[lightinthesky]

For those who don't know, it is about me and my ex, me texting him trying to find answers and closure even tho it has been 5 months since he broke up with me, he has blocked me many times for facebook (the only website where I would contact him). As I mentioned he did answered to me few times and tried to be my friend but it didn't work and he would start ignoring me all over again, I agree to admit that my behavior is a little obsessive and I don't want to be that kind of a person. I am only 21 and many people around me keep telling me that my whole life is ahead of me, but I don't see a bright future. He broke my heart and it is very hard to get up and walk again, I hate myself for making him have to hide from and block me, I didn't mean to hurt him or be annoying but this relationship meant everything to me and I couldn't let go just like that.
Is there anything I can do to make up for my behavior? What do I do now? He must hate me and no matter how beautiful our relationship used to be, he will never respect me, although I don't have many reasons to respect him either after what he has done. I don't know..

[confused loved dad]

That must really hurt you now. But the truth is and maybe you don't want to hear it but...he most likely wasn't the one. I'm 52 and when my 2 girls were young I remember both of them saying no he's the one! You'll see life just happens. Now when emotions simmer down,.you will.start to notice other people are out there!
I specifically remember saying to my girls about them meeting someone compatible when their young is almost like hitting powerball. I would be horrible to know you spent your whole life....missing the right one because you spent too much time chasing the wrong one. Everyday it will.get better. Go on with life...it will lead you I'm sure. Good luck. My 2nd.post hope u get it. I need help too!!

[hoping4best]

i had a serious crush on a guy and he never reiprocated my love for him and later blocked me on facebook when i tried contacting him on facebook and repeatedly sent him friend requests im still blocked although its been 3 years you cant really undo what u have done. the only thing u can do is to not cause any more trouble for urself and stop embarrasing yourself by seeking his attention u can do that. i have done that. i still miss him but now its much easier to live without him. may be you can start by sending him a short message in which u apologize for the inconvenience u have caused him and that u'll try to stay out of the way. and then just act upon it..not just say the words you can do this. anyone who has told u that u have got a whole life ahead of u,they are telling the truth u WILL meet more people and hopefully they will be Better people just hang in there dear!

[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by hoping4best

i had a serious crush on a guy and he never reiprocated my love for him and later blocked me on facebook when i tried contacting him on facebook and repeatedly sent him friend requests im still blocked although its been 3 years you cant really undo what u have done. the only thing u can do is to not cause any more trouble for urself and stop embarrasing yourself by seeking his attention u can do that. i have done that. i still miss him but now its much easier to live without him. may be you can start by sending him a short message in which u apologize for the inconvenience u have caused him and that u'll try to stay out of the way. and then just act upon it..not just say the words you can do this. anyone who has told u that u have got a whole life ahead of u,they are telling the truth u WILL meet more people and hopefully they will be Better people just hang in there dear!

I did that, I apologized but I doubt it will change anything, I will try to stay away from him

[KathyM]

(((Lightinthesky)))

There is nothing you can do to make up for the past, and there is nothing you can do to make up for your behavior. The only reason you don't see a bright future is because you are holding onto the past, trying to analyze every moment and blaming yourself. It is unfair to do this to yourself because it keeps you in that rut, unable to move forward.

Your ex has clearly moved on, and so should you. This also means the two of you can never be "friends," or even on friendly terms. Because of the love you feel for him, it would only cause you to relive the pain. You said yourself "this love is killing me." Don't allow it to kill you.

Take this time to focus on yourself and what you want and need in life. Take this time to appreciate the life you have, to discover your own passion and what it is you truly cherish in life. Take this time to learn what you truly prefer in a partner and/or companion in life as you move forward. You can find love again.

[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by KathyM

(((Lightinthesky)))

There is nothing you can do to make up for the past, and there is nothing you can do to make up for your behavior. The only reason you don't see a bright future is because you are holding onto the past, trying to analyze every moment and blaming yourself. It is unfair to do this to yourself because it keeps you in that rut, unable to move forward.

Your ex has clearly moved on, and so should you. This also means the two of you can never be "friends," or even on friendly terms. Because of the love you feel for him, it would only cause you to relive the pain. You said yourself "this love is killing me." Don't allow it to kill you.

Take this time to focus on yourself and what you want and need in life. Take this time to appreciate the life you have, to discover your own passion and what it is you truly cherish in life. Take this time to learn what you truly prefer in a partner and/or companion in life as you move forward. You can find love again.

Thank you

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Originally Posted by lightinthesky

For those who don't know, it is about me and my ex, me texting him trying to find answers and closure even tho it has been 5 months since he broke up with me, he has blocked me many times for facebook (the only website where I would contact him). As I mentioned he did answered to me few times and tried to be my friend but it didn't work and he would start ignoring me all over again, I agree to admit that my behavior is a little obsessive and I don't want to be that kind of a person. I am only 21 and many people around me keep telling me that my whole life is ahead of me, but I don't see a bright future. He broke my heart and it is very hard to get up and walk again, I hate myself for making him have to hide from and block me, I didn't mean to hurt him or be annoying but this relationship meant everything to me and I couldn't let go just like that.
Is there anything I can do to make up for my behavior? What do I do now? He must hate me and no matter how beautiful our relationship used to be, he will never respect me, although I don't have many reasons to respect him either after what he has done. I don't know..

"a little obsessive" - to be honest I'm only saying this to help you, it is more than a little obsessive. 5 months after a break up you should be moving on. If he hasn't given you "closure" however you're expecting it, you're not going to get it. The fact that he's blocked you multiple times on fb says to me that you're looking for him to fix your problem and not thinking at all about him and the space you should be giving him. Continually trying to contact an ex that has clearly moved on is not doing anything for you or for him at all. For you, it's only continuing to exacerbate the wounds that were inflicted initially. He left you and you feel rejected. To continue and try to get him to respond to you in any way is just setting yourself up for continued and repeated rejection which in the end is going to leave you wounded more and bleeding on the side of the road.

I don't have advice as to what you can do to make up for the behavior. I wouldn't worry about that at all. Move on, and take care of YOU. If you don't have a therapist, please, get one, you need someone to get your head straight about this situation and get back on your feet. The relationship is gone and over.

Again I dont' say this to be cruel, but to be honest. You have to come to terms with what you're dealing with or you'll forever be stuck in hurt, victimized mode.

[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

"a little obsessive" - to be honest I'm only saying this to help you, it is more than a little obsessive. 5 months after a break up you should be moving on. If he hasn't given you "closure" however you're expecting it, you're not going to get it. The fact that he's blocked you multiple times on fb says to me that you're looking for him to fix your problem and not thinking at all about him and the space you should be giving him. Continually trying to contact an ex that has clearly moved on is not doing anything for you or for him at all. For you, it's only continuing to exacerbate the wounds that were inflicted initially. He left you and you feel rejected. To continue and try to get him to respond to you in any way is just setting yourself up for continued and repeated rejection which in the end is going to leave you wounded more and bleeding on the side of the road.

I don't have advice as to what you can do to make up for the behavior. I wouldn't worry about that at all. Move on, and take care of YOU. If you don't have a therapist, please, get one, you need someone to get your head straight about this situation and get back on your feet. The relationship is gone and over.

Again I dont' say this to be cruel, but to be honest. You have to come to terms with what you're dealing with or you'll forever be stuck in hurt, victimized mode.

Thanks. I do have a therapist.

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