Am I overreacting? Do coworkers share this info randomly?

Mar 16, 2015, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Yes. When there is something totally bad happening in my relationship I want people to tell me what they think. You two argue a lot then you need 12 days to decide and he is already interested in someone else. For me that is a disaster tmzbe

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So you want ppl to tell you what you already know but not offer solutions, correct? I pretty clearly stated that we have problems and you essentially walked by after I said "I'm chocking" and yelled, "yup, you're gonna die."

divine1966 · Mar 16, 2015, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by rouge198

I understand but I notice a harshness here sometimes that I wouldn't expect given the challenges ppl here face day to day living with MI. I'm not asking for support, just maturity in posting. A quick scan of divine's posts revealed that she's been recently acquainted with trauma and pain related to relationships, I'd expect her to be a little more sensitive to others struggling with issues in relationships.

Precisely that is why I don't want to see you suffer in disastrous relationship! I know how disaster looks! I think it is disastrous that he is interested in someone after less than two weeks of you guys not talking . I think you deserve much better !!!!!Now you don't have to agree, it is just my opinion.

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divine1966 · Mar 16, 2015, 05:52 PM

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divine1966 · Mar 16, 2015, 05:56 PM

In my opinion solution is to leave him. Sorry. Apparently I didn't type that up correctly. After saying it is a disaster I meant to say "run", I type on my phone and it sucks big time!!! Sorry. But I also realized now that you said you already broke off a relationship. Now solution might be therapy to grieve and move on? If he agreed to a break up, if not I still think solution is to leave. Good luck to you!

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Mar 16, 2015, 09:00 PM

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healingme4me · Mar 16, 2015, 09:40 PM

One thing that crossed my mind, upon reading a response, was the point about your bf's child and telling to change the child or the relationship is over. That'd be a point for me, as a single parent to shut down and build walls. Of course, it's not a child's decision on who their parent is involved with, however, sometimes they are their own people and granted need reminding about who's adult who's child, suddenly there's this nagging feeling like it's the kid or the new partner. Feels icky.

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Mar 17, 2015, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by healingme4me

One thing that crossed my mind, upon reading a response, was the point about your bf's child and telling to change the child or the relationship is over. That'd be a point for me, as a single parent to shut down and build walls. Of course, it's not a child's decision on who their parent is involved with, however, sometimes they are their own people and granted need reminding about who's adult who's child, suddenly there's this nagging feeling like it's the kid or the new partner. Feels icky.

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Things ended up being resolved with me and the child. I favor her mom who abandoned her so she lashed out at me. She was afraid I would steal her only parent. She also struggles with adhd. After some reading and maturing, I learned to see it less as a personal attack on me and my relationship with her changed drastically. I'm not significantly older than the child as her father and I have a 12 year age gap and she and I are 12 years apart. So I struggled with how to be not quite a future step mom but an adult who will be there for her. She gave me a hug and thanked me for not giving up on her a little while ago. I felt like thanking her for teaching me so much about parenting, relationships and myself.

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