Family or Marriage?

I'm in love with a man my age. Only my mother and father would rather I live with them to take care of my elderly mother( she has renal failure). Not many of my family members want me to have a relationship with him.

My goal is to move him from California to Hawaii with our dog, but if he's not going to be welcomed I'd rather choose a life back in Calif. Right now, we're missing each other terribly, but I don't know how to gently tell my parents how much I need him.

Any suggestions welcome...

Hi, Leilee,
It sounds unfair for a family to expect you to be a primary caregiver to the exclusion of your happiness and building your own life and love. How well do you know this man? Does your family disapprove of him because they just want you there to care for Mom, or is the some other reason? Also, what do you mean about the dog...Did I read this correctly...If the dog is not welcomed??? you would rather stay in CA?
Patty

Your dad is married to your mother, not you. It's his responsibility to see she's cared for; that's what the marriage vows mean when they have you promise. . . "in sickness and in health" and "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife" (Genesis 2:24).

When my mother died my father and grandmother tried to make my aunt give up her life and come take care of me and my three brothers. My grandfather put a stop to that.

I recommend doing what is right for you.

you need to do what makes you happy, families will always be there love is like a butterfly, it has a way of dissappearing if you don't grab it