The past 6 month

It's been 9 month since we broke up. And I miss her like crazy. I had baggage but she managed. But I guess time went on, my jealous ways began to show. Inside my head she was cheating, deceitful, a liar. But my guilty conscience wasn't clean I'd cheated on her many of times. The domestic violence began when I had a drink, it got from bad to worse in the space of week. She stayed. I tried to quit drinking. But she went out. I was hiding alcohol in the house, she would come home I was drunk. The violence started again. I eventually left her. Because the free life is for me. And I'd had enough of her. I'm now dating someone else but she reminds me of my ex what should I do?

Fizzle kid, Do you feel like she is also cheating, being deceitful, and a liar, and that's why she reminds you of your ex? Many times people tend to accuse others of behaviors they are or have committed themselves.

I always say never make important decisions based on moods, feelings or emotions. Perhaps you could discuss your past relationship with your new girlfriend and the two of you could talk about your fears. Best Wishes!!!

Fizzle kid, Hello and welcome to PC.

Thank you for your story. Which ever way the violence happened that is not going to be good for a healthy relationship. The drinking is something that you may want to get help with. There are many 12 step programs available like AA (alcoholics anonymous). Until the drinking is under control, it is hard to start fresh with anyone. Also seeing a counselor about the cheating would be essentially important. I hope that you seek professional help so you can get to the root of these problems.

Welcome to PC. I hope that you find the answers that you are hoping for. If you need help in navigating this site feel free to contact a community liaison or moderator.

Best wishes here at PC.

Does her personality remind you of your ex or the feelings that have arisen within yourself in a sense of reaching a certain level of time and you're questioning behavior within the relationship?

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Welcome to Psych Central fizzie kid. Sorry you are feeling stuck in a pattern. This has happened to me where I left one relationship for another and the problems I had in the first one seemed to come along in my baggage.

One forum that might be of interest
Addictions - Forums at Psych Central

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You should try to work on your problems. You should never beat a woman. And you should also work on your alcoholism. Intimacy issues such as cheating and jealousy are going to plague all of your relationships until you get to the root of why you're feeling the need to do these things. Therapy is a good first step. So is remaining sober.