[selena24]

ive suffered from depression for ten years now and still dont know how to handle it fully.
It seems i have self esteem issues...i dont trust people....i always push the people that want to be close to me away. I met this special man but found a reason to push him away. I felt like i was no good, that i wasn't good enough for him and he could do better. I want to stop feeling like this but it seems i keep doing it to myself....i need advice....

[okiedokie]

Hi Selena,
Welcome to PC!

May I recommend that you check out the sharing self help forum and self esteem threads. It sounds like you have a lot of insight already and that's half the battle.

There are a lot of people who will be able to help you here. Do you have a T? Are you on an antidepressant medication? Both of these options can be helpful.

Keep posting and reading the other posts. I think you'll find the group of folks here to be very friendly and helpful.
Take care,
Okie

[tiodlliwi]

I also suggest the self-esteem forum. I find it really helpful. I have also struggled with anxiety/slight depression for about 10 years and only recently am starting to feel really uncomfortable being around people (friends and family especially). I always feel like they'll think I'm acting weird or that my anxiousness will just be out of control. I find it helpful to confide in a couple really close friends if you can and whatever you do, do not push them away. You need to be able to vent to SOMEONE. Why do you feel you can't trust? Just curious. Good luck and check out the other forum!

[Soidhonia]

Hello Selena. Welcome to Psych Central. there are many therapists that can help with self esteem issues that you may be having at this time and help you to navigate your life and your decisions that you make in the future more positive and productive in relationships. I hope the best for you in your future and I hope you get a therapist that can help you discover the life you need and deserve Take care Sincerely soidhonia

[Fuzzybear]

Hi selena, I also suggest you keep reading and posting, lots of people here (including me ) struggle with similar issues. Seeing a therapist would also help you with depression and with trust and self esteem issues. There isn't a quick fix answer but things will get better....

Take care,
Fuzzy

[justaguy]

why not just tell the guy your problem with trust and your pushing away then when you try to push him away he might say no im not going away. if you fail the two of you might stay together long enough to make and investment in each other.

[metalgypsy]

I'm having a lot of the same problems- it seems like I've been pushing my husband away because I'm so desperate not to lose him. Lately, I've felt threatened and so I feel like I've been annoyingly clingy. I don't know how to stop being this way even though i know better. I'm looking for a therapist to no avail so far, and have taken the advice that people posted to you here.

Hope you feel better.

[tiodlliwi]

I, too, am in the same boat. I have rational days where I feel like I am strong and confident, then I can feel it coming on and I turn into a mess despite the fact that I know it has the opposite affect that I wish it did. I will fall apart, act totally needy, cry, etc. Then, when that dies down, I can tell my husband is a little more distant and freaked out. I feel like if my actions continue, my husband will never again see me as the strong, confident, independent woman I once was- more importantly, I will never be able to envision that person either. I don't want to lose him and I don't really think I will. But what if it doesn' t go away? What if he just has enough? What if it gets worse? Yes, the terrible "what ifs" are what do me in. This is the main thing I'm working on with my therapist. It has helped- baby steps though.

Good luck and I feel your pain.