[Pauline]

Hello everyone,

I'm writing here in order to help my best friend. Her husband is addicted to the internet. Every day and almost every night he chats with a woman from Italy. One week ago he told his wife that he wanted a divorce. He intends to go to Italy for visiting the woman he met in the chat room. They've been married for 27 years. What can I do in order to help her?

I hope that there's someone who can give me some advice. Thanks in advance.


<font color=green>kind regards
*Pauline* </font color=green>

[darkeyes]

They, or should I say "he" needs to see a therapist "immediately", a marriage of 27 yrs. is too many years invested to let it go for someone this guy "really" doesn't know! Perhaps a therapist can make him "realize" this. I think this woman's husband is attempting to live out some sort of fantasy. This is just my own opinion, hope no one is offended. Let us know how they make out.
"darkeyes"

[Zenobia]

The alluring thing about chat rooms and the people you meet in them is that you create this perfect being the satisfies all your needs. When you get in this sort of relationship you feel free to say things that in "real life" are inhibited by.....well hmmm, your learned social behavior. When this guy gets to italy he is going to be in for a big let down because all his real behaviors will fall in place and he will will react the same way with this woman as he would with his wife. Also the italian will not be what she seemed on-line. It is really a sad thing. It is too bad we (those of us who fall for people on-line) cannot seem to seperate "real life" from this computer fantasy. That is what it is, a fantasy.
Zen

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The path is narrow to the right madness. Be wary of trembling in the wrong places! The demons often disguise themselves as gods. And vice versa.--Sam Keen