hey so, i got my restraining order granted for three years, and there are visits set in place, and we are allowed to have contact, only to discuss the baby. but my ex is crossing the lines telling me he loves me and wants his family back - and i am beyond done. i do not understand how he could possibly think that there is even a chance of a reconciliation. i just think he is obsessed. him telling me he loves me and is in love with me, creeps me out. i politely told him that he needs to move on and focus on himself and being a father, i also told him that i do not love him and i am not in love with him. and that i have moved on, to a relationship that is rather serious. this annoyed him, i could tell, he said he didn't care about my boyfriend and then he started sort of mocking the relationship. said things like, "bet it doesn't last 7 years" and "doesn't matter because my name is on your neck" (i have a tattoo of his name, but i just tell people it is my sons name since they have the same name) i want to get this tattoo covered up. obviously my ex still thinks he owns me. i am not a piece of garbage or an object to be claimed. i am a human being with emotions. anyway... thanks for listening.

i told him before that i have a boyfriend, before the restraining order and everything, we were broken up or whatever. he thinks i am making my boyfriend up, that's fine, i don't have to prove anything to him. the only reason i told him again that i have a boyfriend and it is serious, is because i'm trying to let him understand that there is - and will never again be an "us". but it just seemed to annoy him. i just want to move away and take my son with me and never see this bastard again, data erase this one pls.

[gayleggg]

I'm so sorry that you are having to endure this. Just be careful. It sounds like it could still be a volatile situation even though you have a restraining order.

[hannabee]

Yes, I agree with Gayle! Please be careful and mindful of everything that you do that involves him. Not to scare you but, when my mother wanted a divorce, my father came over with a gun and played Russian Roulette with her. He lost and I lost a father at age 6. Actually probably not a great loss, the moron! Just be aware that terrible things can happen and you need to watch out! Big hug for you!

just wanted to let you guys know i made photocopies of the restraining order the certain parts he was in violation of and i highlighted the stuff he was violating. i also blocked his phone from texts and phone calls. the restraining order says i am not suppose to even see him in person, the pick-up and drop-offs of the child are suppose to be done through the people where he is living. before the people where he was living would bring him(my ex) with them to pick up the child - and i realize now that this was a mistake, i was trying to be nice, but i was also in violation of the order, i was even letting the child stay over a little bit longer than what the court had ordered. anyway, all of that is over, i am going to follow the order 100%, that way he can't "think" anything. after all it says NO CONTACT unless peaceful and only to discuss the child and it must be brief. forget trying to be this guys friend. we're only parents of a child, and nothing more than that. i regret this entire relationship from day one, the only thing i do not regret is my child. it's too bad his father is ... weird, for a lack of a better word.

good news though, my child absolutely loves my boyfriend and i didn't push that on the child or my boyfriend, they seem to have just clicked. of course the child loves his dad as well, but he is a little weary about his father. the father was emotionally abusive towards the child as well, i don't even know why i allowed visits... our parenting styles are completely different. second chance for him to be a father i guess, i have no idea, i sort of also regret allowing visits because when my child comes back his behavior sucks. hahaha. ....

[Seeyalater]

Be careful. What you do now in your life now doesnt involve him. You don't have to discuss your new boyfriend. All you need to discuss is the baby. End of story.

no i know, i just thought maybe he'd get it if i told him i moved on, but i guess he thinks i am making up the new boyfriend. that's fine. like i said in a previous post, i blocked his phone from any communication, i'm good. he can't handle it, he always brings it back to the possibility of a reconciliation. that will never in my life, happen. i am beyond done with this guy. i regret even allowing visits, oh but then it "looks bad on me". gtfo. anyway. thanks for your feedback guys. i appreciate it.

[healingme4me]

In order to make a restraining order work, it's a matter of realizing you cannot play nice. Is he in any type of program for anger or domestic violence?
Three years is rather lengthy, where I am it's one year. Not certain but they, the restraining orders have conflicts with family probate in the sense that even a non custodial parent has legal rights. Unless specifically written. If specifically written, then typically, there's no visitation.
Hope you are receiving child support, even if never married, it's a legal obligation to help the childs homelife.
Discussion regarding children only looks something like this...((mine start with - ))

-(Pic of boys with easter bunny)

Brett looks like he doesn't want to be there
-With the bunny?
Yes
-He seemed fine. Was by that point practicing smiling without crunching his nose

-Can you watch Jason Thursday 4-6? There's a family nutrition workshop and he freaked at the thought of it. Walter actually wants to go
I'll let you know
-Ok
You know yes it will give me and Jason some one on one time

Can you go take my credit card off wally Xbox I can't do it on my phone go to his account you can do it there
-I told him to, how bad was it?
17:00 dollars
-Ugh...

The judge in probate suggested lift the order, but...with knowledge my ex has no abuse as terms of his probation for assaulting me..


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