I deleted my facebook bc I would spend hours trying to figure out if my bf was "up to something" on there, and since I deleted it I feel 100 times better!!!