He has gf but he texts me everyday

I'm just wondering- if guy has girlfriend but he texts me everyday does he like me or what? We have met only for two times and he told me he has girlfriend, I liked him at first sight, I think I'm in love.
He texts me everyday, we chat till the 2 AM but he sometimes tell me something about his gf too but nothing much.
I'm wondering why he chat with me all the time if he has girlfriend. As I realised he met her only at holidays. Maybe he doesn't like anyone of us but I hope I have a choice to be his girlfriend.

I know it's stupid but I really like him and just want to know opinion about it. We talk about everything like friends but I wouldn't chat everyday with someone I don't like.

Honestly? I think that if there is a chance that he would leave this girl for you, there is that chance that it could happen to you as well. The fact that he is showing interest in you while he has a g/f may be a sign that this could be a bad situation. BUT this is not always the case. My advice to you is that if this guys pursues a relationship with you that you act with caution and take things slowly, make sure you really know this person.

I just think if I switch the roles around, how would I feel if my bf is talking to a girl that wants him? Or if he becomes my BF, is he going to do the same thig to another girl? I also don't want to be a side person. I wouldn't go forward with someone who is taken though

NO! ABSOLUTELY NOT! If he has a girlfriend, then forget about it. And you've met him 2x, and you're already "in love," and want to be his girlfriend, knowing that he already has one? No. You've got other issues you need to deal with, it sounds like. It sounds to me like you're just easy prey for him. Run! Run far away!

He said he feels like he wastes his time being with her and that he could do better things not sitting with her, he said that sitting home with her makes him depressed and so bored so I don't believe it's true love if he feels that way with her, I felt the same way with my ex bf

I'm just thinking that he is not happy with her if he needs one more girl to chat with everynight, so I hope that I have a choice, he is not married

If he's not happy with her, then he would have left her...

Honestly, you're kinda the other woman, here. You don't have to keep talking to a man who already has a girlfriend.

Sounds like he wants both of you.

He is with her for more then year, she is really rich, she looks like barbie, he said that her mother helped him a lot (I think with money), he met me for only two times and after our last meeting he texts me everynight.
If he didn't have gf I would be sure he likes me but now I don't know.

As others had said.. No he's not a good guy if hes texting you all the time while with her. If he will do that to her then he would mostly do the same to you. What do you guys text about anyway?

As for your statement " I think I love him" ... based on your love of your T and how unhealthy that is/was. You have only met this guy twice, Sure you have texted, But try to not jump to the "love" thinking so fast. Have you really worked through the love you had with your former T? This fellow is NOT single, don't get involved unless he is truly single ! You deserve a Man that will Love YOU, Not play with your feelings or deceive you. You deserve a real healthy relationship.

Becareful.

I never said I love him, I don't, I'm in love with him I think because I think about him all the time, I can't wait to see him again, time is fading so fast when we talk, I'm so happy when he calls me. We have similar interests and he said he likes me as a person, he always texts me first.

I think that young people change their gf and bf many times before they found the real one and he has gf and he doesn't live together with her, it doesn't mean he is madly in love with her and even if he is, it doesn't mean he can't fall in love with another girl.
Okay I don't think he is in love with me but it makes me think he is not really in love with his gf too... He doesn't text me anything about sex and stuff like that, he asks me many questions about things in my life etc, I really don;t know why, maybe he is bored and have noone to chat with or maybe he chat with not only me at this time, who knows.
If he wanted both of us he would lie about his gf, he doesn't have any pics of her on facebook just some where she tagged him.
I'm confused and dont know what to think.

This might be a learning experience for you, who knows. You really like him so you are probably not going to stop texting with him.. so it will either continue on like this until one day you guys won't talk anymore or maybe he really wants to be with you. Who knows. Like you said, young people change their minds quite often.. and their BF and GF. Well, some do. It could be that if you end up being with him that he will find another girl to text with. He may always need others to talk with, some people are just like that.
In the end it comes down to what you want to put up with, what you are ok with. You might just get tired of his behavior or you may meet someone else eventually who is actually available.
Good luck!

If he's not happy with her then why doesn't he leave. If he is unhappy and stays with her anyway because she "looks like Barbie" and has a lot of money, then what does that tell you about him as a person? And how can you be in love with someone you hardly know?

I can't control my feelings by my mind.

