What is wrong with me

I just cant take anymore. My bipolar husband is so unloving to me and the kids. Im completely isolated from other adults and have been for so long that Im afraid of any kind of social situation. My self esteem is next to nothing and Im seriously considering living in an rv in our yard to stay away from him and his yelling. Ive been coping by living for myself and the kids but I really need to be loved and cared about too. So, so depressed.

Hello Galetre, you recognise what the problem is. It sounds like you have been in this situation for some time? Finding the strength to do the right thing for you and your children especially when you have low self esteem is difficult but not impossible. Is there anyone you can gain support from during this difficult time? Some difficult decisions to make and time to make some plans?

Sorry, I want to extend an apology on behalf of all BP men...I think it would be best for him to seek help and medication. I am sorry...

Yes, I know I should get away, but Im very scared of him making my 5y.o.s life even more hellish. He does not have any empathy for others and has made so many threats to me about what he would do if I left.Ive just been trying to ride it out as peacefully as possible until my baby is grown to avoid even worse trauma to him.

Thank you. He has tried that route several times, not taken the meds properly,and declared that he doesnt have an issue. I wish he would do something for himself. It is so sad to watch.

I understand you wanting to stay for the sake of the child but your child will not thank you for it. Your husband can make as many threats as he likes but he won't be able to do anything about it if you are separated. Stay strong Galetre! You can do this.

Staying with an abusive person is never healthy for you nor letting your child grow up with all that chaos. Children know more than most people give them credit for. You don't want your child to think that the relationship there parents have is the way it is suppost to be.

Do you have a therapist or someone you can lean on so you can make healthy choices for you and your child.

Him having Bipolar isn't an excuse to be abusive, he needs to take responsibility for his actions, mental illness or not. Sucking human is sucky no matter the reason.

I have Bipolar myself.. Yes I have come off the rails a couple times but I got myself help pronto !

Im sorry. Im just terrified of him. Four years ago he really went crazy, threatened my life. I called the police. He promised to leave the house for the day if I hung up the phone. Dumbest thing I ever did. He went outside. I next saw him walking down the driveway grinning evily. He had called the police on me.I dont know what he told them, but they almost took my son and threw us both in jail. The only reason they did not was bc he really did leave the house for the day. Im just really afraid. I totally believe he would carry out his threats if I tried to leave.

Mmm... So you are staying with him because he is threatening to kill you if you leave or some other abusive threat. You are more in danger in staying with the guy and putting your child at risk. The fact is, it is up to you to make that step out of this. I know its hard and seems scary but ultimately would be the best thing ever for you and your child. Please seek support in your area, you do not need to stay in an abusive relationship.

contact your Doctor , Pdoc or GP and go see them and tell then you are physically scared of him, He threatened your life, You need to get you and your child away from him.

I know a woman he packed one duffle bag and was placed in a domestic abuse shelter. Its not easy to leave but he could easily follow through on that threat.

If you cant leave for you, Then leave for your child's safety.

well it implies that at the core is the BP itself. I was about to comment on the idea that she points out he's BP while I dont' question whether that is true, it doesn't necessarily explain his unloving ways. BP people are perfectly capable of being loving just the same and I wouldn't be quick to jump to the conclusion that this is the problem. Plus she hadn't mentioned whether he has any treatment for it already either.

Quite possibly he's not very loving for any number of reasons. There just isn't enough information here to say what it may be really. Just my 2c.

Please contact a women's shelter if possible and make a plan to escape. If that is not possible, take your child to a doctor or the police and ask for help.

Get away from him now

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