Boyfriend mad at me

Hello. Thought today was a good day guess not. My boyfriend of almost 10 years wants to talk to me tomorrow about not having my stuff updated he was borrowing my laptop for a Skype interview.

I asked him why doesn't he know his account yet wants to go on mine? I haven't been on it no time busy with job and interviews now. I agree I should have had things updated it's his interview his responsibility to make sure he has what he needs. I feel in this relationship I gotta be the mother he could have said something Saturday to check he took too damn long waking up after I got to his house didn't leave his house until close to 1pm so we could do our Bible study.

Why don't he say you suck at responsibility? I get anxiety when he's not happy with me worry too much. I wasn't stopping him at all from that interview I have too much **** going on always reminding him do this and that! It's not easy to say you're in the wrong I am doing breathing exercises now.

I feel like boyfriend puts a lot of responsibility on me he said not true. I am 29 and he's 35. Is taking responsibility supposed to be look perfect? Is there a good way of doing it? I felt like crying earlier it's like I'm sorry 4 working 8.5 hrs on Monday.

I just wanted to vent I hate having those difficult talks I get easily angered anxiety emotional withdraw etc been working on it.

After 10 years he is still a bf and you two don't live together. That's unusual but ok maybe that's what you want but he has no business to tell you what you updated or not. He should buy his own laptop. You two don't even live together and he puts responsibility for his life on you? Hmmm I'll tell him to take care of his own business. Maybe time for serious talk with him where is this going

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No still don't live together finding jobs in my state is not easy at all. I have told him in the past that it's not his job to tell me what to do with my own stuff got into a big fight long ago. Coming from someone who can't get up on time always sleeping in this started when he was on a computer all day and night before I met him and after we dated.

I have told him why don't you buy your own computer? He wanted me to buy him one for his birthday and I said no. Just like his dad explains why his mom left 12 years ago she told me he's just like his dad it needs to stop but he don't see it that way. True he doesn't get it either. I'm glad we're not married probably will end in divorce which he doesn't think so.

We just got done talking he apologized to me and I apologized to him told him not to place everything on me. He said I will take responsibility for himself I told him we are both in the wrong for what happened he agreed.

Honestly I would feel like I waste years of my life. No commitment and dating for that long and things aren't even good. He asks fur a computer? Have you considered that maybe he isn't the one for you?

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For a birthday present. As far as I'm concerned I would like to get married but I can live with common law this was before meeting him. Life isn't gonna fall apart if you're not married huge misconception women have and some men too. He's been there 4 me when no one else cared.

get a fake divorce-just kidding-if you are still with him and hs treating you like his mother i would think twice

If you are happy how things are then it is all good. But you aren't. Otherwise you wouldn't be posting here. No life isn't going to fall apart as long as that's what both of you want. Usually being treated as a mother isn't fun. But we all want different things.

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Yup

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That's what I was thinking. Sounds like your typical man-child.

He might have been there when nobody else cared, but that was then and this is now... and in this now your miserable.

I guess it's the care-giver in me, but I would never ask for something like a computer from my now deceased wife. In fact I bought her two, over the course of our short 6 year marriage.

Sorry to say, but from what you've said I don't get a good vibe about this guy.

I never asked for a computer from anyone. Well one thing when somebody insists "what do you want for your birthday?" it is ok to say what you want. But not a computer. From a girlfriend? What kind of guy asks a computer from a woman especially if he has no formal commitment.
Does he not work? And throwing fits how you didn't update your own laptop? Please...

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