[Lexicon78]

Does anyone have any good advice on getting over someone. It's been a year and I'm nowhere near being over my ex. She's dating again and I'm not dealing with it very well at all and I still see her around a lot so it's really hard. This morning I wanted to SI over it and I can't stand not being in her life. She barely talks to me and it's just ripping me apart. Yesterday I saw her and looked in her eyes and just lost it. Somebody please help!

[dexter]

As a start, it may help to understand that a relationship breakup is a loss just as is the death of someone close, in that we respond to it in the same way, according to the widely accepted "Five Stages of Grief"

These are just guides, the stages don't come in any particular order, and some people dwell on a particular stage for a long time while others do the whole thing very quickly. I can help to identify what stage you feel you might be in but mostly it might help to recognize and accept that what you are going through is truly a grieving process and that it is normal for people breaking up. Two years ago a loss of an almost-relationship triggered this in me and was a very large contribuiting factor to my current depression.

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[JessF]

Lexicon78, I believe I feel what you’re going through, I truly do. My ex. is always on my mind; she’s the fist and last thought on my mind each day. I work with my ex. and it’s gotten to the point where I can’t look at her without breaking down. If you can, let some distance grow between the two of you, and keep busy. If you care about her as much as I believe you do, it’ll only prolong the anguish for you if you keep reopening that wound with contact. She is not worth taking your own life. You will meet other people and feel loved again. Surround yourself with family and friends and people who love you. Time heals all wounds.

[angel04]

I've been without my ex for nearly a year too and I'm nowhere near the 'getting over it" stage either. He, however, seemed to be over it the second he moved out. I don't think I will ever move on or come to terms with it. I'm sorry for your pain and I'm sorry I don't have good advice for you. I just wanted you to know that I understand.

"Sometimes it takes other people to point reality out to those who don't live there"
me

[seeking]

I feel for you and I understand what you must be going through. It took me 6 years once to get over someone. Someone once said: The easiest way to get over a loved one is to fall in love again. Easier said than done, I imagine. Try to stay busy with other activities, get a new hobby, meet new people. Sorry but that is the only advice I have.