[SarahSweden]

Were I live it´s now summer and people spend time having barbeques, having coffee at nice cafées, having picnics and so on. The summer makes me feel more lonely. As I don´t feel that well mentally, I don´t have the faith it´s possible finding new friends and I´m not in the mood for joining clubs and such.

I have one friend but she recently became a mum and I don´t like spend time with her as most of her attention is on the kid. We can´t really have a good talk. I really suffer from my loneliness and I´ve tried for several years to find new friends. I don´t work and by that I don´t have any colleagues either. I feel stuck in life, I was in therapy but was terminated and I´m now looking for a new T.

I also find it quite uninteresting seeing friends at my own age, talk about their jobs and their lives with their boyfriends and stuff. I´m single and don´t want to sit there listen to all their plans, holidays, talking about apartments and so on. I really wish I could find people "like me". I have parents and a brother but they live rather far away from me and I don´t feel moving closer to them would make me feel less lonely. I´m really sad about this, just sitting here watching TV, talking walks and such things. I´m only 30+ years old.

Does anyone feel the same?

[avlady]

when i was in my teens i felt this way, i felt lonely and even liked it when it rained on peoples fun days. i lost my best friend when she died at age 16. from then until late 20s i felt so awful. i wanted everyone else to be as depressed as i am, secretly, but i finally got over it. i went to college, but then was in a car accident a few of them, and i was still able to get over things more quickly because her death was the worst thing i've ever been through and nothing else so far has hurt me as bad as that. i did have other times where i was rejected, by guys, but i got through that too which also made me stronger too. you can get over this you never know what good things may come your way-try to be strong i know its easier said than done but there is something to it.

I'm quite a few years older than you, but I also find it difficult to be friends with people with jobs and busy, "regular" lives. Unless I do meet them through some sort of group (like singing or volunteering) I feel like we don't have much to talk about.

I go to a therapy group that meets weekly where most of the member have both mental health and physical health issues. This group is helpful to me. I haven't made close friends there, but it's good to hear from other people who have life situations similar to mine.

I hope that you find something to help you with your loneliness. Do you like animals? Having a pet/companion animal is helpful to me.

[divine1966]

Could you work at least maybe part time job?

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[Juniebug]

I have two friends and parents that are supportive, but I spend the majority of my time alone in my apartment watching t.v. since I'm unable to work. I marvel at the effortlessness that everyone else seems to conduct their lives with, feeling like a freak because I'm the only one who has mental health issues. I've tried going to a support group, but was too uncomfortable to go back. My dr. wants me to go to therapy, but I don't feel helpable. I've been stuck for a long time now, and I know how exactly how bad you feel.

[Fuzzybear]

[SarahSweden]

I could manage a full time job, if I´d found the right job so to speak. I don´t have any handicap but I´m in need of a good therapist to help me solve some issues that makes me stuck in life.

Originally Posted by divine1966

Could you work at least maybe part time job?

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[~Christina]

I feel your pain. I don't have alot of friends myself. I hope your able to find a helpful T

But, I think you do need to be a bit more accepting of others lives, I mean people are going to talk about what is happening in there lives, yes boy/girlfriends, babies, jobs etc etc .. People have to have something to talk about. What would you like to talk about to any perspective friends?

[Dan208]

I'm "lonely" in the sense that I don't feel like I can talk to anybody about my problems. There are only a few people that know about my mental health issues, but I don't want to burden them by talking about any of it. Lately it's been welling up inside and I feel like I'm going to break any day now.

[SarahSweden]

Thanks. Yes, I agree you have to talk about the things you mention but I don´t get anything out of talking to people that never talks about deeper things in life. I want to share both good and bad things and for me a good friend is the one who supports you in hard times, when you need it the most.

At the moment I have quite a hard time suffering from depression and loneliness and the friend I have gives her support only when it fits into her schedule and life. That´s not friendship.

Originally Posted by ~Christina

I feel your pain. I don't have alot of friends myself. I hope your able to find a helpful T

But, I think you do need to be a bit more accepting of others lives, I mean people are going to talk about what is happening in there lives, yes boy/girlfriends, babies, jobs etc etc .. People have to have something to talk about. What would you like to talk about to any perspective friends?

[SarahSweden]

I feel for you and I can partly relate to what you say. I don´t think it´s a burden to be told about a friends problems, a friend should be helpful in such a situation. I hope you have a therapist you can talk to or that you´ll find one, that can bring much relief to a situation where you feel you´re about to break down.

Originally Posted by Dan208

I'm "lonely" in the sense that I don't feel like I can talk to anybody about my problems. There are only a few people that know about my mental health issues, but I don't want to burden them by talking about any of it. Lately it's been welling up inside and I feel like I'm going to break any day now.

[SarahSweden]

As I don´t feel that well at the moment, I´m depressed and I´m looking for a new T I haven´t looked for groups to join. Almost everything feels impossible, I´ve searched for new friends for a long time now and it hasn´t led to any friendships.

I would like to join a therapy group though but in my case finances stops me, I have to prioritize seeing a T individually and I don´t know about any free therapy groups.

I like animals but I can´t have one because of several practical circumstances.

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

I'm quite a few years older than you, but I also find it difficult to be friends with people with jobs and busy, "regular" lives. Unless I do meet them through some sort of group (like singing or volunteering) I feel like we don't have much to talk about.

I go to a therapy group that meets weekly where most of the member have both mental health and physical health issues. This group is helpful to me. I haven't made close friends there, but it's good to hear from other people who have life situations similar to mine.

I hope that you find something to help you with your loneliness. Do you like animals? Having a pet/companion animal is helpful to me.