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Oct 07, 2006, 08:09 PM
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i just told my boyfriend today, that last night i cheated on him with someone else. i dont expect forgiveness, and i dont expect him to trust me. thats not what i should get. i just want to be able to still talk to him. no real relationship, no intimacy, just to talk like a friend. i just want to be able to call him every now and then. to be able to im him if i see him online. is it possible. thats all i want from him, and i think after as much as i thought i had given, and after all that he has given that i should deserve at least that, and he could deal with at least that. i dont know. help please.
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#2
Oct 07, 2006, 08:12 PM
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stargazor...... right now and i don't mean to sound mean but you deserve nothing from him maybe in the future he can decide to remain friends with you but don't pressure him let he be the one to come to you let him know you still want to be friends but for now give him some room the trust was broken and he needs time to heal
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Oct 07, 2006, 08:16 PM
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i understand, i dont deserve a damn thing, i %#@&#! up and i hate myself for it
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Oct 07, 2006, 09:34 PM
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he must hate me now. but thats okay, i hate me now too. he keeps asking, what makes you think you'd never do this again. i know that he's hurt right now, in a way that i couldnt possibly understand but, im hurt too, and he doesnt understand that either. why would i be so hurt right now if i didnt care about him. does that make sense? i dont even know why im even bothering, he probably wont ever talk to me again, and i could understand that but i'd never be able to accept it.
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Oct 07, 2006, 09:41 PM
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well it makes sense thats why time is important he needs to be angry for awhile while you should look at why you went else where to begin with it is possible though that he will come around my sisters husband cheated on her and after some time they can now get along and have a conversation with each other without fighting depending on the type of person he is with the communicating is a big part i know its hard on you but you were honest and that counts for something
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Oct 08, 2006, 05:48 PM
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He is going to need a lot of space right now... don't push him, wait until he is ready.
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Oct 09, 2006, 01:36 AM
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things will work out ! with hope anything can happen, because hope is the extention of love. You guys will be fine, i feel it .
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#8
Oct 09, 2006, 10:25 AM
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he says he doesnt know how but he will try to get over this. i've just got to be patient with him, and know that it'll be a while before he'll trust me, even a little bit. there wasnt much trust in the first place, and apparently now he's got a good reason. so we're working on this together, and i'm hoping in the long run it'll make our relationship stronger.
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Your memory is a monster; you forget - it doesn't. It simply files things away. It keeps things for you, or hides things from you - and summons them to your recall with a will of its own. You think you have a memory; but it has you. -John Irving |
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Oct 09, 2006, 04:42 PM
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(((((((( stargazerlily ))))))))
I hope you can work things out in time.
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Oct 09, 2006, 08:37 PM
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(((( stargazerlily ))))
i wish you the best of luck
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Don't give up It's just the hurt that you hide When you're lost inside I'll...I'll be there to find you Don't give up Because you want to burn bright If darkness blinds you I will shine to guide you Everybody wants to be understood |
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#11
Oct 10, 2006, 09:18 AM
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"Working on this together" would probably be the worst possible thing you could do. I've seen it in breakups with me, friends, it's always the same. People want to pull the friends crap while there is too much anger and resentment in the air. I'll say the same thing to you that I do to everyone else, don't call them, don't see them, don't write them, don't email them. Deal with that person on their terms. Even then it probably won't work.
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Oct 11, 2006, 07:03 PM
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i let it happen again, but i know for a fact that i wont again. i havent told him yet. he's back with me i just dont want to lose him again.i'd rather hold onto this knowledge and be the bearer of the guilt, we'll probably end up breaking up over something else anyway.
 i've really been hating myself for this.
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