Need Help. First Boy friend...

Yes i know.. i'm old.. (20) and still have just recently had my first boyfriend... in this area i feel like I should already know all these things by my age, but ... I JUST DONT...

We've been together for around 2 and a half months to 3 months. And recently (2 weeks) he's stoped really hanging out with me... all together.. then just a few days ago he said he would come to lunch with me and my friend.. and for us to go ahead and go and he would meet us there... right after he finished capturing something for the teacher... well we went... 30 mins later we come back after waiting through 2 lunch periods for him to show, he never did, and i find him watching anime episodes on youtube.com ... that sorta ticked me of that anime was more important than me (and that he had LONG finished the capturing part for the teacher on our news segment). Then in the last lunch he goes with this boy.... to which he has been ditching me and my friend for, for 2 weeks now... Then when I emailed him asking why, he said that "I dont care, it's not my fault" ... then I replyed "I know that you dont care that I'm mad, but do you still care about me?" then he replied "It's not that I dont care that you are mad..." and he didn't even answer the question as to if he still cared for me... then when I asked "u still love me?" he ignored me... v.v I dont know what to do.. for the past few days we've kinda just either taken turns staying out of school to advoid each other... or just being sick to goto the nurse to leave the classroom.
I kinda need to know what to do...
My friends all seem to be giving me all these diffrent suggestions to which none of them have worked...

maybe you both need to give each other a little space, your in school consintrate on that, first boyfriends are not the last, possible you went into relationship to fast, just give him a little time
Angie

i totally undrstand you! i had my first boyfriend at the age of 20 too, and after a while he started being such a ****.

i must say that what helps *a lot* to us girls is remembering we DESERVE a honotable attitude. i don`t want to give you more sugessions, you said youself you had enough. but i think that you should stay yourself and THINK about youself and about what will make you feel better in this situation.

the quesiton "does he love me" and "what does he think of our relationship" are all naturall.
but the REAL q? is:
what do I think of him now?
do i feel he is treating me right?

really, this "new face" of that guy-how does it look TO YOU?
YOU have the power, the decsison in your hands. do you still like him how much? how this relationtiop is important TO YOU?

becasue right now when you avoid each other - i suppose that only tempopry, becasue if you had a relationship you wil have to talk. so i think it will be good for you to deside how exactly you feel about it all and what you want to say.

are you frustrated? betrayd? losing interest?
talking honestly and revealing the truth is good, but not whem we blame the other and say what we suppose that he thinks, but focusing on ourselves!

good luck!

Thanks both of you; and..

"what do I think of him now?"
I still love him with all of my heart, and i am worried about him when he is sick, and.... I still love him... but I know if he doesn't love me, then I should let it go... though unlike all the other girls I see at my school, I wont hop right back on the train with another guy.....

"do i feel he is treating me right?"
He's not abusive. He's always nice to me, and protects me... But... He doesn't treat me like I think a boyfriend should... he really doesn't hang out with me any more.. not even once in a whole month...

I forced him to answer me yesterday, and I wouldn't reply to anything he sent me that wasn't an answer in my txt messages... He replied "The truth is, I truely dont know" ... then after i responded "okay, thanks for finally answering... when you do know, can you let me know? I wont push it anymore."
then he responded "I still like you though" hence the word... like... and he refrain from the love word...so I guess it's his way of saying "lets be friends".

"really, this "new face" of that guy-how does it look TO YOU?"
I feel like he hates me... with a great passion to it... something in his eyes changed... from the soft loving gently look to a cold icey and scary look that just sends a deep chill down me when i look into them...

"YOU have the power, the decsison in your hands. do you still like him how much? how this relationtiop is important TO YOU?"
Yes I still do... v.v though I feel that I should let it go.. And I dont want to... I LOVE that extreme safe feeling that I get when he would put his arm around me... and... this relationship is more important to me than anything... I gave up the chance I had to go live with my dad and step mom to stay close to him... hence they live in Texas while we live in Indiana.

I believe he has lost interest.. Just like he was my first boyfriend, I am his first girlfriend... I feel .... so much more than confused... and a lot of hurt.
and, I'll try my hardest not to blame him, when I should be looking at myself instead.

And thank you for your help

i must say that i also felt exactly the same thing.
i didn`t want to let this relationship go, although i though it would be better for my nerve system ^_^

and my boyfriend didn`t hang out with me, prefering his friends. or playstation games.

now i see he is SUCH a week person. such little poor...

i suppose what you call his hatred really hurts you. i think it may be indifference, but not only TO YOU. to the whole world-except for himself of course. i don`t know of course. don`t take it for sure.

i hope you don`t think that something is wrong with you! something is wrong with HIM.