[valexand]

Always, always alone! For so long and all the time. I have done it all to try and resolve this situation. Posted my face in a singles-dating site, joined groups and keep meeting new people...but all I see is people matching up with each other everywhere I go. For me there is nobody. Being alone has taken its own shape and sound in my life.
I don't think I am ugly. I think I am quite presentable. I am also well educated. However nobody approaches me and because I don't see anybody looking my way, I don't approach anyone either.
This feeling of loneliness is affecting my job lately. I have stopped going to work on time and early. I wake up in the morning and I so don't give a d*** about anything anymore. I have stopped being productive too. All I find myself doing at work is checking my email every minute in hopes that I get some email from somebody. Lately I have cought myself welcoming spam email as well. How pathetic is that? Then, after working hours, everybody goes home and I just sit at my desk, pretending that I am working hard. I stay there late even till 11:00pm sometimes, so that when I come back home I won't have to face a silent apartment. All I do when I come back is go to sleep and in this way I don't have to remember my situation.
Yes I know, pretty pathetic. I had never thought that I would become like this.

[FaithisAlive]

I'm sorry you are so lonely....have you tried a singles group at a church? Sometimes thats a good way to meet new people.

You could try volunteering for something.... i dunno what.. whatever interests you.. working at the rescue mission a bit.. or the hospital..you can really meet some great folks volunteering.

I think you do need to get out.. go walk in the mall after work.. join the Y... So you don't stay in this state of mind...

I hope this difficult time passes soon hun.. you deserve to be happy too.

[Soidhonia]

Hello I hope things get better fory ou soon. Maybe there is a singles group in your area, that you can join. There is NAMI and DBSA if you have mental health issues and would like to atten a support goroup in your area. Both of these groups can be found on the internet. I also want to leaveyou a hotline number to call if you are depressed and would just like to talk to someone in person. 1-800-273-TALK. Take care Sincerely Soidhonia

[Wants2Fly]

Hello -- I understand what it feels like to be lonely. Because of illness, I have just about enough energy to hold me job, and I come home and crash. Other issues, too, but I want to respond to you, not write about me.

When I had more energy to "get a life," what worked for me was to find something that interested me and pursue that. It never worked for me to making "meeting people" the goal; it worked better for me if I was interested in something and met other people who also were interested in that. At various times in my life, the things that have interested me were being a barfly, yoga, AA, and chuch study groups.

I hope you find something that interests you to pursue. Also, do you have health benefits that will allow you to see a counselor to work on this? If you don't have such benefits, is it possible that you can find a sliding scale group that you can afford?

Wishing you a better new year.