Maybe I don't judge him because I were in similar situation, I was with boyfriend who had much money, I was unhappy with him but I scared to left him before I met another guy, I didn't want to be alone, so I searched for another man while being with my bf.
I don't ask him about his gf anything, I don't want to hurt myself, sometimes he tells me something about her and that's all.

[quote=lunatic soul;4290848]I never said I love him, I don't, I'm in love with him I think because I think about him all the time, I can't wait to see him again, time is fading so fast when we talk, I'm so happy when he calls me. We have similar interests and he said he likes me as a person, he always texts me first.

I think that young people change their gf and bf many times before they found the real one and he has gf and he doesn't live together with her, it doesn't mean he is madly in love with her and even if he is, it doesn't mean he can't fall in love with another girl.
Okay I don't think he is in love with me but it makes me think he is not really in love with his gf too... He doesn't text me anything about sex and stuff like that, he asks me many questions about things in my life etc, I really don;t know why, maybe he is bored and have noone to chat with or maybe he chat with not only me at this time, who knows.
If he wanted both of us he would lie about his gf, he doesn't have any pics of her on facebook just some where she tagged him.
I'm confused and dont know what to think.[/quote

In bold .. This is where I get confused when you talk of "love" I know there is language differences between us... maybe that is why I can't understand what you mean when you use the word "love"

Yes many people change boyfriends and girlfriends until the find someone they want to stay with. Its always best to end one relationship before starting another one. You know having respect and all that stuff.

I only brought up your relationship or lack there of a romantic one that you so desperately wanted with your T ... I would hate for you to become attached to someone again that is already taken.

Maybe he is just bored and likes to talk to other women, but would you be okay having a boyfriend that spent lots of time texting another girl while you were with him?

Just things you may want to consider.

[QUOTE=lunatic soul;4291225...so I searched for another man while being with my bf.
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I don't know if you know that this is wrong...but since it's what you did, I can understand why you think him texting you and you replying is fine.

I once briefly dated a guy who turned out to have a gf. I did not know the entire time. What a jerk he was!

Now you DO know he has a gf and why exactly are you texting and talking? You can't say you two are friends as you only met twice.

I just realized that you are the same person in love with t and then having abusive bf and now this guy. You go for men who are already taken and/or not good people (as your BF and now this dude) . You need very intense therapy on the subject not the kind of therapy where you worry about how to get t to date you but the one where will work on your issues (explore family dynamics learn strategies etc etc)

I spent most of my adult life attracted to wrong men either unavailable or bad people. I am only now exploring it in therapy and am trying to heal and grow. Don't wait until you almost 50 like me (never too late though!) and try to get better now! Please.



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Yes I know it's wrong, I was unhappy with my bf but didnt want to be alone and many people do it, esspecially depressive people who don;t want to be alone

Many clients in therapy are stupid and fall in love with their Ts or get attached. My T is young and hot and he kissed me no wonder I attracted to him and as I read on this forum there are many women attracted to their Ts, so what?
I had also other boyfriends I didnt mention here because I didn't have issues with them to post here.
I don;t think he is wrong man. I know 4 guys who like me but I don't want to waste myself in relationships with man who isn't perfect for me.

[QUOTE=~Christina;4291470]Yes there are difference between LOVE and BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE.
Love is when you strongly love someone you know (friends, family, husband etc) but being in love is fading feelings when you get attached or attracted to the man.

I see how my coworkers change their lovers and it seems normal for me, maybe we have different cultures. He is not taken, he just dates a girl, he doesn't live with her and he is not married.

Lunatic soul I'm curious r u Asian?

No, why do you think so?

But this is NOT okay....

I assume you are very young and developing a moral compass takes a while. But maybe you should think about what you consider right and wrong behavior.

Generally, treat people the way you would want to be treated.

If you would want to be in the position of the girlfriend who's boyfriend is texting and speaking badly to others about, then keep doing what you're doing.

Because of the way u write. U "sounded" Asian to me. Will u please check ur pm I have another question. For u there

Feeling "in love" with three different men (bf, t, now someone else's bf) all within few months indicates major major issue with attachments and self esteem.

I can't say enough how much professional help you need! What type of relationship do you have with your parents? Does family dynamics Contribute to your feeling of desperation needing to be with men, any men, no matter they are taken or abusive. Please seek help

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Lunatic soul, I am getting the impression that you already know what the answer is; but you wanna do what you wanna do any way and are looking for someone, or some way, to justify your actions.