[ddshow]

So the other day was the 1 year anniversary of my cousin passing away and I had hidden all of my feelings all week in order to not bring down my fiance. So the day came where it was the day I had found out last year that she had passed. That's when all of the feelings hit me. However, my fiance had plans the day I broke down and he had still expected me to follow through with them even when I said maybe its best I dont come. So he got upset with me that I was being too selfish that I was still upset about my cousin and that I should get over her death and that I should suck it up cuz I was ruining his plans for the night. And then he decided to tell me to leave and never come back, as I was crying. So that happened and I left and after a few hours I had to return so I could sleep as I worked the next morning and I had nothing with me. So now I feel like this relationship is a one way street where he only expects the world and if I say I just need time, I am the selfish one. Help. I don't think I can be in this relationship or marry him anymore...

[Bill3]

I don't think I can be in this relationship or marry him anymore...

I am so sorry for your loss.

It was exceedingly cruel to disregard your intense feelings on the anniversary of learning of your cousin's death. And then to tell you to leave and never come back: that was unspeakable. Your feelings sound entirely reasonable; the one-year anniversary of a loss is well known to often be an extremely emotional and difficult day.

I wish you comfort and healing today and from now on. Are there other people in your life to whom you can turn and be treated with the kindness and understanding that you deserve?

(((((ddshow)))))

[Open Eyes]

I would say that the way you were treated is a red flag warning sign. I think you need to really think about the kind of individual you are thinking of committing to. If a person is that drastic about not comforting you and instead resorts to kicking you out and telling you to not come back, then you really need to pay attention and evaluate going any further seriously. What you have just described is emotional abuse. Don't allow yourself to be with a person like that, it typically only gets even worse.

[avlady]

i would leave this person asap

[ChipperMonkey]

Look at this as a blessing from GOD!

You've been given a perfectly clear sign that this guy is a grade-A JERK! He tells you to leave because you're upset over the death of your cousin? I can understand if he was upset that his plans were ruined for the day (but even so, he should have had some compassion for you!) But telling you to leave because you were upset? Kick this guy to the curb before you marry him and get chained to him for life! (Or until divorce, but that's pretty messy and best avoided...)